Making a girl see that you're worth the chase is a great way to get her attention.If you start groveling at a girl's feet, following her around like a puppy dog, and singing romantic songs to her while playing your acoustic guitar, she'll quickly lose interest.You can let her know that you like her, but make sure to keep her on her toes.If you want to know how to play hard to get, see Step 1 to getting the girl of your dreams.
Step 1: After you meet the girl, keep her on her toes.
If you want to play hard to get, you can't be too open about how you feel about the girl.You have to keep things fun and interesting by teasing her, being playful, gently bumping into her and just generally keeping things light and fun without letting the girl know where you stand.If things get too friendly, pull away and keep her guessing about your true feelings.Encourage her enough to keep her interested while making her wonder how she really feels.You can make her laugh by saying things like, "How much pink can one person really wear?"I have never heard of anyone who is so obsessed with her cat.Joke around with her and let her know that you appreciate her, even if you don't compliment her.
Step 2: It's cool to call or text her.
You don't want the girl you like to feel like you're at her beck and call if you want to play hard to get.Don't pick up on the first ring if she calls you.Let her know that you have something more important to do.Even though you don't want to look like you're too booked to care about her, you may not pick up the phone every time she calls.Give her a few hours to see that you have a lot going on.Don't hang around the phone and annoy the girl you like by texting her what you ate for breakfast or asking what she thinks is the meaning of life.Who says you can't talk to more than one girl at a time?Don't linger over one person and use this time to explore your options.Don't reply immediately when you get a text.If it's hard to wait, make a sandwich and wait fifteen minutes.Wait a few hours to call her back if she calls.Wait until the third ring if you really want to answer the phone.
Step 3: Let her call you first after you exchange phone numbers.
She could not expect you to make the first move.You will have to make a decision after a certain amount of time.You can eventually call her, but she should call you first the next time.You need to make it clear that you won't be doing all of the work.She will not be able to wait around for your call all day.
Step 4: Don't let your feelings get to you too quickly.
Allow her to bring these up.She may feel uncomfortable if you start talking about these topics.The greater the risk that she'll decide that you're simply not interested and move on, the better it will be when you finally decide to make your move.It's not likely that you'll get an enthusiastic response if you tell her you were playing hard-to-get all along and are actually interested in her.You can let her know you like her in subtle ways, such as giving her a compliment, but you shouldn't say anything too extreme or intense, like, "I've never met a girl like you."
Step 5: Don't look at it all the time.
If you act like you only have one free weekend a month, the girl you like will quickly get bored, so you don't want to make it seem like your schedule is wide open and that you would drop everything to hang out with her at any moment.You can tell her you're busy if she invites you to hang out.If you want to hang out, you can accept the invitation, but make it seem like you have a busy week ahead of you.There is a balance between being around enough to get to know her and not looking like you have no social life.If the girl asks you what you're doing this weekend, you may not want to hang out.She may wonder why you don't have anything going on on a Friday and Saturday night.Excuses for why you can't hang out are personal work commitments or hobbies.Try to go on dates once a week.
Step 6: Don't break the barrier too quickly.
If you want the girl to like you, you have to show her some affection.You may not want to hold her hand when you're on a walk or sit down at the movies, at first.Wait until you've hung out a few times, or at least spent some time together, before making a move.The girl will be turned off if you come on too strong.It's important to surprise her with a bit of physical affection.Taking your time will keep the girl guessing because she'll keep wondering if you like her or not.If you put your arm around her the second you pick her up, your intentions will be clear.
Step 7: Don't linger too long.
You should leave after you hang out with the girl.If you flirt with the girl and look into her eyes, she'll see that you like her.Make your way to the exit and let her know that you had a great time.She's happy for the company but not for so long that she wonders, "When is this guy leaving already?"For your dates and when you run into each other in the halls, this is true.If you want to have a great conversation, you have to leave when the conversation is at its peak, not when you're running out of things to say.This will leave her wishing she could talk to you longer, instead of having to come up with ways to fill an awkward silence.Try to keep your dates to no more than a few hours.The intrigue factor is maintained by this.
Step 8: You can open up to her little by little.
Making the girl want more is the trick to playing hard to get.She won't feel like she has to do any work to get to know you if you reveal everything about yourself to her at once.You should make your relationship feel like a challenge, and show her that you have to develop trust in people before opening up about the things that matter to you.Let the girl in a bit more when you hang out with her.When you're together for the first time, you can talk about your hobbies or your dog.You can tell her more about your friends and family when you hang out.She wouldn't know about you at first glance if you talked about your dreams for the future the third time.She will see that you are an interesting person who is worth getting to know, instead of someone who tells her everything at once.
Step 9: Don't be mean when playing hard to get.
Don't try to get her jealous or talk about other girls you like.She doesn't want a man who's a ladies' man and a jerk to her.It's pointless if you're just going after one girl instead of trying to appear mysterious and elusive to a number of girls.There's a difference between being cool and being mean.You should never play hard to get at a girl's feelings.Don't make the girl feel like you're teasing her to be mean, but to flirt with her, as long as the jokes go both ways.She won't be interested if you put her down.
Step 10: You shouldn't be completely open about your plans.
If you have to go somewhere, don't tell her everything you need to know.If you really are going out to womanize, you don't have to tell her where you're going every time you leave.If you have to celebrate Aunt Gerta's retirement this Saturday, just tell me what you're going to do.This leads the girl to wonder about your plans for the weekend.The more busy and mysterious you are, the more the girl will want to be a part of your plans.If she imagines you going on an exotic date with a celebrity instead of taking your little brother to pee wee football practice, then all the better.
Step 11: You have to reveal your true feelings little by little.
Let her know you're still interested after a while.You have been giving her the cold shoulder.You should come around a bit more and be more sensitive.You pushed your way into her heart and made her want you more than she would have if you didn't play hard to get.She will become frustrated if you make her wait too long when you play hard to get.Keep her locked into liking you by leaving her hints.She will appreciate it more if you tell her how you feel, rather than being completely secretive.You can be more honest about your feelings if you like the girl more.She will see that it was worth it.
Step 12: Make sure you don't go too far.
Good measure is the most important thing when playing hard to get.Make sure she is still interested when you travel down the road of playing hard to get.Encourage her to pay more attention to you if she is losing interest in you.If you prefer a dance, remember, it's a game.She will move on to a guy who is more open with his affection if you act like you're completely unavailable.You should let the girl know that you're interested.If you put off hanging out with the girl for weeks to make her think you're busy, she'll look for someone with a more flexible schedule.She'll start to feel snubbed if you don't compliment her or give her any indication that you like her.If you don't give her anything to work with, it will be hard for her to have fun.Would you hang out with a girl that doesn't care about you at all?
Step 13: The chase is not over.
You should keep the relationship interesting even if you get the girl of your dreams by playing hard to get.It doesn't mean that you should be secretive about your feelings forever, but that both you and the girl should feel like you have to work for each other's affection.After you've said how much you like each other, keep your relationship interesting and fresh.It should be mutual.If your whole relationship is based on the girl trying to chase you while you remain mysterious, then she will tire of you quickly.