Asking a guy to hang out can seem intimidating, but it doesn't have to be.Hanging out and meeting new guys is a lot of fun.By planning a casual event and being confident as you ask him to hang out with you, you can easily get to know him better.
Step 1: Both of you enjoy doing something.
If you're already talking to the guy you want to hang out with, ask him about his interests.If you know what he does for extracurriculars or hobbies, you can incorporate them into your hangout.If he likes sports, go bowling or play a game.If he likes reading, go to a library or bookstore.You can open your mind to new experiences if you aren't interested in his hobbies.You may find that you enjoy it more than you thought.
Step 2: You can ask him in person.
Stay relaxed and confident as you approach him, find a private time where you aren't surrounded by other coworkers or students.He will give you an immediate response to the offer if you speak to him directly.When you run into one another, ask him after class.
Step 3: If you can't do it in person, text him.
Use a messaging app to send a message.Ask him if he would be interested in hanging out with an open-ended question to gauge his interest, or send a message with a specific time and date so he can easily answer yes or no.If you are embarrassed to ask him while other people are around, you can send a text message.If you send him messages like "Do you want to go get a coffee sometime?" or "Would you like to come bowling with me this Saturday?" he will see that you are interested in bonding with him.
Step 4: Asking an open-ended question will gauge his interest.
This will tell you if he wants to hang out with you in the future.If he says yes, you have to ask when he is free so you can work out the details.Ask him questions like, "Would you like to get coffee sometime?" or "We should get together outside of class/work soon." This adds more specificity and
Step 5: To make his decision easier, tell him what you want to do.
Explaining the plans you want to do with him should be as detailed as possible.Mention times and days that you want to hang out with him.Ask "Do you want to grab something to eat for dinner this Friday?" or "There's a concert next Monday at 7."Ask if you want to come with you.Asking a guy if he is free on a specific day without mentioning what you plan on doing makes it hard for him to decide.
Step 6: Put no pressure on him to say yes.
He can make a yes or no decision without feeling guilty if you casually invite him.Pressuring a guy to hang out could be seen as desperate.Don't use phrases like, "It would mean the world to me if you came," or "I'll be sad if I say no." Instead, use a confident tone that shows you care, but be understanding if he cannot make it.
Step 7: Accept the rejection.
You understand what he is going through by listening to the reason he says no.He may be busy in his life.He may feel guilty if he looks sad in front of him.Tell him you could try another time to keep the option open.If you try to get him to hang out multiple times, he may not be interested or too busy, and you should move on.Let him initiate the conversation if he wants to hang out again.
Step 8: Asking him to hang out is a good way to use casual, non-flirty language.
Don't try to get him to hang out in a cute way.Since this could be read the wrong way, be direct with what you want to do while you hang out.He knows what you want to do and you are not flirting with him if you ask him about it.
Step 9: If you don't want to send the wrong message, invite your friends.
To do a large event, talk to a group of friends.This will make it easier to hang out together.He might be more open to hanging out with a group if he is shy.To figure out everyone's schedule, use a group text or message.Talk to the guy you want to hang out with in person as well as through the group chat.You can go out to dinner or play board games together.This will allow you to have fun.
Step 10: There is a public place where you can do something casual.
You can find coffee shops and public events in your area using Facebook.If you are hanging out with him for the first time, you should find a place where you can have a conversation and get to know each other better.It is not a place where you can talk while watching a movie.You should check with your local museums to see if they have any specials or free days.If you are only looking to be friends, hanging out at your home may be a bad idea.
Step 11: If he does not get the hint, tell him that you don't want it to be a date.
If the guy still thinks he is on a date, let him know in a way that will not hurt his feelings.Direct with him so he knows what's going on.He doesn't feel upset if he uses phrases like "I'm just looking to be friends"