How To Get over Your Lesbian Crush on a Straight Best Friend
Your best friend is amazing!Even though you are in love with her, she's straight.She wants a platonic relationship with you.
Step 1: It's a risk to let her know.
This is a good question to think about before you act.She may feel that your relationship is unbalanced if you tell her that you have feelings for her.She might feel a burden because you feel something for her that she doesn't return.It might make your friendship impossible if she's not comfortable with it.You should check to see if she's comfortable with homosexuality.If she knows your sexual orientation, you should take that into account.If you want to take the risk of making your feelings known to her, be careful.
Step 2: Establish boundaries.
Getting over your feelings for your bestie will be key if you have clear guidelines in place for avoiding "bittersweet moments".Having lots of chats about her love life, her feelings, etc., can really melt your heart - you listen to her problems and think, "If only she felt that way about me."Does it make you more protective of her?It is likely.Is it a good idea to have a lot of sleepovers?It's probably not.It's more likely that you won't be able to control your feelings if you have more contact and more time together.You may lose a friend if you lose control.Set those boundaries to stay in control.You will try to put a little space between you when you feel more for her.She invites you to sleep over, but you realize that you're struggling to keep your feelings of jealousy and longing under control.You don't need to give a reason, just say your mom has laid down the law and wants you home this weekend, but that you'll do it soon.You're not saying you will never sleep over, but you are giving yourself a chance to calm down.
Step 3: Spend time with your friends.
It's difficult to get over someone when they are the only one you hang out with.Chances are you've neglected your other friends since you and your bestie have been spending so much.Maybe you have some apologizing to do...
Step 4: Try to learn something new.
Pick something that you and your best friend haven't done together, and that she does it on her own.Try to keep it that way by picking something completely untouched by her.Don't invite her if she asks, just push her away.It will be good if you do something that doesn't remind you of her.Maybe you want to try a new place to eat.
Step 5: Don't become the "anti-you"!
Trying new things, meeting new people, and moving ahead with life doesn't mean you stop being the person you've always been.When trying new things, pick things that you enjoy and are open to, and don't do things simply because your bestie doesn'T do them.
Step 6: Improve your confidence!
You can be a real ego-killer if you try to impress a girl that you don't want to be with.Go work out.The goal of yours has been on the back burner for a long time.You can volunteer at a food bank or homeless shelter.It's good to feel good about yourself.Exercise will do you wonders!Not only will you look better, you will feel better too.
Step 7: Love your friend.
You shouldn't stop loving your best friend because you're getting over your crush on her.There are many forms of love.It does not mean that your best friend doesn't care for you, just that she might not feel the same way about you romantically.She is your best friend, but you are also hers.You should be glad for what you have.
Step 8: Be happy for her.
If she finds her true love, you will need to be happy.She's found someone to love, so don't spend all your time with her moping.Don't say bad things about him.These things will cause a wedge between you.If you need space, take it by being less available.Don't say "It's too hard for me to see you with him."...It was awkward.
Step 9: The friendship is worth the effort.
Things get better in the end.Be thankful that you have an amazing friend.You are amazing for going through such hardship for her.
Step 10: Give.
Forget about the girl you can't be with is the best thing to do.It is you who is hurting!Make someone else happy by giving of yourself.It's time to stop thinking about what you are getting and think about how you can help.Take care of something, volunteer, get a pet.Invest in something you need.There are so many people who need you.Go find one.