Whether it was your decision or the other person's, ending a relationship is not easy.If you are dealing with painful emotions, you want to deal with them as soon as possible.Writing about your feelings, allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships are some ways that you can work through your painful emotions.It can take time and patience to get over a break up.You can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support if things don't improve with time.
Step 1: Keep an eye on your distance.
If you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break up immediately.Not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, and no text messages is what this means.If you want to get over your ex, you need to cut all communication for as long as it takes.Ask yourself what the point of seeing him/her is if he/she tries to convince you.It's easy to get caught up in the moment if you're reliving the past.You may have to have some contact in order to deal with practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.
Step 2: You can organize your space.
A break up can be a sign of a new beginning.You will feel refreshed and prepared for the new things when you clean and organize your space.A mess can make you feel depressed and overwhelming.Keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but it does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain.Get some new posters and clean up your PC desktop.It will make you feel better.
Step 3: There are painful memorytriggers that should be removed.
There are a lot of things that remind you of your ex.It can be hard to recover from a break up if you have these items around.Remove the things that make you feel unwell.It is possible to clear your space of all these Triggers.There is nothing wrong with keeping a piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex.Try to put it away until you get over the relationship.
Step 4: You should get out and do things.
It's okay to have some time to yourself after a relationship ends.Make sure you get back out in the world after you have processed your feelings.Go out with your friends and have fun.It will get easier as time goes on and it will help you to feel better.You need to grow and maintain your social network after a break up if you want to get out and do things.You will be able to move on with your life if you do that.It's not necessary to go out with other people all of the time.Enjoy the freedom to do what you want.You can go to your favorite coffee shop, go shopping, or take yourself on a mini-vacation.
Step 5: Referring to a relationship as a rebound relationship is a good idea.
A rebound relationship is when people enter a new relationship after a break up.It is not always a good idea to rebound.If you enter into a relationship too soon after breaking up with someone, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship.If the new relationship doesn't work out, you may have to deal with the pain of two previous relationships at the same time.If you haven't processed your emotions yet, consider remaining single.
Step 6: Continue to care for yourself.
It is common for people to put less effort into self-care after a break up.You need to see to your basic needs for mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.If you weren't taking care of yourself before the relationship ended, now is a good time to start.Make sure you eat well, sleep well and get regular exercise to feel your best.A balanced diet includes a lot of fresh fruits and vegetables.Junk food, excess sugar, and excess fat can be avoided.You should get between 7 and 8 hours of sleep per night.Some people may be okay with less than 7 hours of sleep per night.You should exercise for 30 minutes five times a week.Go for a walk, ride your bike, or swim in the pool.Relax for at least 15 minutes a day.Try meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga to relax.
Step 7: You should know that the pain you are experiencing is normal.
It is normal to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions after a break up.It is possible that you will end up alone or not be happy again.You need to feel these emotions in order to move on after a break up, so just remind yourself that.
Step 8: It is a good idea to take a break from your usual routine.
It may be necessary for you to take a break after a relationship ends.This time may help you process your feelings and function better in the long run.Make sure you don't do anything that threatens your other relationships or livelihood.You can skip an exercise class for a week, but you can't skip work.If you need to cancel plans while you recover, use good judgement and explain your situation to your friends.
Step 9: Allow yourself to grieve the loss.
A big hole in your heart can be caused by the end of a relationship.Give yourself permission to grieve and experience the pain that comes with it.It may take longer for you to feel better.If you need to get your negative emotions out, let yourself cry, scream, or whatever you have to do.It is possible to set a daily time limit for grieving the loss of a relationship.Having a set amount of time to deal with these emotions will allow you to vent and prevent you from dwelling on your emotions.
Step 10: You should surround yourself with supportive people.
People who love you and help you feel good about yourself are what you want.You will see yourself as a worthwhile person if you surround yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family.If you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, ask your friends and family for help.
Step 11: There are ways to soothe emotional pain.
If you want to ignore or dull your pain, turn to alcohol, drugs, or food, but these will not provide long-term solutions.These methods of dealing with emotional pain are not good for you.Try to find ways of dealing with your emotions that will lead to growth and recovery.While you recover from a break-up, try to take up a new hobby.You can join a club or take a class.A hobby will help you to feel better about yourself, distract you from your pain, and build up your self-esteem.
Step 12: If the pain becomes too much, consider talking to a therapist.
It is not possible for everyone to recover from a break up on their own.If you think you might be depressed because of the break up, get help from a mental health professional as soon as possible.
Step 13: It's a good time to reflect on your relationship.
Take a look at all of the reasons that you and your ex broke up.Even if you enjoyed being together for a while, something wasn't working.You can understand why you need to move on if you think about the reasons the relationship ended.If you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship, you may be able to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.Did I contribute to the end of the relationship?What did I do?I don't know if I choose the same type of people to date.What do they like?Is they good for me?Why not?Is there a similar problem in other relationships?What is causing these problems?What can I do differently in the future?
Step 14: Write down your feelings.
Write in a journal.Don't edit yourself as you go and be honest.Sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you when you are pouring it all out onto paper.It will be easier to understand life lessons from the whole experience as patterns become clearer.Write down your feelings for a day or two until you feel better.If you start your journal entries with "It has been days since we broke up and I feel _____", you can give more detail about how you are feeling.You can use this prompt to see the progress of your emotions over time and process some of them as well.If you want to write a letter to your ex, send it.It helps if you can get all of your feelings out.Sending it is not a good idea.If you want to be done with the letter, write out everything you wish you could have said.Pretend you are telling them how you feel for the last time, because it doesn't work.Write a story.Document your relationship with this person from the beginning to the end.It will give you a broader perspective, even though it may be very painful.Write "The End" when you're done with the final chapter.
Step 15: Use your anger to your advantage.
Feelings of anger occur when we feel we have been treated unfairly.The best way to deal with anger is to relax.Allow your muscles to relax by taking deep breaths.Soft music can help.
Step 16: Don't change your decision.
It's important to remember that focusing on the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget why you broke it off.If the decision to end things was not yours, try not to second-guess it.It's common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship and convince yourself that the bad parts weren't bad at all.Do not play this game with yourself.Accept the situation and move forward.
Step 17: It is a good idea to remind yourself of your ex's negative traits.
You can get over the break up faster if you focus on the things that you don't like about your ex.Make a list of the things your ex did that you didn't like.Maybe your ex burped loudly after dinner, forgot your birthday, or made plans without you.There are a lot of things that bothered you about your ex.
Step 18: If you don't have an ex, you are better off.
You can benefit from reminding yourself of the positives of your break up, as well as thinking about the negatives.There are many reasons why you are better off without your ex.If your ex discouraged you from eating healthy, you now feel more confident to follow a healthy diet and take better care of yourself.You have the freedom to do what you want now that your ex doesn't want to.There are many reasons why you are better off without your ex.