There is no way to avoid being broken up at some point.There are ways to deal with heartbreak and push yourself in the right direction.You can see step 1 to start dealing with heartbreak.
Step 1: Give yourself some time.
You have to give yourself time to grieve and to deal with all the emotions that are going to plague you in the first months after a break up.Don't immediately throw yourself into work because you will just keep pushing away the emotions rather than actually dealing with them and that will make it harder on you in the long run.You are going to have emotional ups and downs.Recovering from a broken heart isn't a straight line of progression, but rather a spiral.You are getting better as you go through the same emotional circle, just remember that you are better able to deal with the emotions from the heartbreak each time.
Step 2: Give yourself time with your ex.
Being bombarded with information about your ex is not going to help you get over the break up.No texting, no drunken phone calls and no stalking on Facebook is what this means.It's a good idea to block your ex on social media so that you won't be tempted to spend a lot of time trying to figure out if they regret not being with you.Also, etc.If you're constantly trying to stay in touch with your ex, you won't be able to move on, which will make your feelings of heartbreak and unhappiness that much harder to bear.
Step 3: Don't fight your feelings.
When you are in a relationship, you will be devastated.If you fight those feelings you will make it harder to deal with them in the long run.Write down how you're feeling.If you're not good at talking with other people about your feelings, this is a good thing to do.Write down how you are feeling.You will see that you are getting better.You don't need to pretend you're fine.Accept that you are going to experience some emotional turbulence.Your friends will support you if they are true friends.Don't stay there and listen to angsty, angry, sad songs to get those feelings out.You're going to have a harder time getting over it if you only listen to the songs about the break up.
Step 4: Make a plan.
You need to remind yourself that life is worth living while you wallow in your unhappiness.Trying to do at least one thing a week can be a good place to start, at first it will be hard to make you go out and do anything.Start smallDon't try to make yourself go out and host a fancy dinner after a break up.You can start by getting coffee or a beer with your best friend.Things you weren't able to do while being part of a couple are things you should do.This will remind you how to do things on your own and why you're better off without a relationship.
Step 5: Don't forget to take care of yourself.
Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things to do while you're recovering from a loss.It can be hard to get out of bed, but going that extra mile for yourself can help you from falling into a pit of despair.Cleaning your apartment, grocery shopping, and showering are things that you should be rewarded for.A good way to take care of yourself is by exercising.You'll feel better about yourself when you exercise, because it releases endorphins, which can make you feel happier.
Step 6: Allow a daily limit on grieving.
You need to make sure that you don't wallow in grief, otherwise you're never going to get over the relationship and that's what you need most of all.It's a good idea to set a time each day to reflect on the break-up.When time's up, set a timer.During the day, remind yourself that you have a specific time set aside and until then, you'll focus on other things.If you have an activity that requires your attention, you will be able to focus on something else.A trusted friend or family member can help you out.When you've gone over it, have your friend or family member remind you to put your focus on something else.
Step 7: You should beware of the rebound.
With an easy rebound relationship, there's nothing wrong with bolstering your confidence, as long as both parties know that.It's a bad time to try to start something real with someone else because you're going to be in a state of low self-confidence and vulnerability after a recent split.It's a good idea to moderate your drinking if you're going out and partying because you don't want to end up drunk-calling/texting your ex and start a new relationship.Your friends will help you out.If it looks like you're coming in for a fall, have them remind you about rebound and make sure that's what you want, but you will need to check in with yourself.
Step 8: You can watch how you act online.
This also includes texting and calling.You don't want to invite everyone to see your mental breakdown if you post a lot of angry or upset things about your former relationship on Facebook.You want to make sure that you're not trying to get your ex's attention by posting "can't wait for my hot date tonight" on Facebook.If you're doing that, you are still in the throes of a break-up and doing things for yourself.If they broke up with you the more you text and call the harder it will be for you to move on.You won't be doing much more than boosting their self esteem and lowering their own.Don't ask your friends or their friends how they are, and block them on social media.
Step 9: Your goal is to move on.
Once you've moved on from the relationship itself, you won't experience the trauma of the end of a relationship.When it feels like your world has come to an end, your goal is to remember that you are capable of something.Remember, you still have a future.Even though it doesn't involve that other person, you still have plans for what you'll be doing.You have to remember that you can replace the dreams you were working on with new ones."I want to be happy." repeat to yourself.Even though you are in the dumps, you have no desire to stay there.Getting over your heartbreak is part of the process of being happy.
Step 10: Seek help.
Sometimes you need professional help to get over something on your own.You shouldn't feel bad about it because there is nothing wrong with it.It can be difficult to deal with a cauldron of feelings and emotions when you are going through a tough time.There is a difference between regular sadness and depression.You definitely need to see a professional if you haven't been able to get out of bed or take care of yourself in weeks.