How To Be the Girl Everyone Likes Without Changing Who You Are
It's difficult to be the girl in a school or college who doesn't have to become like everyone else.An independent-minded and spirited girl can achieve this challenge by keeping her mind focused on who she is, what she wants in life and where she's headed.
Step 1: Be yourself.
This cliché is based on reality, without knowing who you are.If you're a follower, people will take advantage of you.If you follow the actions of others, you won't be able to know who you are.It can leave you open to being manipulated by selfish or uncaring people, and it can lead to shaping yourself to fit in with them.It takes time to grow into your own skin, so don't fret about not knowing yourself yet; it's an ongoing process because a healthy person remains flexible and accepting of personal change.Being yourself is important for a number of reasons, including being guided by good advice, not swayed by people with bad intentions, and being your own person.You can change on your own terms because you can forget who you are.You can handle criticism from other people.You understand better that unless people have good advice, their barbs are not worth taking on board.You know what you want from life and won't change who you are just to fit in with someone else's plans.You are free to compromise in the spirit of sharing and getting along with others, but you don't compromise who you are.
Step 2: Treat other people with respect.
Accept differences and value the dignity of others.Being liked by many people is about showing a genuine interest in them for who they are and making it clear that you're not judgmental.Show interest by asking questions about things they care about and trying to remember what they said.When you see them again, show them you care enough to remember and follow up by asking how they are going.Don't judge people by appearance.If you feel uncomfortable around people, give them a second chance and let them be heard.You will get another friend with this.
Step 3: You can find things in common with people in each group.
Stay sincere though.If you only like rock occasionally, make sure to tell them.It is most likely that they will value you more for being fresh.
Step 4: Be realistic.
No matter who you are or how you come across, not everyone will like you.This reality is never a reason to put yourself down or feel unwanted.Even if you know why some people dislike you, it's not a reason to feel less worthy or to try to fit in with them.It's their loss, leave them that way.Sometimes they'll come around when they realize you aren't affected by their choice to ignore you, so stay strong.Don't care about their attitude but still respect their dignity.Staying polite and helpful is part of this.
Step 5: Don't be angry.
Changing what you think or believe in for each group will make you look bad, as people compare notes and realize you've been faking it.If you want to be liked, don't simply say that you're the same as the others.You don't have to agree with or like the same things if you show sincere interest.If you want to say that the other person's point of view, approach or hobbies are not your own, you should learn how to politely say so.Showing genuine interest in the person, listening carefully but not leading them into thinking you have the same viewpoint is being sincere.Jenny tells Alice that she likes going to movies.Alice doesn't think this is a good use of time or money.I love the movies every weekend too.Alice says that it sounds like a really cool way to enjoy your weekend.I would love to have you on the quiz team for the movies section.I only see movies about two to three times a year because I'm busy with other things.Jenny's interest in movies is seen as a good thing to do, Alice has shown interest, but she doesn't do the same thing herself.Jenny won't expect Alice to come to the movies every weekend now that she wants to go some day.
Step 6: Enjoy the company of people.
Don't want to be liked into a chore.Seek to be friendly and have fun with people.Getting to know people, learning about them and spending time with them is a hobby and if you enjoy people's company, this will be reflected in your actions, your smile and your whole demeanor.