It can be difficult for parents to watch their child grow up.It seems like they go from cute little babies to grown ups so quickly.Preparing both of you for each new life stage is part of dealing with your child growing up.Holding on tight and letting go is how your child can become their own person.
Step 1: Even though you are sad and anxious, keep a positive attitude.
Positive attitudes towards your child's growing up is important.Think about what your child has learned and be proud of it, just as you were when you learned to sleep alone.Try to appreciate your child's growing abilities, such as going to school alone, finishing their homework without your help, and making their own decisions.If your child is growing up, instead of mourning, be proud of them, because you have helped them grow into the child you are.
Step 2: Before your child goes to school, allow them to play on their own.
It's hard to control the desire to hover over your child to protect them.The first challenge for parents and children is to let them play alone in the yard.Let your child know what is allowed and what isn't.Allow them to play, but watch and react.You can take a step back when you see that your child respects the agreement and behaves the way you expect.
Step 3: Make sure your child knows what to expect at school.
Prepare them for the daily routines, the expectations, and the fun and fears that come with going to school.You will be preparing to let them go.Find common solutions to their doubts and fears by asking them.This will remind you that your child still needs you.Tell your child what to expect in school.Get up early, pack a lunch, and drive your child to school.Show them the location of their classroom.When the day finally comes, this will help you feel prepared.
Step 4: Something positive will fill the void in your schedule.
Even though you will still be busy, you may feel like you don't have time for your child at school.It will ease the transition and benefit you and your child in the long run if you fill that gap with something gratifying.It's a good time to take up a new hobby if you haven't gained any new time by your child heading off to school.It's a great time to improve yourself, expand your horizon, or try something you've always wanted to do, because this time feels like a new phase in your life.There are lots of opportunities to volunteer and be involved with your child's school.This can help establish a new bond with your child.Don't use these opportunities to "hovering" over your child.You have to let go at this age.
Step 5: Discuss the changes your child is going to go through with you.
When you notice the physical changes in your child's body, it becomes evident that they are growing up.Help guide your child into this transition by using your experience and compassion.The physical changes that occur at this time are caused by the hormonal changes in the body.Changes in the body are brought about by hormones.These changes are accompanied by emotional and mental changes.When the physical changes begin, be open to answering questions.Before adolescence sets in, it is best to discuss the physical changes.Tell them that the changes are normal and part of growing up.Don't be afraid to answer all questions directly.Many schools conduct special sessions for children when they reach adolescence, but don't rely on them alone.If you combine school- learning on body changes with your own perspective, you can better prepare your child for the changes and encourage them to confide in you.
Step 6: Prepare for the ups and downs of this stage in your child's life.
The brain is affected by the hormonal changes your child is going through.Their interests, wants, and needs will change.During this phase, you can almost guarantee an increase in moodiness.They may not want to talk to you about their day.They may demand that you listen to them immediately the next day.Just listen.They will let you know if they need your help.Even if your child acts like a brat, they love you.The hormones in their body can cause mood swings.If your child bites your head off at a provocation, it does not mean that they don't love you.
Step 7: Support your child by showing them that you love them.
Give your child the support they need to try something new.Give them your support when they succeed and fail.Take part in their growing process and emphasize your ongoing role as a parent.Remember that your child is also being affected by their moods, even if they wreak havoc on your nerves.They need your support as they cope with the changes and try to develop their individual personality.Express yourself clearly to your child, no matter what the issue is.You will always be there to support them if you tell them that you love them.They will look for an anchor during a crisis.A child's brain is not fully developed until they are in their twenties.The emotional immaturity that frustrates parents can be caused by incomplete brain development.
Step 8: Establish boundaries when accepting new relationships.
