One of the most important parts of your life is your sister.Issues can get in the way of bonding with your sister.It is important to realize how important she is in your life, and to build a strong relationship for the future.
Step 1: Take a look at the relationship you have with your sister.
Are you not happy with your sister?Do you pick fights with her?It could be that part of the problem is you and your sister.It could be that you have been busy with other things and haven't paid much attention to her.
Step 2: Determine what kind of relationship you have with your sister.
Every sibling relationship is different and the dynamics are dependent upon your personality.Think about how you want to interact with your sister.Do you want to hang out with other people?Would you rather have her as a mentor to help you figure out what's going on in your life?Do you want to help and protect her?
Step 3: Think about how you see your sister.
Are you still thinking about her five years later?Do you really know who she is now?You have a lot going on in your own life and it's easy to not pay attention to how your sister is growing and changing.It's time to get to know your sister if you don't know much about her.She could feel the same about you.Come up with some fun questions you two could ask each other, from wacky to ordinary: favorite movie of the last few years, favorite weird-sounding ice cream flavor, place she would most or least like to visit.You can see how she presents herself and her interests on social media.Take a trip.It could be an overnight camping trip to the beach or a motel room at the mountain.There is something about a trip with someone that can help you get to know them better.They should do an activity together.Whatever you and your sister think is fun, it could be anything.There are old pictures of you together.There were some fun times from childhood.
Step 4: In the relationship, start fresh.
Baggage from the past can weigh on sibling relationships.You should forgive past behavior of your sister that you don't like.When you were younger, don't revisit arguments or problems.
Step 5: Tell her that you want to be a better sister.
Ask her how she wants your relationship to change.She may have more great ideas than you have considered.It's important that you have a private conversation with plenty of time to talk.
Step 6: Do things together.
Make time to do something you enjoy with her.It might be fun for you to try something new and see if you like it or not.You can watch a movie, take a cooking class, or try a new restaurant.
Step 7: Keep in touch.
A lot of siblings prefer short texts and Facebook posts to long conversations.When you have established a strong relationship with your sister, you can keep it up through casual contact and long conversations.
Step 8: Work through arguments.
She is still going to be your sister no matter what.Come back to her if you figure out the best way to cool off.If you can move forward, apologize and ask her.I was upset that you were late.There was no reason for me to shout.It was a bad idea for you to date that guy.Sorry.He is a pretty cool guy, and it's not my place to judge and tell you what to do.I had a bad time at that party, I was dressed completely wrong.I felt worse since we had argued.I should have been with you and your friends.
Step 9: Be honest with her.
If your sister asks for advice, be diplomatic and sympathetic, but be honest as well.Even if it isn't what she wants to hear, you are in a better position than almost anyone to tell her what you think and make her listen.She is in that position as well.It can feel like parental advice is interfering, but a sibling's advice can be what you need.
Step 10: She should be aware of your life.
Your family is often your best support throughout your life, and your sister could be the most important part.She will be with you through the big events in your life, and she can be helpful in difficult times.It is to your advantage that she knows you better than anyone else.
Step 11: It's important to be an emotional support.
Sometimes a sibling can help comfort you more than anyone else during difficult times.It is not usually about giving advice, but about being there when things don't go well.You should be a good listener.Paying attention to her problems can help her and deepen your relationship.
Step 12: She should know how much she means to you.
Do kind things for her, if you don't like telling her how much you love her.Give thoughtful gifts, celebrate with her when things are going well, and be there to cheer her up when life isn't so easy.