How To There are questions about when you get married.
It isn't anyone's business if you plan to marry.Some people feel like they have the right to dig into your life, but this can make you feel inadequate, or worse.You can either brush the question off with a little humor or be more serious.If you don't want to get married, take some time to acknowledge your feelings and remind yourself of the good qualities you have.
Step 1: Give an honest answer.
Sometimes reality will stop questioners.It is in your rights to tell the truth if someone asks you about your marriage plans.
Step 2: Let them know that your relationship is different right now.
If you are in a relationship, you may want to defend it.You don't have to bow to the pressure of marriage.Our relationship is strong, and we don't want to rush or put pressure on each other, like getting my business off the ground.
Step 3: Tell them to stop.
Questions about when you are getting married can be very revealing.Feel free to tell a family member or close friend to butt out.That is a pretty personal question.I would rather not get into that right now.
Step 4: Change the subject quickly.
If you prefer, you can shift attention away from the topic of marriage.Ask the person about something else instead of directly responding to their question.The conversation will move into different territory if that's how it is.Let's talk about the holiday plans instead.Will you make the pie or turkey this year?I remembered that next week is the graduation of Mariah.Is she excited?
Step 5: It's fun to poke fun at yourself.
People digging into your personal life with questions about getting married can make you feel incomplete or inadequate.It doesn't have to be serious.A good way to respond to someone is to say, "Oh, I have actually been asked three times, but I've always said no."I want to get pregnant first.
Step 6: Turn the tables.
It can feel like a burden when people ask you questions about getting married.Take some of the burden away by reminding yourself that it isn't anyone's business.If you want to deal with things, try shocking or poking fun at them.Do you want me to marry you?Yes!I will wed?I did get married, so I would like to keep having sex.I did not send you an invitation.
Step 7: Tell them to ask your partner.
People may pester you with questions about getting married if you are in a relationship.Come back with something like "Oh, when are we getting married?"My guess is as good as yours.Why don't you ask him?
Step 8: They may mean something.
When you are getting married, some people will pester you.Marriage is seen as a part of success in life by others.You can acknowledge if they mean well without changing who you are.
Step 9: Accept that you have feelings as well.
You don't have to ignore how it makes you feel if you're bothered by people asking about marriage.Don't let the questions affect who you are.Some people like to wallow.If your aunt at Thanksgiving keeps asking about marriage, give yourself the weekend to be alone with ice cream and a movie.You might feel better after that.Staying active will make other people feel better.
Step 10: You should remind yourself of your good qualities.
Marriage doesn't determine everything you're worth.You have your own strengths, talents, and goals.When you are down or need recentering, taking stock of these can give you a boost.Make a list of the things you're proudest of.You can make a list of things other people think are great about you.
Step 11: If you are single or unmarried, make the most of it.
Marriage can seem like a big goal if you are not interested in it.The single or unmarried life has perks too.Whenever you have questions about getting married, remind yourself of these.Being single or unmarried can give you more time to do what you want.It's a good idea to hang out with friends who are single, in relationships, and married.This can give you an idea of what's going on.