Do people from the East Coast get irritated by the passive aggressiveness of people from West Coast cities like San Francisco Portland Seattle or Vancouver

Do people from the East Coast get irritated by the passive aggressiveness of people from West Coast cities like San Francisco Portland Seattle or Vancouver

You have not experienced true passive-aggressiveness until you’ve spent some quality time in my home state of Hawaii.They it to a whole new level.I think I can answer this question though, because I went to college in upstate New York, and moved to the Northeast permanently when I was 24.

I have now spent over half my life here.(Yes, I’m officially an Old.)It took a considerable amount of time to get used to, but I came to appreciate Northeasterners’ directness, and their unwillingness to beat around the bush.

I used to find it shocking, and quite rude when I first went away to college.I mean, these people just say whatever they’re thinking?(What the what??)

Confrontation of any kind and telling people what you really think are serious social faux pas in Hawaii, and to a lesser extent, that seems to be true in some parts of the West Coast.I tend to subconsciously code-switch back into more “Localized” behavior when visiting Hawaii, so I wouldn’t say that I find it irritating exactly.I do breathe more easily when I get back East, though.

I feel like I’m constantly having to watch my every word and gesture when “back home”, and I don’t have that same feeling of constraint when I’m here.I can see it getting frustrating for Northeasterners sometimes, particularly if they’re from the New York area.The place is notoriously fast-paced, and the assumption is that everyone has limited time or energy to deal with your ____.

Wasting other people’s time is considered rude here.So for example, getting to the point quickly, and being direct when you do, are considered more polite than beating around the bush or ghosting/being non-committal when you really want to say “no”.Also, the latter would be considered a bit deceptive, and would give NE’ers the impression that your word can’t really be trusted.

I do think there’s been enough cross-pollination between the Coasts in the last 30+ years that these differences should not come as a surprise to anyone visiting from the East Coast, though.Unless someone is really jerking them around ad nauseum, my advice would be to just let it go and take our regional differences in stride.

I’m from the east coast and consider myself passive aggressive I will not put myself in any position that will stress me out in any fashion as life is to short to be fed up.

For the most part I feel some people would find it barbaric to be so passive because that’s not how they grew up and its a different view seeing that.