One of the most important events in a person's life is moving.If your spouse does not want to move, it can become even more of a challenge.You don't have to give up on your dream.You can increase the chances of your spouse agreeing to consider moving when you prepare for the conversation, discuss the pros and cons, and try to come up with a plan together.
Step 1: Don't wait for the wrong time.
Timing is important when you want to talk to your spouse about something they don't like.Try to find a time when you are both relaxed and in good moods.It's best to wait until the weekend when you can both be at work.The two of you are the best people to speak to about the subject.Attempting to convince your spouse to do something in a group setting or when others are around may seem like you are trying to put them on the spot and make them be agreeable so they won't embarrassment themselves in front of others.Your spouse may feel betrayed and become defensive.Start the conversation when you are relaxing on the couch or having a nice dinner.Can we get dinner tonight?I'd like to discuss something with you.It might be a good idea to talk the next day if your spouse is a football fan.Choose a time when both of you can concentrate.
Step 2: Do your homework.
It's a good idea to move to the area for your spouse.If you can find selling points that work in your spouse's favor, that would be great.If you have this information handy, you can use it to convince them of the move.Maybe your spouse doesn't like the weather where you currently live, and your ideal location has temperatures you believe they would like.Maybe the jobs are better there.
Step 3: Write your thoughts down.
If you receive opposition from your spouse, you may forget all of your mental prep work.Write down your reasons for wanting to move.Your notes can be used to check out the topics you want to discuss.It is possible to write down your spouse's responses to your topics.Should you have another discussion about moving, you can come back to the list and think about possible solutions for your spouse's apprehensions.
Step 4: The advantages of the situation should be discussed.
It's time to discuss your reasons for moving with your spouse after you've thought about it for a long time.There are some good reasons for wanting to move.Being open with your spouse can sway their thinking.If you act like your way is the only way, they will shut down and not have room in their mind for negotiation.Mention all the advantages you can think of.Better schools, shorter commute to work, being closer to family or friends, or a safer neighborhood are some of the things that can be included.If you want to move to a smaller home, you should bring up how your mortgage or rent is likely cheaper each month, how you will pay less for utilities, and how much yardwork you have to do.If you and your spouse have long-term goals, talk about how moving can help you achieve them.It is possible to save money on daycare and babysitters by paying a lower mortgage or moving closer to your family.
Step 5: Talk about the negatives.
If you want your spouse to be open-minded about what they want, you also have to recognize any possible drawbacks to moving.Allow your spouse to voice their concerns without being interrupted.Maybe your spouse wants to stay for sentimental reasons, or maybe they don't want to have to go through the stress of selling and buying a home.These are all valid reasons for wanting to stay, and showing that you understand that moving has its drawbacks could help your spouse realize you are willing to listen and not force them into doing what you want.No one wants to feel like their opinion doesn't matter.You are supportive if you assure your spouse that you get them and that they are hesitant to move.This allows your spouse to discuss the matter further, instead of immediately shutting it down.
Step 6: Problem solved.
If you can solve the problem together, you have heard your spouse's concerns.It may be easier to research crime in a new neighborhood if you have done your research.Statistics on how safe the area really is can help resolve the issue.It may be helpful to take a break and discuss the move with outsiders, such as friends and family.If your spouse is reluctant to move because they don't want to be further away from their parents, you can say that you understand.I think we can work out an arrangement so that you can still be there for them even if we don't live as close as we did before, then work on a plan together that includes moving and doing what your spouse also wants to do.This shows your partner that you care about them.
Step 7: You should involve your spouse in the planning.
It is possible that your spouse does not want to be involved in the decision-making process.They can be included in all of the planning.They may be more excited about moving if they feel like they have a say in the situation.Allow your spouse to look at homes and neighborhoods with you.When they are able to see what the home and area are like, they may find that moving presents them with better choices.
Step 8: You should take a trial run.
If you want to move to a new place, plan a vacation there.When your spouse sees what the new environment has to offer, they may change their mind.You can find things to do that your spouse likes by selecting activities that highlight the location.It is possible to make a difference in the world if you plan your trip out ahead of time.For a few months, rent an apartment in the new location.This will allow your spouse to get an idea of what it would be like to live there.You could find that they like the new area because of this, or you could discover that after living there, you wouldn't want to move at all.
Step 9: Work out a solution.
If you can't come to an agreement, try to compromise.Move to your ideal spot until the lease is up if you want to rent out your house for a year.If your spouse is not happy, you can offer to move back into your home.If your spouse is willing to try out a move for you, you must be good on your word and move back if they don't like the new location.Put together a contract to make the agreement official.If you don't like the new place, you'll have to move back to the original home.It may make your spouse feel more confident that you will move if they don't want to stay after a year.