It's difficult to get over someone who used you for sex.It's difficult to accept that the feelings you had for someone weren't returned.Limit contact to get over a guy.Stop texting and calling.Don't let your emotions get the best of you.If someone didn't want the same type of relationship you did, it's not your fault.You probably wanted something different.Stay active.New hobbies and goals can keep you out of a bad situation.
Step 1: Stop contacting him.
You should stop reaching out to someone if they are only using you for sex.By now, more of a relationship would have developed.You should stop contacting the person if you realize you're not getting what you want.Don't text, call or see the person at social events.Do something for yourself or hang out with another friend if you feel the urge to reach out to him.You might make an agreement with another friend that whenever you feel tempted to contact him, you contact your friend instead.It is not possible to completely cut someone off.You may need to see the guy if you work or go to school with him.Keep interactions short and to the point if this is the case.Don't talk in small groups.
Step 2: Don't respond to late night phone calls.
He may text or call late at night if he is using you for sex.You can get a text message asking if you're still awake.The guy wants to come over for sex.Do not reply to these texts.You will get hurt more when it prolongs the situation.Ignore this kind of contact."I don't want this kind of relationship anymore, if the guy keeps sending these types of texts after you've ignored them for a while."Please stop texting me.When someone is used to a certain behavior and gets a reward that suddenly stops working, they will often try harder for a while before giving up.Stand up.They will eventually move on.
Step 3: It's a good idea to cut off social media contact.
It is difficult to sever the social media connection.Research shows that checking up on someone online will only prolong your anguish.It's a good idea to block or remove him from social media profiles.Sometimes it is tempting to check an ex's social media, but doing so will not make you feel better, so do your best to not do it.It will only make you feel bad if you click on his profile, so make sure you don't.You will probably make a mistake when checking your ex's profile.Don't beat yourself up if this happens.No one is perfect.Take a break from social media until you feel better.This can help you focus on other things.The less convenient option is to just remove these apps from your phone.
Step 4: Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.
It's impossible to bounce back from being rejected without feeling bad.In the wake of no longer having contact with the guy, allow yourself to feel your feelings, denying or trying to bury them.This can be difficult.As you sort through your emotions, be compassionate with yourself.Being sad is a normal part of life.It's okay to be sad for a little while, even if you're told to cheer up or get over it.You can simply experience your feelings by taking a few minutes each day.This will allow you to heal.You can talk to a trusted friend to help you process these feelings.It is important to honor your feelings.
Step 5: You should be realistic about what the relationship was.
Unless you accept what your relationship was, you won't be able to get over a guy.You're only prolonging the grieving period if you still think he was interested in more than sex.Even if it's painful, own up to the fact that you were used.It can help you accept that the person you were with wasn't the right one for you.People who have been rejected often have unrealistic thoughts about a relationship.If he had rejected you, you might think everything would be easier.There is no such thing as perfect.If you had gotten together in a more romantic way, what would have happened?You may have broken up because of the difficulties and fights.Even if he were interested in more than sex, he wouldn't have made a good partner.
Step 6: It's not your fault.
It's easy to ruminate over what you did wrong after rejection.You might think, "Why doesn't he want to be with me?"What is wrong with me?Try to ignore them.There are many reasons someone doesn't like another person.It probably has nothing to do with you.There are many reasons that a guy may not have had a romantic interest in you.Maybe he liked you and was attracted to you, but you were on different paths in life.He might not be able to handle a romantic relationship.He may prefer a different type of woman for romances than for casual encounters.It probably has nothing to do with you as a person.It's possible that you've rejected people before because there was something wrong with them.They were not your type.It can be helpful to think of this as a single experience in the journey of life.If you feel that the feelings of regret serve a purpose, it's easier to deal with them.
Step 7: Take notice of his bad qualities.
When trying to get over a romantic rejection, it can be helpful to remember the things you disliked about someone.The guy was not perfect, and embracing small flaws can remind you of that.Think about all the things that bothered him.He might have talked about himself too much.He might have returned texts with one word answers.Maybe you don't like the same things.There are also things that you can focus on.Maybe you didn't like his haircut or he never clipped his toenails.Review them regularly if you write them down.You can post them on your mirror.It will help keep you from idealizing the relationship.
Step 8: Say your feelings in a neutral way.
Take note of your feelings when you start to feel angry or bitter.You don't want to feel bad.It's okay to think about things that bothered you, but don't let them turn into bitter, mean thoughts.neutral assessments of the situation should be translated into such thoughts.You think, "He's such a jerk."I was very good for him.For a more realistic evaluation of the situation, rephrase that in neutral terms."We clearly wanted different things and were on different paths."
Step 9: Write down your feelings.
If you get negative feelings out of your head, it may be easier to keep busy.Take a pen and paper and write down what you are feeling.Once your feelings are out, you can focus on other things.Make a list of what he did that you didn't like.Write things like "He didn't want to call me his girlfriend" and "he never held my hand in public"Try to focus on something else once you're done with the list.
Step 10: You should give yourself something to do.
You may find yourself thinking about what went wrong after a break up.New goals can be helpful.You will be able to stay busy and not think about him.It's important to strike a balance between activity and rest.Running away from it can keep you from healing if you think too much about it.Do you ever want to do something?Did you always want to run?You can develop a workout routine that will teach you to run.People tend to become obsessed with past lovers.One way to beat an obsession is to replace it with another.
Step 11: Don't let your mind wander to the future.
If you want to stay present, try to ignore what happened in the past.Keep an eye out for what you're feeling at any given moment.Try to enjoy the small things.A great lunch should be enjoyed."That was then, if you find yourself thinking about your ex, stop and think about it."I will focus on what I'm doing and how I feel right now.Grounding techniques can help you get off the hamster wheel of thinking about him and into the present.Pick five things you see.There are five colors.There are five textures.Close your eyes and smell it.
Step 12: Take care of yourself.
After someone hurts you, self care is important.Eating right, exercising, and caring for yourself are normal rituals.Keep your personal hygiene up to date.If you feel like you're stuck in bed all day, get up, shower, and brush your teeth.Stay on top of your exercise routine.Reduce your routine if you are feeling down.Go for a brisk walk instead of jogging.Eat right.It's not likely to make you feel better if you eat junk food.