You may have to ask the girl's father for permission to date her if you know her parents are strict.Your girlfriend may want you to do it to smooth things over with her parents.It can be nerve-racking, but the key is to stay calm and be respectful.Make sure you make a good first impression by building up your confidence.You should be upfront about what you want.
Step 1: Show your interest.
Before you can talk to her father, you need to find out if she's interested in you.If you haven't established that you both like each other, she's probably going to find it hard to trust you.If you don't know how to start a relationship, talk to her.You can strike up a conversation by finding common ground or using the classes.You could say that the test was hard.What do you think about it?To get the conversation going.
Step 2: You need to develop your relationship.
You should begin to develop a friendship once you've started talking.Continue to talk to her.Don't be afraid to give her a compliment if you show interest in what she likes to do."You're really good at math!" could be used.You can discuss the topic of dating or going out when you've spent a lot of time together.I enjoy spending time with you.I like you more than a friend.Would you like to go out with me?
Step 3: Ask for permission.
Bring up the topic of asking her father once you've established that you want to go out with each other.She may have reasons that it is not a good idea, so you need to explain your reasoning and ask her if it's okay.If she thinks it's a good idea, ask her a few questions about her dad, so you'll have a better idea of what to expect.Asking her if he's strict as well as his religious beliefs could help you figure out an approach."I know most parents are not comfortable with their kids dating, so I would really like to talk to your dad about it before we go out," you could say.What do you think about that?I'd be more comfortable asking your dad's permission for us to date if I said so.What do you think about that?It is possible that she brought up the topic of asking her father's permission because she knows what he would want.Since she knows her father better than you do, ask her for tips on how to approach the conversation.
Step 4: You should be prepared for the conversation.
It's important to think about what you're going to say ahead of time.You're going to get tongue-tied if you face your potential girlfriend's dad.Before you get into that situation, you need to think about what you're going to say.It is possible to write out what you want to say and then write down your main points.You don't want to take what you wrote with you when you go, but writing it down can help you work through it.Say something like "Hello, Mr. Vail."I wanted to talk to you about your daughter.I would love to date her.I want you to know that I have nothing but respect for her, even though that could be a problem for you.I will treat her well.
Step 5: Work on your confidence.
You're going to be nervous.You need to seem confident despite your nerves.You will seem more sure of yourself if you have confidence.You don't want to seem arrogant, so make sure to run through your speech several times.You'll be less likely to lose your nerve if you do that.If you think it will help, ask your sibling or parent to go over it with you.Paying attention to your body language can make you seem more confident.Make sure you stand up straight and look him in the eyes.When you shake his hand, do it with strength and confidence, and be sure to smile.Don't be afraid to laugh at a joke he makes.
Step 6: It's a good idea to set up a time to talk.
Introduce yourself to your potential girlfriend's father.Mention your connection to his daughter when you introduce yourself.Ask him if you can talk to him about his daughter.You could say hello to Mr. Vail.I go to school with your daughter, Jessica, and I'm Terry Roberts.I was wondering if I could talk to you about my relationship with your daughter.It's a good idea to let him know ahead of time what you want to talk about.It's possible that you already know her father.It's still a good idea to call and set up a meeting.You will still state who you are and what you want when you do.You could say hello.Terry Roberts is your daughter's friend.We go to school together.I was wondering if I could talk to you about my relationship with your daughter.Set up a time and place if he agrees to the meeting.Since you're asking him a favor, let him pick it out.You can emphasize that you want to meet with him in person if he asks for more information.
Step 7: To impress, wear a dress.
If you show up in clothes with holes or stains, your potential girlfriend's father will not be impressed.You don't have to wear a suit.Some nice pants, a button-up shirt, and a tie would suffice.He'll be more likely to say yes if you dress up like him and his daughter.You're not missing buttons or anything if you make sure everything is ironing.
Step 8: Be on time.
Make sure you are on time when you show up at 4:00 P.M.You don't want to show up much earlier than that, as he may not be ready for you, so being about 10 minutes early is even better.You respect him enough to show up on time.
Step 9: Introduce yourself again.
If you already introduced yourself over the phone, it's a good idea to show up in person.If you want to shake your hand, give your name.It's nice to introduce him to how you know his daughter, as it gives him some context about you."Hello, sir, my name is Terry Roberts," you could say.I go to school with your daughter.Then shake your hand.If you know him, you don't need to introduce yourself, but you should offer your hand to shake.
Step 10: Don't be afraid to give a compliment.
Everyone loves being praised, as long as it's sincere.If you compliment something that's connected to her father, you don't necessarily have to compliment her mother.You can compliment his house or car by saying, "Your house is really amazing."
Step 11: You should be direct.
You don't want to spend a lot of time outdoors.It does take bravery to say that to a potential girlfriend's father, but being direct is a much better approach.Start by saying why you want to talk to him.You could say, "I asked to meet with you because I would like to date your daughter."I respect her and you enough to ask your permission first, even though I don't know you.You can leave out the part about not knowing her father if you know her.
Step 12: Tell him why you want to date him.
If you're still a teenager, be aware that most fathers don't want you to say you love her, even if you are not dating yet.You can say what you want about his daughter so he understands your intentions.You could say, "I'd like to date your daughter because I think she's very smart and funny."I like spending time with her.
Step 13: From his perspective, think about it.
He expects anyone that dates his daughter to treat her well and respect her.To put his mind at ease, you need to let him know that you will treat her well.You could say, "I understand that anyone dating your daughter will need to treat her with respect."I promise to treat her well and not hurt her.She deserves the best from anyone who dates her.
Step 14: Give him time to speak.
You have to give the other person a chance to express their feelings.She needs to let her father voice his concerns.Even if he eventually gives you permission, he will still have something to say.Listen to what he has to say.Making sure you hear what he's saying and not just thinking about what you're going to say next is important.Your body language should show you're listening.Look in the eye and listen to what he has to say.To make sure you hear his concerns correctly, you can summarize what you're saying.You could say, "What I hear you are not sure if you're ready for your daughter to date?"I am completely aware of that concern.
Step 15: They need to work on goals together.
Setting boundaries with your potential girlfriend's father is one way you can help.Once you hear his concerns, try to figure out if you can calm his fears by agreeing to certain terms."I hear what you're saying," you could say.What can I do to make you feel better?I would be willing to compromise.We could go on a date with your supervision, or we could start with group dating.I'm willing to prove to you that I am compatible with your daughter."Permission" means something.You want to know if your potential girlfriend's father approves of you dating her.It's up to him.He can say yes, but you have given him a chance to say no.You have to accept the response if he says no.