There is a conflict between you and another person and now you want to avoid him/her.Minor annoyances to life threatening circumstances are some of the reasons for your disdain.When left to manage conflict in close proximity to someone you don't like, avoidance can prevent future disputes.Managing this in your on-line world, at school, work, and within your family requires practical strategies that can be learned if you don't avoid the call to action.
Step 1: Don't be friends with people on social media channels.
You can remove a person from your list of contacts, fans, and friends on each social media outlet.This will allow you to disengage from the person, but it will also stop them from viewing your posts.If you want to avoid the person, confirm that your security filters are in line.It is possible to close your accounts on social media.There are times when you need to do this.
Step 2: Don't send e-mails.
You can prevent communication from entering your inbox by removing the person from your address book.If the person tries to send you an e-mail, you will be able to monitor it.If you need to gather evidence of something more serious such as stalking, cyber-bully, or harassing, you can always click the deletion button or save the e-mail to a folder.Sometimes a paper trail can be used in a potential law suit.There is evidence that adds merit to a case.
Step 3: Don't text the person.
It is possible to restrain yourself from calling or texting the person.You might be struggling with the urge to connect with them, or you might want to communicate something negative to them.Both calling and texting can lead to unwanted communication that may make the situation worse.
Step 4: Do not respond to calls, texts or e-mails.
It is possible to ignore communication from a person.This could be easy.He or she might be trying to get you to communicate so that they can cause you more harm.Silence is an absolute way to avoid unwanted interaction and maintain a clean slate of communication.
Step 5: Drop the class or switch it.
If you can't maintain composure or you need to get away from the person, then take action.If there are deadlines, there may be penalties for dropping a class.You need to drop the class if the circumstances are severe.Explaining your situation may earn you some sympathy from the administration department.
Step 6: You can talk to the instructor or administrator.
Call, e-mail or ask your instructor for an opportunity to speak as discussions should be held in private.You might need to make an appointment.There may be a need to speak with an administrator.A parent will need to be present if you are under 18.It has become increasingly difficult to be in class with _____ and I need to leave.He/she needs to leave class.Instructors and administrators may attempt to resolve the matter without removing you or the person from class.Make sure your needs are met by sticking up for yourself.You should tell them why you are making the request.
Step 7: You can walk a different path.
There are many paths leading to various destinations on most campuses.The path of least resistance can be found.If you know the travel patterns of this person, then you should take a different route.You need to avoid the person, but it might take a little more time.Turn and walk the other way if you see a person at a distance.
Step 8: Don't make eye contact.
Sometimes you come face-to-face with an individual.Averting your eyes away from the person will prevent additional interaction.Prepare for the unexpected.
Step 9: Tell your friends to help you.
It makes life easier when your friends look out for you.A distraction created by a friend can allow you to slip away.Trust those who say they are willing to help.Talk to someone at a party.I am trying to avoid someone, so I will talk to you right now.You might strike up a conversation with someone you really enjoy if this helps avoid the person.
Step 10: To get out of a situation, use a simple out.
Sometimes you need to pretend to be on the phone or misplace your keys.On the spot, these tactics can be used to avoid the most annoying people.Pull out your phone and pretend to have a conversation if you see someone walking toward you.You can walk away if you turn your back.If you are talking with someone and you want it to end, simply make a gasping noise and make an excuse to leave.I need to find my keys.To remove yourself from an interaction with someone you want to avoid, you created your own out.
Step 11: Positive qualities and learning experiences can be appreciated.
Some people think that people come into our lives to teach us something.We get smarter and more in tune with what we want out of life as a result of each experience.Make a list of what you learned from your experience.Write about the positive things that happened.There is no bad situation.
Step 12: There are jobs that you can switch.
It may be the best choice to avoid someone at work if you don't have the luxury of changing jobs.Circumstances can range from a misunderstanding to a sexual harassment claim.You may need to look at other options if you want to keep your job.All serious allegations should be reported to the human resource department.
Step 13: If you want to be moved to a different area, ask.
