You don't know how to approach someone you fancy at school or work.Are you tired of being set up by your friends and want to try an online dating agency?Asking someone out online is a great idea if you're too busy or shy to look for the right person.Modern technologies allow you to socialize while avoiding the awkwardness of physical contact.This doesn't make things any easier.The rules of conduct increase your chances of success.If you want to take someone out in the real world, chatting through a screen is not enough.
Step 1: You can hang out with someone you like.
You may know this person from real life even if the internet is your preferred method of contact.They might be a person from your office or school.Getting to know them in real life can give you a rough idea of who they are and what they like to do.Take advantage of your friends.If you know some of their friends, hang out more often with them.Getting to know their friends will give you a better idea of what kind of person they are.The most casual approach would work if you barely know your date or any of their friends.As you pass by your neighbor's house, you can exchange a few jokes with them to get a sense of what they're like.
Step 2: You can befriend them on a social network.
You can request their friendship on a social network you both use once you've established a very shallow level of connection.You won't look like a stalker if you already know this person.If the user has a loose connection with the person, they will usually accept any request.You can use other services.Social networks are designed to help people socialize, so they are the best way to go.Instead, messaging applications are meant to help people communicate: this will give away your long-term goal, which is approaching this person with a specific request.If you feel confident, you can friend someone on the application.Make sure you're okay with it when you add them to your contact list.It's better to ask their permission before sending a friend request if you've met your potential date on a dating website.You can message them on the dating website and ask if they are on Facebook.You can friend me if they say they are.
Step 3: You can find out more about the potential date's interests and relationship status.
You have access to a lot of useful information after your friendship request has been accepted.Is this person in a relationship with another person?In their spare time, what do they like to do?What music do they listen to?What about their family?Do you have many friends you don't know about?You will be able to come up with a strategy with this information.Think of things you can do together.Mentioning a friend can start a conversation.Think of yourself as a detective trying to find a solution to the problem.If you do some background research, you won't waste time with someone who is different from you.If you see that the cute guy in your French class only likes football when he hates sports and wants to spend the rest of his life on the couch, you should ask yourself if it's worth it.If you don't have a chance to hang out with your potential date in person, this is useful.It will be like spending time with them and their friends in the virtual world if they check the conversation and posts on their Facebook page.
Step 4: Start a conversation.
Immediately after your friend request has been accepted, do it.If you wait too long, your date might think you've been following them online.Once you've become friends on a social network, they will expect to have a casual chat with you.Don't think of how to start.Write "hello!"What's happening?I'm happy I found you."Hello!"We met last week at Dave's party.Remember how they know you if you think they can't place you.
Step 5: If they've personally given you their address, e-mail your potential date.
Unlike social networks, which work as a public space where friends and strangers exchange ideas, an e-mail address is considered private information.If you haven't told the person where you live, then you should not write an e-mail.You should not use the e-mail if you have a way to get this person's address.Getting their address through a third source will be seen as an invasion of their privacy and will decrease your chance to succeed.
Step 6: The conversation should be light and upbeat.
If you want to build an exchange based on what you have in common, make sure you are a positive person who is just looking for a casual chat.This can be seen as a sign of insecurity if you overwhelm your potential date with too much internet slang.You have said something funny with a lot of people laughing.If the conversation is about a lot of washing you have to do, then cheer it up with some humor and jokes.You won't believe how much I have to do over the weekend.I wish my butler was not on leave.The person should not be overburdened with too much information.You don't want to talk all the time.
Step 7: Act natural.
Make sure you aren't doing someone else's job.You want your potential date to get a sense of who you are and understand if they want to know more about you.If you are the life of the party, acting serious may not be in your nature.It's important to remember that sounding "at your best" shouldn't turn into "sounding fake".You want the other person to know about your personality without overdoing it, and don't fake any of it.If you're funny, make a light joke.You should make a quick remark about something if you're insightful.It can happen for online dating.This can make dating feel like a job interview.The more you are yourself, the more likely you will be matched with someone who is like you.
Step 8: People behave differently online than they do in person.
When someone is little more than a picture and a profile page, it's easy to idealize them.The person in real life is more complex than what the screen shows.As the conversation goes on, try to think of what this person is really like, rather than the image they're giving of themselves.Compare the idea you had of this person before the conversation with what you can sense from your virtual chat, for example, "she's trying very hard to look cool, so she probably isn't".When talking to someone you met through an online dating website, pay attention to this aspect.It happens more than you think when they pretend to be someone else.
Step 9: Keep online exchanges brief.
There's no reason to make the casual chat into a two-hour online date.To get to know your potential date in person, you should ask them out to do most of the talking.This is just an introduction to the request.The other person might lose interest in meeting you in real life if you are too available in the virtual world.
Step 10: Ask for their phone number.
Drop a casual request once you've warmed up because it's not an awkward thing to do.If you feel it's too early to ask for a date but you've spent longer than expected on the chat, or had several online conversations, a phone number is the next step to take to get closer to this person.An excuse can be used.I have to go back to work, but I enjoyed talking to you.Do you have a phone number that we can use later?
Step 11: Ask them to go on a date.
To suggest an activity you might enjoy doing together, use the research you've done before the conversation.If you like foreign films, invite one of them to play next to you.Give your suggestion as a way to continue the conversation.You can say, "I really like talking to you."We should talk at the Mexican restaurant next weekend.You should think of your request as a step that will relieve the tension in the conversation.It will allow both of you to get to know each other better by doing something together.
Step 12: Give them time to reply.
Don't expect this person to reply immediately if your request was not part of the conversation.They might want to take their time to think about it, but that doesn't mean they dislike you.Pressure won't work to your advantage.A person has more time to plan a response to online chats and messages.You should give this person the same level of liberty you have given yourself because you probably chose them for your approach.They're probably not interested if it's taking too long for someone to reply or if they put you off on a regular basis.Don't expect them to say "no" loud and clear.
Step 13: Be prepared for a rejection.
Life goes on if the answer is "no".No need to get aggressive.There are many people who will be interested in you in the future.Don't take it personally or think you should have sounded different.You are supposed to be yourself online.If this person was not into you, it wouldn't have lasted.