Is it possible you tend to overreact when someone says something bad?It's normal for someone to criticize or insult you.If you are prone to lashing out in anger, cry, or feel upset, you may want to focus on developing a thicker skin.It's not fun to get knocked off balance by casual comments.You can stand strong the next time you are insulted if you learn to look at the bigger picture, have a positive attitude, and build confidence.
Step 1: Don't react before thinking.
The first reaction to a negative comment is probably defensiveness.There might be an urge to run to the bathroom and cry.You may blush or sweat.It puts you in control.It's not possible to control how a comment makes you feel.Let the first wave of emotion wash over you.Wait for it to go away, then let yourself feel it.Don't react until the defensiveness is gone.It is possible to count to ten before you say anything.You can count on it.Count silently if you're with someone else.It's usually enough time to clear your head.
Step 2: There is a separate criticism from insult.
A criticism is usually unrelated to you.Your teacher might tell you that you need to improve your writing.It doesn't imply that there's anything wrong with you when you hear this statement.Constructive criticism is an opportunity to improve.An insult is when someone cuts you down for who you are.It's usually related to something you can't change.While insult is meant to cause pain, criticism serves a positive function.The context of the comment should be taken into account.Did the person who said it mean anything?Was it delivered by a person you respect in a position to critique you, like your teacher, boss or parents?Was the person trying to hurt you?Overreaction is caused by confusing criticism with insult.Being able to separate the two will help you develop a thicker skin at school, work and other places where valid criticism can be given.
Step 3: If you have room for improvement, check it out.
Did the person who criticized you have a point?Maybe the comment was valid.If you know that there is truth in the critique, try to accept it.Accepting criticism with humility may help you improve.It's possible that the critique is incorrect.There is no need to overreact.It is just one person's opinion.It might be helpful to get a second opinion.This can help you determine if you have room for improvement.
Step 4: Look at the big picture.
You can get through the day without getting emotional if you have perspective.When you first receive a criticism, there's nothing wrong with feeling angry, sad or defensive.Emotions should not drag you down for the rest of the day.One comment isn't going to mean much in the larger context of your day, week, month or year.If you can't put it into perspective, just wait until tomorrow.After a day or two, the pain will go away.You should distract yourself in the meantime.Spend time with a friend and watch a movie.
Step 5: To make it positive is what you have to do.
The best way to respond to criticism is to take action.Do something about it if you can't get rid of it.Feelings of accomplishment are replaced with negative feelings.If you received a critical review of a report, consider revising it with the critique in mind.If you don't dwell on the criticism, you can resolve to do better next time.
Step 6: Don't be critical.
Insults are often delivered with the intention of hurting.The insulter is sometimes callous.It can feel like a personal attack when someone makes fun of you.You don't have to take them to heart since they are not constructive.There isn't anything positive to do with the information.Allowing yourself to reject the insult will allow you to see yourself in a different way.If you believe an insult, it can hurt you.It will be easier for you to let it go if you don't see what the person said.If someone calls you unattractive, you can easily reject it if you don't see yourself that way.Try to let the insult go after you feel the pain.It's a barb that can sting for a short time, but it doesn't hold much weight.
Step 7: It's about the other person not you.
People who insult others have their own emotional baggage, personal issues, or personality flaws.You don't tell others what's wrong with them if you're feeling good about yourself.The person who insulted you is the one with the problem.The insult has an emotion behind it.The person who made the comment may be sad, angry, or upset.People with trouble expressing their emotions take out their problems on other people.This information can be used to help you take the insult in a less personal way.It was a disguise for the person's real feelings.
Step 8: See if you have a deeper wound.
You might be the one with confused emotions if you take the least negative comment as an insult.It is difficult to bear callous comments if you have deeper feelings of inadequacy.Being aware of this can help you feel less insulted.Maybe you've been worried about your intelligence since you started a new class.Someone calling you dumb may make you feel more insulted than the person intended.The solution is to work on the feelings of inadequacy that are leading to the tender, sensitive spot.You will be able to let the comments roll off of your back if you feel more confident in your intelligence.
Step 9: Do it nobly.
Resist the urge to counter the insult.It won't make you feel better.Worse feelings will arise if you resort to a counter insult.When you think about the situation later, react in a way that you can be proud of.You have the right to ignore the insult.If that seems like the best solution, just pretend it wasn't said.Try lifting your chin, making eye contact, and telling the person "you're wrong; that's not true."
Step 10: If you have to, protect yourself.
You may need to go further to stop the situation if you're being insulted frequently.Some people enjoy making other people feel pain.If you feel insulted, consider having a face to face confrontation.Tell the person that you don't want them to insult you.It is possible to stop the behavior by just calling the person out.Seek help outside.A one-on-one confrontation may not help if you feel like you're being bullied.If you need help dealing with the situation, talk to your teacher, principal, supervisor, or someone else.
Step 11: Be proud of what you can do.
Negative comments have less power when you feel good about yourself.You can use criticisms to improve.Through empty insults, you can see.Building confidence is the best way to build thicker skin.Do you know your strengths?Make a list of things you like about yourself.When you feel down, having a firm grasp on what you're good at will help.Get good at what you do.Practice, learn, and work to get better.You're good at what you do if you have a core knowledge of it.A insult won't bring you down as much as a criticism.
Step 12: Don't try to be perfect
Every little comment can floor you if you want to be perfect.There are things you need to work on.You can't be good at everything you try.You don't have to lower your standards for yourself.It's important to realize that trying your best is what counts.Being a perfect person may seem like a good thing, but those who allow themselves to fail tend to have thinner skin.Highly critical of themselves are also Perfectionists.Self-criticism can bring on low self-esteem.Challenge yourself to learn something new.Try a new skill, sport, language, or anything else that interests you.It is hard to start from scratch.It will help you realize that there is no way to be perfect.The journey is what counts.
Step 13: Time with people who are positive.
You may be surrounded by people who are critical of you.It's hard to see yourself clearly when you're being held to impossible standards.Spending time with people who accept you for who you are is the solution.After hanging out with certain people, pay attention to how you feel.Are you happy and refreshed?Do you feel worse about yourself?You don't have to worry about being too sensitive with people who accept you for who you are.When you build trust, your friends will love you no matter what.
Step 14: Good self-care can be done.
Self-confidence is hard to come by when you don't take care of yourself.A good self-care routine will help you feel better.Your state of mind will improve, and you will be less likely to be bothered by comments.Exercise and eat healthy.It helps if you've heard it a million times.Make sure you eat a balanced diet and exercise at least 30 minutes a day.Get plenty of sleep.You are more prone to taking things the wrong way if you are tired.You should include meditation or yoga in your daily routine.You can be more accepting of yourself if you do these activities.
Step 15: Seek help from outside.
It's time to talk with a therapist if you can't shake the feeling that people are trying to get you.Depression, anxiety, and other disorders can make it hard to deal with negative vibes.You should make an appointment with a counselor to discuss your situation.Talk therapy can help build self confidence and a thicker skin.It's okay to be sensitive.If you suffer from chronic depression, medication can help.You will need to make an appointment with a Psychiatrist to discuss your situation.