Lesbians date just as heterosexual people do, despite the stereotype that lesbians move in together by the second date.Being gay doesn't make dating any easier if you are newly out of the closet.Some people are lucky enough to meet her.It takes a lot of time and effort to find a compatible partner.It can take a lot of bad dates to get to the good ones.There are things you can do to make it easier to find your dream woman.
Step 1: The type of woman you want to meet is what you should look for.
It sounds like common sense, but if you don't enjoy drinking or dancing, you will not find a compatible mate in a nightclub or bar.If there is not a large lesbian community in your area, you might want to join a club or take a class that is geared toward women.
Step 2: There is a gay/lesbian community in your area.
Depending on where you live, there may be a LGBT group, club or organisation that offers various classes and activities.Pick a few that interest you.Most of the women you will meet there are Lesbians, so you won't have to worry about trying to meet someone.If you do meet someone through a class or activity there, you will already have something in common with her to talk about and do together.
Step 3: You can get involved in online gay/lesbian communities.
Lesbian forums, message boards and discussion groups can be found on the Internet.Some are location-specific while others are global.It's better to find an online group that serves your city or nearby towns, but many global groups have members from your area.Lesbians with similar interests can meet in local LGBT groups.
Step 4: You can join an online dating service.
Make sure the dating site has local lesbian members.Many online dating sites don't have many lesbian members who live near you.Before you commit to paying a fee for an online dating service, make sure the site has local active members who interest you.
Step 5: You should be open to dating blind.
Blind dating is a turn-off to many people, but keeping your options open may allow you to meet your ideal partner.Before you say no, consider if a friend will set you up with someone.If she sounds compatible, ask a few questions about her.If you're not comfortable with sitting through a long date with someone you don't click with, meet for coffee.You can always make a dinner date if you connect.It's a good idea to simply invite the two women you want to fix up to a party or function.Say a few words about the other, and let things take their normal course.You can ask each privately if they'd be interested in being set up on a date with the other, no longer a blind date.Don't assume that they will hit it off because they are both lesbians.
Step 6: Be friends with other lesbians.
One of the best ways to improve your chances of meeting someone is to befriend other lesbians.By broadening your social network to include other lesbians who have common interests, you will be able to connect with people who share the same goals and views as you do.You can turn a new friendship into a budding relationship if you have a friend who would like to meet you.Don't get discouraged.