If you want to be more mature in your relationship, that's great!It's important to be emotionally mature in your relationship to make it last.It is easy to do as you might think.Positive changes that will lead to a happier relationship can be made with the right mindset and strategies.We have put together a list of tools and tactics that you can use to do that.
Step 1: It is the only way to experience growth.
To act more mature in your relationship, you need to seek out change that will make it happen.Start thinking about the possibility of change.You will be more accepting of opportunities to act maturely when they appear.You can say something like, "I'm going to try to find a mature solution before I say anything."
Step 2: You need to talk to them about your feelings.
If you feel hurt or upset, talk to your partner honestly and openly.Instead of keeping your emotions bottled up, stay calm and simply express yourself.It will bring you closer to your partner and make you feel better.Say something like, "Hey, I just want you to know that it hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that."
Step 3: Negative criticism and blame tend to follow "You" phrases.
Talk about how your partner makes you feel.It is not a good way to communicate with your partner if you put all of the blame for something on them.Instead of "You never support my dreams", say, "I feel like I'm not being supported right now."
Step 4: It's important to calm things down between you and your partner.
Couples argue from time to time.If an argument gets too emotional or angry, try to bring peace so you and your partner can communicate effectively.Try phrases like "I hear what you're saying" and "What if we"
Step 5: Try to understand what they are feeling.
It is possible to give you more perspective about your relationship by putting yourself in their shoes.Think about how a situation might affect them.They can help inform your decisions.If you are upset that your partner forgot to fill the car up with gas, think about what was going on with them.Maybe they were in a rush to get back to you, or maybe they had a rough day at work.
Step 6: Let them tell you their story.
You are not a mind reader.You can't assume you know what's going on with your partner no matter how long you've been together.Don't just ignore it if they seem like something is bothering them.Ask them if they want to talk to you about what's bothering them, and pay attention to any clues they give you.Trust and understanding are cultivated in your relationship when you encourage your partner to express themselves.
Step 7: There are opportunities to learn.
Honest criticism is a chance to improve.If it comes from a place of love and support, it is a gift to find out the truth about yourself.When you receive criticism, look for the truth and use it as motivation to keep improving.If your partner tells you that by not going to their special events or visiting their family hurts their feelings, don't get defensive or brush them off.Listen to what they have to say.
Step 8: Take responsibility for the things you don't do well.
Everyone makes mistakes.That is okay.Taking ownership of those mistakes is an important part of becoming a more mature person.Accept responsibility for your actions and resolve to change them.If you want to avoid repeating your mistakes in the future, focus on the things you can do to make up for them.If you are upset about a mistake you made at work, don't get angry at your partner or blame others.
Step 9: Words are better than emotional outbursts.
You don't want to shout or get angry when you get upset.Try to talk through your feelings.Use your words in a mature way.If you get it all out, you will feel better.
Step 10: Don't try to control them.
Nobody is perfect, including you and your partner.If they make mistakes or do something that makes you upset, do the mature and responsible thing and support them.If you want them to do the same for you, loving them without argument is more mature than arguing with them every time they do something you don't like.If your partner forgets to pay the phone bill, don't blame them or get angry.It is not a big deal if you tell them you will help figure it out.
Step 11: A healthy relationship has self-care as an important part.
Do one of your hobbies or hang out with your friends.You can enjoy doing things without your partner.It can help build trust in a relationship.If you enjoy playing video games or rock climbing, make sure you set aside some time to do it.
Step 12: They need their own friends and interests.
Allow your partner to spend time with people they enjoy doing things with.Being jealous in a relationship is a sign of immaturity.Allow your partner to have fun without you.They will love, trust, and respect you more.