Do you know if one of your friends is acting like someone you don't know?Have you recently been a victim of someone with a "put-on" persona?There are fake people everywhere and they are usually desperate for attention.With a few simple tricks, you can get rid of the influence fake people have on you.
Step 1: The person is fake.
If you're dealing with someone who makes you feel annoyed or disrespected, your best move is almost always one of the simplest options.You should avoid the person who is making you angry.As little as possible, hang out together.The less time you spend with this person, the less nervous he will be.It's a subtle way of punishing someone for faking it.They don't get to hang out with you when they act like this.
Step 2: You should keep your interactions short if you can't avoid the fake person.
It's easy to make decisions about who you hang out with.Sometimes social situations can force you to hang out with fake people, for example, if the fake person shows up to a group event.If you want to avoid being rude, don't ignore the fake person.Try not to be overly friendly.You don't have a chance of starting a conversation with the fake person.A good rule of thumb is to avoid talking to this person until you have a chance to talk to them.You'd talk to someone you've never met before if you acted polite but a little distant.
Step 3: Don't let fake behavior get to you.
Even if they're annoying, keep your cool around fake people.If you want to remove yourself from an annoying situation, blow up at someone who is faking it.If you feel your temper is about to get out of hand, give yourself a few minutes of "cool off" time.If the fake person is disrespectful to you, you don't have to lay back and take it.It's important for fake people to know that there are limits to their behavior, so they should say something like, "I don't like it when you say things like that around me."
Step 4: Don't try to be the real person.
When you're trying to fight fakeness in other people, you never want to become fake yourself.Give in to gossip and rude remarks if you want to resist the urge to get back at a fake person.If you act this way, other people may not be able to tell the difference between you and the person you're fighting.
Step 5: The "fakeness" should be addressed.
It's one thing if a friend is faking it.It is much harder to ignore or avoid a close friend who is acting fake.If you suddenly notice a change in your friend's behavior, you should speak up.Be ready for some resistance.People don't like to hear that they are doing something wrong.If you notice that your friend is hanging out with people who are not nice, tell him that you are surprised.Don't shy away from mentioning that you think these people have terrible priorities.
Step 6: Get to the bottom of the fakeness by asking questions.
Understanding why your friend is acting this way can help you overcome his or her fake behavior.Asking your friend questions about his or her behavior is a good way to figure it out, but it's important to stay respectful.You don't want to upset your friend."Hey, I've noticed you acting a little differently lately."What's happening?"So you've been hanging out with a lot of different people?"What are you talking about lately?
Step 7: If the problem is serious, you should have a heart-to-heart.
What your friend chooses to do is up to him or her.It's your duty as a caring friend to intervene if your friend wants to be fake.You can let your friend know how damaging they will be if you don't stop them.If your friend is getting involved with things that put his or her safety in danger, you can tell a counselor or parent.It's better than the alternative and they may be angry about it.If you are genuinely concerned for their safety, you should only do this.It's not your place to tell your friend what to do.
Step 8: Discuss the problem with your friends.
You never have to fight fakeness alone.Chances are, if you've noticed that one of your friends is faking it, your other friends have too.Discuss what's going on with your fake friend when they aren't around.They may have information that makes it easier to understand.You can make a decision about how to deal with your friend's behavior.Don't have your conversation turn into a dogpile session.You want to talk about how your friend is acting differently than you are used to.It is not an excuse to make fun of this person.
Step 9: You should be willing to take a break from your friendship.
You can't force someone not to be fake.If you're having trouble getting your fake friend to see the light, take a step back.Before you start hanging out again, let your relationship cool down.Don't hang out with this person one-on-one and limit your interactions in a group.It's a good idea to show your friend that you don't want to hang out.This person can annoy you if you don't limit the amount that they can.