It's a touchy topic because it can become abusive.It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with obeying your parents, your authority figures, or even your faith if you have one.Obeying is something that should be free.You have the right to remove the object of your obedience if it abuses it.
Step 1: Don't be disrespectful.
Showing respect to your parents, honoring their ideas about what's best for you, and showing that you think they are worth listening to is part of being obedient.When they ask you to respond, make sure you listen.Don't ignore them in public.It's rude to pretend that you aren't with your parents when you're out with them, even though you might feel embarrassed.It could hurt your parents.They don't say that you humiliate them, so why do that?If they ask you to do something, don't roll your eyes.If you don't like what they are asking you, the polite way to respond is to ask them why you do not want to do it.When you were a child, you would ask your parents to do something for you and they would do it without complaint.
Step 2: You should be attentive to your chores.
Parents don't ask you to do a lot of chores.They probably work harder than you do.You need to do what you see without being asked to by your parents.Do not make your parents ask you to do more than once.You may not always remember to do a chore without being asked.This is a typical thing, so try to avoid it.Do what you can to help out around the house.If your parents need a night off, offer to babysit your younger sister.Before your mom has to, find out when garbage day is and take the garbage out.
Step 3: Instead of arguing, consider why your parents say no.
It's possible for parents to have rules about what you should or shouldn't be doing.An obedient child considers their parents' point of view instead of fighting about the rules, even if you don't like them or agree with them.Don't give in to the knee-jerk reaction to argue with them or express your displeasure.If you really need to respond with an argument, make it a debate and not a dispute--try writing or email them a letter or message explaining your point of view, rather than shouting and being uncompassionate.If they say no to you hanging out with a friend on a Thursday night, they might be concerned about you not completing your homework on time or that you will be too tired in school the next day.
Step 4: Don't make a big deal out of your disagreement.
Sometimes your parents will place unreasonable restrictions on you.In many cases calmly discussing why you feel their demands are unreasonable, or offering alternatives or a compromise, can go a long way towards getting you what you want without being disobedient.Explain your side of the story calmly.Don't rely on feelings and give facts.It does not mean that you will always have to agree with your parents.If you want to express your disagreements, you will have to do it tactfully.
Step 5: Be nice.
Being polite to your parents is a sign of respect.You want to be nice to other people.You can demonstrate how well your parents raised you by doing this.You should ask for permission to be excused at the dinner table.Say "please" and "Thank you" for basic things.Help people with their groceries by opening doors.
Step 6: Don't rebel against your parents.
You can disagree with them, but if they give you an instruction that makes you angry or upset, that is immoral.Before you make a decision, think about the consequences.
Step 7: Pay attention to what they say.
When you are trying to be obedient to an authority figure, like your teacher or manager, you need to pay attention to what they are saying.You want to show that you are interested.The teacher is talking in class.When they give important information, take down your notes.You have to listen to your boss when they give you instructions.Eye contact is important.
Step 8: In private, talk about concerns or issues.
If there is a problem with an authority figure, don't bring it up in front of people.If you want to talk to them in their office or after class, ask them.
Step 9: Do you know how to obey authority?
You shouldn't worship authority, but you should always respect it.Obeying the reasonable rules of the superior means respecting his or her authority.People who respect authority rarely sit quietly and suffer if an authority figure treats them poorly or unfairly.People who revere authority worship the authority figures because they think that whatever the superior says must be right.Revering authority often includes suffering injustices, while respecting authority only gives you the reputation of being respectful, kind and respectful--something worth going for.If you think your teacher gave you the wrong grade for an assignment, you would discuss it with them after class.If you feel you deserve a different grade, present some clear and concise reasons.
Step 10: Understand what you are expected to do.
It's hard to be obedient to someone if you don't know what they want from you.When you pay attention to what your authority figure says, you know what they need from you.Do not be rude if you disagree with an authority figure.You may end up getting your way if you talk about it courteously.If you're being obedient to your teacher then you need to stay on top of things like homework, classwork, any major projects, and in-class participation.If you're being obedient to a superior at work then you need to know what's expected from you in terms of your job.You need to pay attention to long-term projects and not use your time on the internet for work.
Step 11: Make sure you finish your tasks on time.
It's time to fulfill expectations in a timely manner once you know what you're expected to do.Inform your authority figure if there is a legitimate reason why the task won't be completed on time.
Step 12: Don't talk.
The opposite of being obedient is fighting with your boss or teacher.Your opinion on the authority figure is unimportant in a classroom or work situation.When they say something you disagree with or find to be stupid, backtalk can include rolling your eyes or smirking.Don't say "This is completely unnecessary" if they tell you to do something.Ask respectfully and assertively if you have questions.
Step 13: Act like you respect them.
Obeying and respecting each other have a tendency to go hand in hand.To be obedient to someone, you need to act like you respect them.As long as it is reasonable, moral and harmless, you will do it.Be kind and respectful.Say "please" and "Thank you".If you did not do something, don't apologize or assume responsibility for it.
Step 14: Don't use blind obedientness.
If you were told to jump off the cliff, would you do it obediently?Adherence has its limits just like everything else.You are turning from being disciplined to being foolish if you cross these limits.They may be authoritative, but few are completely virtuous.
Step 15: Cultivate humility.
It means that you are also being humble when you follow the mandates of your faith.You agree that your god is helping to direct your life and that you accept both the good and the bad that comes.Don't take ownership of the things in your life.It's important to remember that something good happened thanks to your Great Teacher.It is a learning experience if something is unhappy.
Step 16: You have to commit to your faith.
The rules and regulations of most faiths and religions are required of practitioners.Giving up control of your life and understanding that what happens is coming from your Holy Teacher is what it means to commit to your faith.
Step 17: You should make choices in line with your faith.
Because of the rules and regulations in different faiths there are certain choices that will be difficult, because they will make you choose between a life that might be easier, but not spiritual.You have to choose the latter path if you want to be obedient to your faith.It doesn't align with your beliefs, so you could be sacrificing your career path.It could be taking a lot of time out of your day to pray.
Step 18: You shouldn't judge other people based on their beliefs.
It's a personal thing to obey your faith.It means that you are connected to your god and faith.It doesn't mean you can criticize other people's beliefs or their way of living.