How To Deal With Falling in Love with Your Best Friend (for Guys)
These instructions might help if you're one of those guys who have feelings for your female best friend or just a female friend.It can be difficult to deal with if she doesn't feel the same way about you.
Step 1: Do you have a personality?
Is they compatible?You've probably seen your best friend in a relationship before.Is she flirtatious with other men even if they're not single or is she in a relationship with someone?If you can handle this step-up in relation with her, examine her (and your own) common traits when dating someone.
Step 2: You should look at your habits.
Does she do things that annoy you?The chances of a long-term relationship lasting will be affected if that is the case.It's easy to get rid of annoying habits for a few months.
Step 3: Understand how you can compromise.
There is a lot of give and take in a relationship.Is it possible to accommodate each other's needs and wants?Is it possible that you can do so maturely?
Step 4: Do you trust your abilities?
If you're already best friends, you already know each other's secrets and have some very personal information about one another.Is it possible to trust your friend not to fall in love with someone else again or to use that information against you if you break up?
Step 5: Understand the attraction
It's not worth damaging a close friendship if the attraction is mostly physical.If you don't want to risk the mental component of your relationship, look for a casual sex partner.
Step 6: She might have the same feelings for you.
When you tell her how you feel about her, she might look at you as a brother-figure.It could ruin everything, but it could also make the relationship better.The risks should be weighed against the possibilities.It's a good idea to be careful when coming out too suddenly or openly.There is always a gentle way to say it.
Step 7: Take it easy.
Don't tell her right away.Drop subtle comments like "You know, we've been friends for a long time" or "What would I do without you?"These are harmless displays of affection.Don't drop them too often because you risk being obvious.
Step 8: Take some time together.
As best friends, enjoy the same activities.Show her that you are fun to be around.
Step 9: Use humor.
If you both have a sense of humor, tell each other jokes.If you're lucky, you may get closer to each other before you realize.When you have an inside joke, use it.
Step 10: Be there for her.
She needs to understand what she needs.If she wants a shoulder to cry on, give it to her.Give her a jacket if she's cold.She's going to notice how great you are over time.She needs to see what a great boyfriend you would make and start thinking about it.Don't expect anything in return for being there for her, you care about her.
Step 11: Be patient.
Things will work out if you're compatible and lucky.The majority of relationships are made in advance and are waiting to happen.
Step 12: Tell her how you are feeling.
Most girls are pretty respectful of feelings so this is easier for a guy than a girl.When you think the time is right, give her a chance to understand you.If you don't want to change your friendship, you may risk ruining it.If it is lucky, she will be more attentive to you and your feelings.They won't have an escape route if they break the news in an awkward place.
Step 13: Be prepared to be rejected.
Stay cool if she doesn't like you back.Don't let the friendship get awkward.Try to get things back to the way they were before.Your friend may not have an immediate answer.Give them a clear head and let them think things over.