Social media has changed the game when it comes to relationships.It is not possible to have a clean break up when you are bombarded with pictures of your ex on social media.You may be able to find out what your ex is up to by looking at his or her accounts.This can be bad for your health and make you feel worse about the break up.You can't stalker your ex on social media if you limit your contact with it.
Step 1: It's okay to recognize that stalking is painful.
It is normal to check up on your ex on social media after a break up.You may want to know what your ex is doing in order to make him feel better.This can make you feel worse if you use social media for reassurance.If you are using social media to find out where your ex is and then find him or her, this could be illegal.You might need to seek professional treatment if you find yourself doing this.Your brain is in withdrawal after a break up.When you follow your ex on social media, your brain releases dopamine, which keeps you hooked.Digitally ridding yourself of your ex is the best way to move on.
Step 2: All social media sites should be blocked by you.
The world of social media sites gives people access to the lives of others that they may not want to see.It is the most effective way to block your ex from your own social media sites.You should be prepared to ask your ex or mutual friends why you took this action.It is possible that your decision will hurt your ex or mutual friends.Explain that the pain of your break up is too much and that this was the best decision for you and not meant to hurt anyone.Another benefit of blocking someone is that you need to refriend or follow them.You may not be able to do this if you have to ask permission to see the person.
Step 3: You should stop following your ex.
Unfriending or unfollowing someone on social media is a less extreme way to avoid being followed by your ex.It can help prevent you from accessing your ex's sites, limit how much of their life you can see, and minimize how badly you feel.Just as you can block an ex, prepare yourself to deal with invariable questions.You can say that I need a break.I might follow my ex on social media in the future.I need to not be able to see what Gregory is doing.
Step 4: You should limit your ex's presence on your news feed.
Limit what you see on social media if you are concerned that blocking your ex might hurt them.If you want to know what your ex is up to, you could simply stop reading his posts.When you change your relationship status, some social media sites will prompt you to limit your exposure.
Step 5: You shouldn't be following the feeds of your friends.
Depending on your network of friends, your ex may appear on social media sites.If you find out your ex is with a new partner or has a ball without you, these may upset you.Un-following the social media feeds of mutual and/ or close friends will help you avoid seeing your ex's name or image.If you don't want the person to know you're no longer following his or her feeds, play off anything.If a feed is mentioned, say "oh, I must have missed that" or "I only got a quick glance because I didn't notice it until I was at work."It is too painful to see Gregory in your news feeds.I value your friendship and know he does too.I would love to know what you are doing in other ways.
Step 6: Self-control can be practiced.
You may be tempted to look for your ex on social media and search engines.One innocent search or view of a news feed could lead to a night of questioning about things such as whether or not the person who liked your ex's profile picture is a relative or new love interest.By reminding yourself that it is better to avoid your ex's social media and web presence altogether, you aid the process of closure.Self-control can give you more control over your emotions.
Step 7: Contact information should be removed from your devices.
Many devices connect phone numbers to social media.It is possible to prevent yourself from stalking your ex by removing their contact information from their devices.This will keep you from looking up your ex in a moment of weakness and it will also remove a constant reminder of the person.If you need to contact your ex, write their contact information on a piece of paper.You won't see it every day and keep it in a safe place.If they reach out to you, consider blocking your ex's phone number.
Step 8: Why did you break up?
Pull out a sheet of paper and write down the reasons why your relationship didn't work if you want to look at your ex's social media sites.It can keep you from jumping to conclusions.
Step 9: Don't mention your ex.
A partner can be a significant part of your life.You may be tempted to mention your partner even after you break up.This reminds you of the person and makes you want to find out what he or she is doing.You can distract yourself from thinking about the person if you don't talk about your ex.It is normal to mention an ex if it is about a good time.It may feel awkward to not mention the person with friends.If you need to bring up your ex in order to process your feelings, do so, but don't make it a regular habit.Don't mention your ex to your friends.This could remind you of your past and make you want to know more about social media.It is possible for your ex's name to be mentioned or discussed with your friends.If this happens, stop talking until there is a new topic.
Step 10: You should lean on your support system.
It's possible that you aren't feeling great after a break up.This can be a good time to connect with family and friends.If you need it, they can help and provide support, even if you take your devices away.You should be open with your support system.You can let friends and family know that you follow your ex on social media.They can give you advice or remind you that talking about your ex is hurting you.Your support system can distract you from your feelings by doing activities with you.
Step 11: Enjoy your time.
It can take a long time to get over a relationship.It's a great opportunity to rediscover who you are as an individual if you concentrate on yourself.It can help you realize that you don't care what he or she is doing or has feelings for the person, if you do things that are forbidden by your ex.You can get a massage or attend a yoga class, both of which can help you relax.You don't get a chance to read books with your ex.Try new things that your ex doesn't do.This can make it hard to check social media.You may have wanted to learn how to cook, but your ex didn't like it.Taking a class and mastering different dishes can take up a lot of time that you may have otherwise been watching your ex on social media.
Step 12: Get to know new people.
You can distract yourself from your ex and friends by meeting new people.You may have a better time with new friends and acquaintances if you forget about stalking your ex on social media.You can meet new people at new activities or join a group of like-minded people.You can join a running club or go to a different happy hour.Group activities are a great way to meet new people.Don't be shy with new people.A little harmless flirting can boost your self-confidence and distract you from your ex.