Children begin to experience a new set of social experiences when they observe the changes in their bodies.The emergence of romantic interests may manifest itself through new friends.Communication lines should be kept open.When you accept your child's choices and friends, they'll be less likely to shy away from you and open up about their life.It's time for your child to start hanging out with new friends.Teens feel secure when they are in a group.They may want to join a group of friends because they haven't developed their own unique identity.Stay connected and spend time with each other.Have dinner and chat.You would like to be a friend.Children of this age tend to engage in risky behavior, so you need to set limits.There are clear borders between good and bad behavior.
Step 9: Understand that your child won't need you as much as you do.
This is the time when your child will want to be their own person.They will spend more time with their friends than with you.Don't give your child too much space, but be with them when they need you.Give them time to solve their own problems.They won't be able to deal with life's important issues if you solve all their problems for them.This is a good time to discuss money issues.Their allowance doesn't cover their desire to go out with friends to eat and watch movies.Discuss your household budget in a mature manner, and perhaps even help them find ways to make a little cash on the side.They can build self-esteem and independence by earning their own money.
Step 10: Take care of your own stress.
Raising a child of any age is not easy, but raising a teen is.Don't forget to manage your own stress while working to help them deal with their stress about the changes and challenges facing them.You will not be able to care for them if you don't take care of yourself.Make a point to focus on getting sufficient sleep, eating properly, exercising regularly, finding time to relax, seek out enjoyable activities, and embracing the support of a spouse, sibling, friend, etc.The stress you feel is addressed.Your child is watching you and learning from your example, even when they are a new teenager who seems intent on denying your existence.Show them that taking care of one's mind and body is important.
Step 11: Understand the concept of empty nest syndrome
When your child is moving out, you may think that you will be excited to have more time to yourself, but you end up feeling sad and adrift.It's difficult to let go when you know your child is ready.Your child no longer needs your help on a day-to-day basis, so first acknowledge to yourself that.You won't be aware of all the nuances of their life because they may not prefer your company as much.It is normal to feel upset.Understand the changes that are taking place in your adult child's life as a mature parent.Your child loves you and does not mean to be mean.It is normal to feel a sense of loss at this time, even if you are still able to see your child regularly.Don't deny or ignore these feelings, they are part of the parenting process.It will be difficult to let them out of your grasp because you have devoted your life to protecting and nurturing this child.
Step 12: Make time for each other.
It doesn't mean that your child is gone from your life forever.They may need you more than ever.Whether it's important dates or casual moments, make the most of them.Today's technology allows you to be in constant contact with your child, either on the phone or over the internet.Stay in touch with them as an adult.Don't call every day, or you may be alienating your child.They are trying to figure out how to navigate life as an adult.When they want to talk or meet, make yourself available.As your adult child's life gets busier, don't miss out on these opportunities, because you never know how often they will come again.
Step 13: Don't let go.
Don't try to protect your adult child from harm.They should be given the freedom to make their own mistakes.Mistakes and experiences are what we learn best from.Don't jump to the rescue.When asked for advice, more often than not it is simply sympathy and understanding.You try to solve life's problems for your adult child.When your advice is ignored, you have to accept it as part of your child's process of living and learning.If you wanted your child to pursue a different career, support it.Don't try to fulfill your dreams with your child.The child becomes more confident when a career is pursued with passion.
Step 14: Get moving and do something.
When your child was at home, do things you weren't able to do.Giving your child all of your attention and having little time for yourself is what it takes to be a good parent.It's a good idea to spend more time focusing on yourself because your child has grown up.When you had a child at home, you didn't have a lot of time for hobbies.If this brings you joy, dedicate yourself to exercising and overall health, or devote greater attention to your career.Have time to hang out with your friends.Through discussion and exchange of experiences, you can compensate for loneliness.Do things you enjoy doing.You will always be a parent, but never forget that you are a unique individual as well.Did you have any dreams or ambitions before your child was born?This is a good time to start thinking about it.You won't be at a loss when your child leaves home when you make a conscious effort to move ahead with your life after they have grown up."Empty nest syndrome" is difficult to deal with, but it becomes easier if you have a purpose in your life.