A healthy family can help you through rough times and encourage you to be your best self.People with healthy and connected families are happier and live longer.To get these benefits, your family has to get along with each other.If you don't know how to stop being mean to your family, it's time to change your behavior and be nicer to everyone.
Step 1: Don't yell or scream.
It is time that you work on changing the behavior of your entire family if it has become normal to lash out by raising your voice.Verbal and physical abuse can include yelling, screaming, berating, hitting, or trying to humiliate someone.If you want to get your opinions and views out without yelling or screaming, talk in a calm voice.Say something like "I really didn't like that you went into my room and read my diary."I want to keep those thoughts to myself.Older family members should set an example.Children are more likely to imitate the behavior of yelling and screaming if you yell and scream more.It doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do if you are a younger person in the family.Talk to your family members.It can make someone angry if they say things like "calm down" or "it's not a big deal".Instead of dismissing their feelings, try to see their point of view.
Step 2: Think about why you dislike them.
When you're in conflict, it's important that you understand your anger and work to reduce it.Being angry can take a physical and mental toll.It could lead to insomnia, high blood pressure, digestion problems, and depression.If you want to come up with solutions and compromises instead of losing your cool, be honest with yourself and think about why you are angry.Think about why you are angry if your parents ask you to raise your grades.Are you angry that your parents are asking you to do something, or are you upset that you are having a hard time in school?They are looking for your best interests in the end.Let the feelings of entitlement go.Don't think about things like "It's not fair" or not getting your way.It will make you angry.To come off friendly or polite, do not hold back your feelings or emotions.It could come up at a later time if you don't speak up or suppress your anger.
Step 3: You can channel your energy into something.
Your brain makes you happy when you engage in physical activity.It may be because of a lack of physical activity that you get mad frequently.You can join a local sports team or take up a hobby that involves exercise.If you are a child or teen, you can join a sports team at your school.Hiking, mountain climbing, biking, or going on a jog are some hobbies you can pick up if you are older.It will allow you to appreciate your family more if you are heavily involved in a hobby or sport.
Step 4: As you would want to be treated, treat your family members the same way.
In many religions and cultures, treating others as you would want to be treated is a common expression.Think back to a time when people were mean, disrespectful, or tried to humiliate you, and try to re-live the emotions that you felt.This will help you understand how your family feels when you are mean to them.Think about a time when someone made fun of you at school.You are likely to be humiliated, embarrassed, and depressed.This is how your family members feel when you yell or scream at them.People who treat others poorly are more likely to treat you the same way.
Step 5: You should consider all of the things they do for you.
It's hard to break away from the mindset of resentment towards people in your family if you have negative thoughts about them.Think of times in the past when they sacrificed to make you happy or when you all enjoyed each other's company instead of focusing on the negative moments.Think about what your parents provide for you if you're a teenager.If you are a parent, think about how happy you were when you first had them.Imagine how you would feel if you lost a family member.This could make you appreciate them more.
Step 6: Do things without being asked.
If you are a child or teen, you have to help your parents or older siblings with chores like taking out the garbage or cleaning the dishes.You can make a positive environment for your family as an adult.You can make improvements to the house, prepare a meal, or buy flowers to lighten up the mood.Stress and tension can be created by cluttered environments.Do things around the house to make your family feel better.
Step 7: Purchase a gift.
Surprise gifts can lift a person's spirits and make them happy.Buy something that they enjoy or something they told you they wanted.A gift with sentimental value will remind a person that you care.Chocolate, flowers, a new video game, or an instrument are some of the gift ideas.You can make a card, write a note, paint something, or pick a flower if you don't have any money.
Step 8: If you're wrong, apologize.
It's important to apologize when you realize you've done something wrong.If you hurt someone, approach them and say you're sorry.Don't think about whether the act is justified or not.Focus on how your actions made the other person feel.Don't place the blame on others and take personal responsibility for your actions.You can apologize for forgetting to let the dog out.I'll try not to do it again.
Step 9: Through rough times, support them.
Everyone goes through tough times.Your family is one of the best places to get support.Consider how your family member feels and why they feel that way.Don't push the issue, but give whatever support you can.Whenever they are ready to talk, make them know that you're there for them.If you are an adult, don't say things like "get over it" to younger family members.The issue may seem trivial to you, but it could be causing a lot of stress.If you are a child or teen, you can support older family members through rough times by helping out around the house and doing nice things for them.If your parents are working a lot or someone in your family is sick, be on your best behavior.Make sure to be there for a younger family member.
Step 10: Being open, honest, and polite is what you have to do.
People in happy families have good communication.Being open, honest, and polite to one another is what this begins with.You can better get to know each other by talking about how your day went.If you don't like something they do, tell them.The more you communicate, the less you have to guess what they are thinking.Say "Hey how was your day?"When you get home.You can say something like, "Jimmy, I know that you like to play games, but you need to limit it to three hours a day."It's not good for you to cut into your homework time.If you have done something wrong, tell your parents the truth.The consequences may be worse if you don't tell them.
Step 11: Listen without interruption.
Hearing someone out and listening to their problems strengthens your relationship.Many people don't know how to truly listen to someone else.Active listening involves giving them time to talk, acknowledging their problems and emotions, and trying to offer meaningful feedback.Sometimes silence is the best way to get someone to admit their mistakes.People work problems out when they explain something.Don't judge someone when they confess something to you.They will not be open and honest in the future.
Step 12: You should walk away when you are angry.
Once you have regained your composure, it is a good idea to talk to them.One of the best ways to avoid arguments is to disengage from conversations that make you angry.Tell them that you will talk to them later in a non-confrontational way.You will have time to think about the situation.I need to cool down right now, but I want to talk about this later.Do you mind if we talk about it in an hour?Once you calm down, revisit the point of the conflict.If you don't completely avoid it, resentment could grow.
Step 13: Don't be rude.
Rules and regulations should be followed when you are a child or teen.People with more life experience know more about a situation than you do.Many parents will get angry when they hear a snide, sarcastic, or angry tone.Children and teens should learn from older people's mistakes and try to absorb as much information as they can.Speaking negatively will hurt you in the long run.
Step 14: Understand their point of view.
If you are a teen or child, you should know that much of what your older family members do is in your best interests even if it doesn't seem obvious at first.They want to keep you safe, happy, and successful, so they may force you to do things you don't like.Set guidelines for younger family members, but also try to relate with them as an adult.You don't have to be their best friend, but you should know that they have a similar emotional range.If an issue seems silly to you, fear, depression, anxiety, and anger are all emotions a younger family member could feel.