If you want to create distance between you and another person, you need to ask.Don't listen or dislike someone.It's likely to raise your stress level and lower your job satisfaction.Be prepared as you will be asked to support your request for a change.Before the meeting, write down your concerns and bring documentation with you.You will not be the last person to request a change in seating arrangements.In any office, this is a common occurrence.
Step 14: Being productive is the focus.
Concentrating on your job and the things you need to do to be productive will help you avoid a person at work.You have the right to a conflict-free work environment.There are people who might misconstrue your words or behaviors.You can use your break time to clean out a desk drawer, get some exercise, or read a magazine.Enjoy your company.Use the time to meditate, practice yoga or write poems, which will help manage your stress.
Step 15: Work around a person's schedule.
Employees are hired to work shifts that vary in length and days worked.You can request a different shift if you are in this situation.You can't change your schedule if you work in a 9:00 to 5:00 work environment.You can observe and work around someone's break schedule.
Step 16: Don't accept invitations.
Don't accept invitations to gatherings that the other person will attend.Depending on the severity of the situation, you don't want to be in an awkward situation.If you want to spend time with your co-workers, arrange your own gatherings.
Step 17: You should always feel comfortable removing yourself from a situation.
It's awful to be stuck in a social situation.You might be afraid of what your co-workers will think of you if your boss is there.Allow yourself to say, "Hey you guys, I have to get going."I have a long drive.Sometimes you excuse yourself to use the restroom and leave without telling anyone.This is also acceptable.The goal is to get away from the person you are trying to avoid.Text someone you trust to let them know you're leaving.If you have been in a conflicting situation with someone, you don't want anyone to worry about you.
Step 18: If there is an interaction, be civil.
You might have to interact with someone on a work matter.The rule of thumb is to remain calm, civil and stick to the task at hand.If the other person tries to provoke you, do not respond.Stay calm until the interaction is over.Congratulate yourself for a job well done.Stay positive.If you come in contact with the person, keep things light and airy.A sense of calm and optimism can be pulled down by the awkwardness of the situation.Positive thinking will guard against being pulled into negative discussions.If you remain positive, no one can take your power away from you.You can give power to the other person by reacting to an agitated remark.You are in charge of your actions.It's an important job.
Step 19: Gain a better perspective.
Keeping things in perspective is important.You can let go of your feelings of upset and relief once you see that there is life after a struggle.It's possible to let it go and rethink your priorities.If you try to let something go and the situation continues to eat at you, you will likely need to process more feelings.
Step 20: The boundaries should be defined.
If you have a conflict with a mother-in-law, a cousin suffering from a drug addiction, or an uncle who is inappropriate with your child, you need to communicate your intentions and expectations as best you can.The decision to avoid this person is supported by problematic interactions.If you live with the person, you could say, "I need you to know that I'm going to distance myself as best I can from this conflict we're having."Keeping a distance between us is the right thing to do.It will be easier to manage if they live at a different address.If you don't call, text, or email, you can sever contact.All interactions should be avoided.
Step 21: Don't attend family gatherings.
Family gatherings can cause heightened levels of stress and conflict.Don't attend if you want to avoid a person who will cause a problem for you.You can plan and hold separate gatherings.If you can avoid overlaps, your loved ones won't have to choose between the two.This will only make things worse between you and the other person.
Step 22: Only supervised contact should be made.
You might have a relative who you don't trust.You might not want to be alone with this person.If you have to interact with the person, always bring along a witness.A paramount concern is safety.
Step 23: Professional help to manage your thoughts and emotions.
You may benefit from talking to a counselor if you are struggling with dealing with this person.You probably have a few psychologists, professional counselors, and psychiatrists in your area.The American Psychological Association has a locator.The American Psychiatric Association's website can be used to find a Psychiatrist.
Step 24: If necessary, seek legal advice.
You might need the help of an attorney if things get out of hand.There are times when it is in your best interest to avoid interacting with someone.Law suits pose one side against the other.Anything you say or do can hurt your case.Your attorney will help you through the process.
Step 25: If needed, file a restraining order.
It is possible that the person you are trying to avoid has serious problems.If you think you are in danger, seek a restraining order against the person.You can call the police if they violate the order.