It is hard to know if the person you are crushing on likes someone else.You don't want to end up with a broken heart if you suspect the person you like has eyes for another.If you want to find out where your crush's heart lies, pay close attention to what they say and do to see if the signs are there.
Step 1: Look at your crush's eyes to see who they're following.
Identifying who they are paying attention to is one of the key ways to find out who your crush is.If you are in class, at an event or out with friends, take a peek to see who your crush is watching.That could be a sign that they are developing a crush on their own.
Step 2: They should observe who they sit by or initiate conversations with.
When you have a crush, you end up in the same space so you can be close to them.Are they moving desks to sit by someone else during class or at lunchtime?They may not go out of their way to talk to a specific person.It's possible that this person is your crush, but also that they're just friends.
Step 3: Take note of your crush getting excited or nervous.
When you see your crush interacting with the same person often, pay attention to how they act, are they nervous, do they blush or fumbled their words?Your crush may be experiencing romantic feelings of their own.When someone has a crush on you, how you act when you see them or talk to them is something you should think about.It is possible to apply those same principles to your crush.
Step 4: How much time are they on their phone?
There are many reasons why someone might be on their phone a lot.If your crush is texting all the time and is constantly checking their phone for notifications, that is a clear sign that they are distracted by something.Listen to how your crush reacts when their friends ask them what they're doing or who they are talking to.Chances are that they are developing feelings for someone else if they start acting defensive or embarrassed.
Step 5: They have a personal style.
It is common for people to dress or act in a way that they think another person will like.If you notice that your crush has suddenly started wearing band T-shirts and dyeing their hair and that lines up with them starting to spend time with an avid concert-goer, that might indicate that they are interested in that person.Keep in mind that people do experiment with their looks all the time, so this might not be a sure-fire sign that they have a crush on someone else.It could be true if it pairs up with some other signals.
Step 6: When you spend time with your crush, watch for changes.
If you and your crush talk a lot, watch out for changes in their attitude.It is possible that they are having conflicting feelings since they used to be friendly and playful.Don't get clingy if this is happening.Give your crush some space so they can figure it out.It's a good time to look at your feelings.
Step 7: When your crush sees you in person, take note of how they act.
Look for signs that your crush is no longer saying "hi" to you in the hallway or waiting to walk to class.If you had normal interactions with your crush on a daily basis, your feelings may change.Being ignored completely is a sign that your crush doesn't feel the same anymore.If this change leads to them treating someone else more affectionately.
Step 8: If your crush is into someone else, you should pay attention to canceled plans.
Pick up on times when your crush abandons you if you are friends and hang out regularly.This is a good sign that they might be able to spend some time with someone else.If your crush suddenly becomes hard to pin down, it could be a sign of a similar situation.
Step 9: You can observe how quickly they respond to your messages.
There is a chance that it is because you are used to quick responses and frequent messages with your crush.If this change is consistent for several weeks, it could be because they are busy messaging someone else.If everything is okay, you could ask them.They may be having a hard time with school or work.It could be worth mentioning if you are close friends.
Step 10: You can listen to how often they name-drop.
It's possible that your crush is talking about a new person because they are interested in them.This could be the sign you are looking for if the same name keeps creeping up.Your crush might not even know they are doing this.Think about how many times you have mentioned your crush to your friends before realizing you were talking about them so much.
Step 11: To see what they are up to, check out their social media.
If you look at their social media pages, you can see a lot about who they are talking to.If they like a lot of posts from a particular person, you can see who they have become friends with recently.Put a limit on how often you look at their social media, like once a day instead of once every hour.
Step 12: You should listen to rumors about your crush and their love life.
Sometimes rumors are true and sometimes they are not.If the source is trustworthy, it might be worthwhile to listen to the rumor.If you hear from three different people that your crush is holding hands with someone else at the movies, that is a sign that they are not compatible.
Step 13: Tell your friends about the situation.
Your friends may be able to tell you more about your crush than you can.If you want to know what's going on with your crush, ask them for their opinions and keep their eyes open.You might get something from one of your friends.Don't get angry at your friend if this happens.It is okay to be upset, but remember that your friend didn't do anything to you.
Step 14: To find out if your crush's friend knows anything, talk to them discreetly.
If you know your crush's friends, you can have a conversation with them.It is possible that this person will tell you about your crush, but also give you important information.Say something like, "Hey Ryan, I noticed that Jade has been spending a lot of time with Ben."Is there anything going on there?
Step 15: Ask about your crush.
If you feel that your crush has their eyes on someone else, it's worth it to find out so you can move on with your life.Try to phrase the question in a way that makes it seem like you are interested in it.You could say, "Hey Max, I was wondering if you were interested in Kylie."If they ask you why you want to know, say, "Oh, I was just curious."
Step 16: You shouldn't blame yourself or think you're not good enough.
Don't beat yourself up if you discover your crush likes someone else.If you want to avoid harsh self-talk, focus on the good things about you.It doesn't mean you're not worthy of being liked, just that it's not working out in this situation.
Step 17: Your crush is allowed to like and be with other people.
Don't villainize the person your crush chose to be with.Accept that your crush can make their own choices.It might hurt that they didn't choose you, but it will be okay in the end.It is important to keep in mind that you don't want to be with someone who is not with you.
Step 18: Give yourself time to get over your crush.
It is likely that your feelings will not go away overnight.If you were friends with this person before, putting a little space between you might be the healthiest thing to do.It won't help you get over your crush if you see them constantly.Take some time to adjust your expectations for this person.You might want to think about their role in your life if you were a friend before.Maybe you can still be friends but not as close as you used to be.
Step 19: Take care of yourself, your friends, and the things you enjoy doing.
Try to forget about your crush and focus on living your life.If you take this time to invest in your friends, practice self-care, and enjoy your hobbies, you won't feel like a failure.Being sad and feeling your feelings is okay.Don't dwell on that sadness for too long.
Step 20: Talk to your friend about your feelings.
It is possible to make your feelings less intense by simply saying what you are feeling.Ask a trusted friend if you can talk about something.Even if they knew about your crush, it can be helpful to express your sadness about it not working out.Don't complain about your situation for weeks on end.That can annoy a friend.
Step 21: Let yourself be like someone else.
Allow yourself to be attracted to other people instead of pining over your crush for weeks or months.If you want to take a break from romance for a while, become comfortable with focusing on yourself and avoiding crushes.There are other things in your life that can help you feel fulfilled.It's fine if you want to focus on other things right now.