Being an older sibling can be difficult.While your little sister gets away with everything, you may feel like you have to be on your best behavior.It may be time to make some changes if the two of you are always at each other's throats.Learn how to resolve conflicts calmly and thoughtfully.Don't forget to have fun, and support your sister without being bossy.You will start to realize how great having a younger sister is.
Step 1: Take a deep breath when you are angry.
This will help you think about the situation.Think about what you are going to say.Are you angry at her or frustrated?Whatever is making you angry may not be your sister's fault.Try not to explode if your sister spills her juice on you.She is still developing her motor skills, so take a deep breath and remember.Maybe your hard day at school has more to do with your reaction to your sister singing than with her.Take a deep breath and let it go.Ask her to stop singing if she's getting under your skin.
Step 2: Why are you upset?
It doesn't do anyone any good to yell or hit.Tell your sister why she is making you angry.You should focus on describing your feelings.When you use my things without asking, I don't like it.If your little sister is young, do your best to explain the situation in a way that she can understand.If she is a toddler or infant, you will need a parent to address the situation.
Step 3: Listen to your sister.
Give her time to explain why she is upset.Don't get defensive or interrupt her.Pay attention to how she describes her feelings.Wait until she finishes her thought before responding angrily if she says, "You hurt my feelings."
Step 4: Try not to win the argument.
Being right or winning doesn't matter because this is not a competition.The focus should be on coming to an understanding with your sister.That is the most important thing here.
Step 5: Try to find a solution that works for both of you.
You can agree on a solution if you work together.It should be a solution that leaves both of you satisfied and you don't have to be over the moon about it.If you can't decide who gets to play the piano, try playing a board game.If a possession causes conflict, make a schedule.You might get to use the iPad after school on Wednesdays, while your sister uses it on Thursdays.When you compromise with your sister, think about making happy memories together, not about getting what you want.I want us to be friends for the rest of our lives.Is there a way to end this fight that makes both of us happy?
Step 6: If you can't find a solution that works for both of you, move on.
You can come to an agreement when you aren't able to.It is time to let the conflict go and move on.It's not fun to be a part of a conflict and hold grudges.
Step 7: If things get too heated, get a parent involved.
It is better to work out a conflict on your own.If the issue can't be solved, get a parent to help.When explaining the situation, try not to blame your little sister.Give the facts to your parent.We can't decide who gets the book first because we both want to read it.If you really have to, try to go to your parents.It's important that you and your sister know how to work out problems on your own.
Step 8: You should treat your sister the way you want to be treated.
If your sister pushes all of your buttons, it's tempting to lash out in anger.Set the example of how she should treat you.She will probably copy that behavior if you are nice to her and try to compromise.Don't expect immediate results.This is a permanent change in your behavior if you treat your sister well.
Step 9: You should celebrate your sister's accomplishments.
Congratulate your sister when she does something good.Try to be happy for her.There is a chance that she will do the same for you.She may have won an award at school.That is awesome!Tell her you're proud of her and give her a hug.
Step 10: Go to your sister's activities.
Go to your sister's soccer game and cheer for her.Be sure to tag along if she is in a play.It will show you care about her.It is a good idea to offer some words of encouragement.You could say, "You were awesome in that play."Great job!
Step 11: Help your sister with her schoolwork.
You can teach her new things if you have a younger sister.Maybe your 4-year-old sister is not good at tying shoes.If she is struggling, offer to help.It can be hard for younger kids to learn new things.You could say, Hey Lexie.I have had a lot of practice tying shoes.Share your wisdom by offering school or relationship advice if she is a little older.
Step 12: Things should be done together.
You can always find something that both of you can enjoy, no matter how old you are.You can watch a family movie, play outside, or work on a craft project.The two of you bond when you have fun with your sister.Pick activities that are appropriate for your age.It's not a good idea to watch a scary movie with your six-year-old sister.If you spend a lot of time with your sister, your relationship will grow.Discuss school, hobbies, and family memories with her.You can give her advice on her problems and teach her how to do things that you're already familiar with.Don't use your phone while you are with your sister.Show her how important she is to you.
Step 13: Be part of a team.
You and your sister are both part of a team.To accomplish tasks, work together.If you and your sister are told by your mom to pick up your toys from the living room, make a plan to do it together.I will clean up this side of the room if you clean that side.That way, we can get it done quicker.
Step 14: You are not the boss.
Being older doesn't mean you have to boss your sister around.You can help her, offer suggestions, and tell her how you feel, but don't order her to do anything.Say, "Hey, you made our room pretty messy" instead of "Clean up this mess right now."Is it possible to pick up some of your stuff?
Step 15: If you feel annoyed, get some space.
Sometimes you and your sister need to be away from each other.When you need some alone time, choose a spot where you can go.Let your family know that you don't want to be disturbed.When she wants space, respect that.You can sink into a beanbag chair or sit under a tree.You can get some space by going to a friend's house.
Step 16: You should acknowledge your strengths.
It can hurt your relationship if you compare yourself to your sister.The world is an interesting place because everyone has different strengths.List all the things that you are good at.You may discover that you have more talents than you thought.You are an incredible dancer, but your sister is a great student.They should celebrate their talents.
Step 17: Don't be impatient.
Being an older sibling can be difficult.It may feel like you have to be the bigger person in order to set an example.Being a role model is one of the most rewarding parts of having a younger sister.Set a positive example and be patient with your sister.Your little sister is watching over you.Be kind, caring, and understanding.Give your sister time to mature.If she upsets you, forgive her.Give her another chance and use it to guide her as an older sibling.