It can be difficult to be outgoing and make friends in high school.Having the confidence to speak up and make a good impression can be a challenge, whether you're naturally shy or want to be more outgoing.Small changes can be made to become a confident, outgoing person.
Step 1: The leader for the group projects should be a volunteer.
This will allow you to speak up and give you a lot of things to say.Being a leader in a small group makes you look more confident.Show initiative and take charge.
Step 2: You should raise your hand in class.
If you want to be more outgoing, you can try to answer one of your teacher's questions every week or every day.Answering questions in class allows you to practice being more outgoing, and gives you a captive audience of your peers.It's not a good idea to put too much pressure on yourself.Just keep trying.
Step 3: You can join a club.
There is an opportunity to discuss a shared interest.It's much easier to be outgoing if you have a common language with this group.The meetings of clubs and extracurricular activities have agendas.You have more time to prepare what you want to say.If you enjoy one of your subjects, you can join an academic club to learn more and engage with other students who also enjoy the topic.
Step 4: You can participate in theater productions.
It is possible to be more outgoing in school theatre.People auditioning for a show.Even if you don't get cast in the school play, you will have the chance to perform in front of other people.
Step 5: Team sport.
If you work with other players, you can build confidence and trust with your peers.Playing a sport you enjoy, even if you aren't great at it, is one way to meet new people who share your interests.Student athletes make lifelong friends with their teammates.
Step 6: You can go to an open mic night.
If your school hosts these, you can try being outgoing in front of a group of strangers, and if you fail, this is a low stakes situation because you never have to see them again.Tell a joke, sing a song, read a poem.You should get outside your comfort zone.You don't need to do anything.You can talk to the performers at the show.
Step 7: You should smile at a new person.
People are more likely to speak to a smiling stranger.Sharing a smile makes you stand out.Smiling increases your level of contentment, and in most cases, happier people are more confident.Say hello to someone and smile at them.The act of smiling and greeting new people will make you seem more outgoing, even if you don't get a response.
Step 8: Discuss shared experiences.
If you have a class with someone else, see each other at a movie over the weekend, or are both in the school band, these are great starting points for a conversation.Even if you have to practice being casual, approach people and casually bring up your interest.You could say that you didn't like the chemistry test.Try to compliment them by saying, "You did great on that solo in band."
Step 9: It's a good idea to talk to someone at a social event.
If you want to engage in a social engagement, you need to talk to at least one person.This can include chatting with someone at a party, a meeting of an extracurricular group, or in between class periods.If you're afraid you might say the wrong thing, it's a good idea to prepare a list of topics.Anything that may be interesting at a social event can be included in the list.A great opening line for a Friday night football game is, "What team are you rooting for?"Talk to people who are shy.If you are in the same boat, this can help you feel more comfortable.Say hello!A simple hello is all you need to start.
Step 10: Talk to your friends.
It will be easier for you to approach them because you have a friend in common.Start with the question, "You're a friend of Brenda?"I'm named Sam.We go to school with each other.We met at her birthday.The pressure is off the other person to remember who you are.If you don't know what happened, ask, "How did you meet her?"If you haven't seen your friend in a while, you can ask.Say something like, "How have you been?"
Step 11: Discuss a topic before joining a pre-existing conversation.
Don't feel like you have to always create the conversation.Join the chat if a group of people are already talking.It is possible to say, "Oh, I saw that movie too."Walk up and join in the conversation, what did you think of the ending?People will enjoy hearing your opinions.Don't worry if the group of students you're joining is in another social group than the one you usually hang out with.If a group of students don't like you, you can always try talking to other people.
Step 12: Remember what people tell you.
If you're feeling shy, take the focus off of you, and this will make you feel more comfortable when approaching them.You made an effort to remember what's going on in their life, so this assures the person you're talking to that you care about them.If someone mentions they're going to see family this weekend, ask them about it on Monday.Follow up with your friend if they were nervous about the math test.Wishing people well on their birthdays is a good way to remember them.
Step 13: Ask your friends or family members for tips.
They can review your behavior by observing how you act, or by telling a family member about an incident that made you feel very shy.Most people will be happy to help you with this and give you tips, but try to find someone who is outgoing and confident in their ways.Request feedback on how you can be more personable the next time you're in a similar situation, and ask them, "What would you have done in my situation?"It's a good idea to remind your friend or family member to give constructive feedback.
Step 14: You admire outgoing behaviors.
It doesn't mean you have to be afraid of who you are.It is possible to learn outgoing behaviors by acting like a person who is already outgoing and confident.You've already seen that these behaviors are effective and this is a good way to reduce stress related to trying something new.Think of a person who could be a friend, a family member, or even a celebrity.As they engage with other people, watch them.Pick up on their body language.They might compliment others.Try to mimic one or two of their outgoing behaviors when you're in a social situation.
Step 15: Role play with family or friends.
Practice if you know you're going to an event soon.Ask a friend or family member to act like a new person at the event.Try a variety of interactions with them.The more you do it, the more natural it becomes.You could say, "I'm going to a party and want to be outgoing."Can you play a role in my life to see how I interact with other people?
Step 16: You can take a class to boost your confidence.
If you want to build confidence, ask a guidance counselor or therapist for a recommendation of a class.This could include debate, public speaking and cooking.Toast Masters is a national organization.You can find weekend or afternoon classes that will help you improve your confidence and be more outgoing.
Step 17: Seek help from a professional.
If you can't achieve your goals on your own, you may want to talk to a professional.Guidance counselors and therapists are trained to help you change your habits.Peer group programs for anxious people provide support and encouragement.If it's found that your shyness is a result of a social anxiety disorder, anti-anxiety medications may be prescribed to help you feel more relaxed.Cognitive behavior therapies can help you change negative thought processes and improve your confidence, which will make being outgoing in social situations easier.