If you're not familiar with the way introverts work, it can be hard to date one.They may not like large group settings and be a little more reserved.There are many forms of body language, communication and observation you can use to foster a successful relationship.
Step 1: You shouldn't be in larger groups.
If you aren't surrounded by your friends, you're more likely to respond to your advances.If they are already acquaintances of yours, you can ask them to go on a walk or accompany you on an errand, which will give you time to show your interest in a more intimate setting.If you don't know them very well, try to approach them by themselves.
Step 2: Ask their opinion.
Personal information is often not offered without prompting.Bring up a topic that they are interested in, or that you really care about.Chances are good that they will open up when they are given a chance to ask a few questions.Don't worry, you can draw them out of their shell.It takes a long time to find a compatible person.Try another day with a different topic.
Step 3: Body language can show your interest.
Introverts won't make the first move because they will be busy over- thinking the situation or weighing-in other factors.You can make your intentions clear by using the right body language.If you can, try to catch their eye in a group conversation when neither of you are speaking.You intend to pay attention to them specifically, and this shows that you are not just making small talk.Touch their upper arm or knee during one-on-one conversations.You will see that you are fully engaged in what they have to say and aware of their physical presence.When you approach them in a crowded place, grab their shoulder or upper back with your hand.This will show that your focus is trained on them, and will ground them in an otherwise chaotic environment.
Step 4: Start a conversation.
If you have something in common with an introvert, they will respond quicker to your advances.If you jump straight to the heart of the matter, you can discover what you both have in common.Find out where they hang out.Ask your friends if they have friends in common.This way, you will have something to talk about with your introvert.Don't pretend to be interested in something just because they are.If you are faking interest in something because you think it will make them like you, they will smell a rat.
Step 5: Do some quiet activities together.
An insturment needs to re-charge their social energy a lot.If you want to spend time with your partner or potential partner, you may need to separate your activities.A good example of this is watching a movie.You can spend quality time with each other.Discuss the movie when it's over.
Step 6: During long periods of socializing, give your partner alone time.
Every so often, your partner will need to slip away from a party or group setting.A ten-minute break from large gatherings, public spaces, or rambunctious activities will be enough for an introvert to bounce back into action.Don't interrupt their time.They will come back when they are ready.
Step 7: Attend smaller functions.
Instead of a large dinner party, invite one or two other friends over to your house.Introverts thrive in one-on-one settings and small gatherings, which give them a chance to make personal connections and be heard over the din of other people.
Step 8: Avoid crowded places.
When faced with bustling environments, encoverts can become over-stimulated.They are trying to cope with external stimuli, rather than being able to focus solely on you.If you notice that your introvert is making less eye contact, gazing into the distance, or not responding in group discussions, ask them if they want a break.You will both have a better time if they take the opportunity to replenish.
Step 9: An insturment is involved in a group discussion.
In group discussions or functions, introverts tend to space out.Asking them a question will bring them back into the group.You want them to feel included, and they will appreciate your directness.
Step 10: Don't ask "yes" or "no" answers.
Try to get the person to open up a little with questions that begin: "how do you feel about...," "Why do...?" or "what do..."Some people are animated with certain people, while others are not.If someone repeatedly answers your questions with a simple "yes" or "no", take it as a cue to give them some space.
Step 11: Look at their facial expressions and body language.
Some people will not say what they are thinking.If they don't tell you how they're feeling, you'll need to be careful.A small smile is a positive sign.A forced smile is a sign to back off.They may not want to talk to anyone if their arms are folded across their chest.They are focused on you and feel engaged if they mirror yours.
Step 12: Don't compliment too much.
A lot of attention is drawn to a person's body and personality when they compliment someone.Take it easy and say what feels natural, instead of being forced or expected to compliment your date.I could spend a thousand hours staring into your eyes if I said that.
Step 13: Talk about depth and breadth.
verts hate small talk, and will react much more positively to a conversation that has a personal connection to them.Rather than discussing the whole week's weather, tell them what the thunder storm last night reminded you of.They will open up more if you offer a specific and meaningful conversation starter, so don't be afraid to range over a topic or two.