Losing a friend is hard.If your friend abandons you for the popular crowd, you're most likely left feeling betrayed and not good enough.Some friends are not meant to last forever.Similar to breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, there are a lot of scenarios and ways to deal with it.Sometimes things can be solved and other times you have to move on and start over.
Step 1: Make sure your friend is leaving you for the crowd.
Your friend is getting to know these people.Wait to see what your friend is doing when you are with your friends.Your friend may decide that they don't want to be friends with them once they get to know this popular group.
Step 2: Give your friend some time.
After being apart from you for a while, your friend may realize that he or she misses you.There is some space between you and your friend.Make plans with your friends.Take your time with something you enjoy doing.We don't realize what we have until it's gone.Spending time apart can be good for the relationship.This is a good time to branch out and find new friends.
Step 3: Speak to your friend.
Ask your friend if he or she wants to remain friends.Why did he or she abandon your friendship for the friendship of others?Maybe your friend didn't know how much you valued their friendship.Maybe there is a reason why he or she went to the popular crowd.You will have a sense of closure because you tried to save the friendship.
Step 4: When is enough enough?
It will be obvious when the friendship is over.Don't try to make something disappear.You need to move on.
Step 5: Tell your ex-friend about it.
If you find that your old friend is making fun of you, or insulting you with his or her new friends, you must stand up for yourself.You don't deserve to be hurt or belittled.Find a time when he or she isn't around the group.You should confront your old friend one-on-one.Tell your friend why you feel that way.Ask your old friend not to say bad things about you.People don't realize how their words and actions affect others.You can say something like, "I understand that you have chosen a new group of friends, but please do not insult me or talk poorly about me behind my back anymore."
Step 6: Seek assistance from an adult.
If the insults continue, you may need the help of an adult, such as a principal, teacher, guidance counselor, or parent.Kids and teenagers can be mean.An adult can help you.
Step 7: Ignore your old friend and his or her new friends.
People who put others down are self-conscious.Allow the negative comments to go in one ear and out the other.Don't even pay attention to what is being said because it is not true.You are a better person than the people who make fun of you.Negative actions and words will make them look bad in the end.
Step 8: Give yourself time to heal.
It's very painful to end a friendship where the reason might be unclear.Don't be aggressive with yourself.Your heart needs time to heal after a break up.Time is the best healer.
Step 9: It's time to cry it out.
It won't work in the end.You have to let it go.Crying is the best way to release negative feelings.Cry into a pillow or shoulder of a friend.
Step 10: With a new set of eyes, look back at the friendship.
Was the friend that left you really a good friend?We can be blind to the obvious.Look back and see if there were any red flags that you missed.A good friend wouldn't abandon a friendship just to be popular.A good friend wouldn't hurt a friend.A good friend will make you feel good.
Step 11: Stay out of the way.
Don't force your friends to pick sides.There will be more tension and drama in your life if you do that.The friends that continue to be a good friend to you are the ones that are worth keeping around.
Step 12: You can learn from this tragedy.
You should look into the people with whom you decide to befriend.The best friends aren't shallow or selfish.Quality friends are more important than a lot of friends.
Step 13: You should put yourself back on the market.
It is possible to make a new friend.A friendly and positive attitude will attract others to you.
Step 14: Introduce yourself to someone new.
Start a conversation with someone you know in class.Ask someone you haven't worked with before to be your partner.Say hello to the person next to your locker.Someone you never paid attention to before could be your new friend.
Step 15: Don't use your devices.
If you want to focus on who is around you instead of what is on your phone, tablet, or computer, you should.Make eye contact with people around you.It's a good idea to simply say hello and smile.
Step 16: There is a new class, club, sport, or organization.
It is possible to meet new people and people who share similar interests by taking part in a new activity.Maybe you should pick something that interests you: marine biology, art, volleyball, or debate.At the next available time, sign up for the class, club, sport, or organization.You will have at least one thing in common with other members of the group.