It can be difficult to spot a player before you get attached to him.You can pick up on some of the signs if you watch the way he behaves in both private and public settings.
Step 1: It's a good idea to watch out for over-confidence.
There is a difference between being confident and being arrogant.If you think this guy seems a little too confident in his efforts to win you over, it could be because he's had a lot of practice.A lot of people become nervous around people they're attracted to.A confident guy is not necessarily a player, but if he doesn't break a sweat while asking you out or seems rather detached about the whole deal, he might not be that serious about you.
Step 2: The age gap can be calculated.
It could be a bad sign if the man is older than you.Older players target younger, less experienced women because they are easier to trick.The age gap may work against an older man if he shows other signs of being a player.Not every player is an older man.There are many young players in the world.
Step 3: Go to the phone.
Look at his phone when he's texting someone.You don't need to look at the screen in order to learn.If the guy is a player, he will pull his phone away faster than you can blink.If he's always on his phone or looks at it more than you, that could be a bad sign.This piece of advice is not an invitation to look at his call log.Many people think that is an invasion of privacy, and even guys who aren't players might get upset.Being over protective of his phone is a sign that you don't need his text or call history as evidence.
Step 4: Track him down.
When you're not around, pay attention to the places he frequents.If he still goes to the places he used to go when he was single and picking up women, there is a good chance that he is still charming the ladies there.This doesn't mean that you should follow him.Asking around and finding out where he was when it happened is a better way to find out.You might be able to visit the spot you met him at.
Step 5: Don't be deceived by flattery.
You probably shouldn't trust someone who is quick to flatter you.This type of talk is often used by players to win over women.He gives you some kind of compliment.It could be a sign that he isn't putting much thought into who you are and what makes you special, if they're general, overused, and complimentary.You should be careful around men who compliment you.Pet names that develop after an extended relationship are usually okay, but be wary around guys who use pet names from day one.
Step 6: Don't dismiss the dishonest.
People are also liars.It can be difficult to catch him in the middle of a lie.If he's lied to you more than once, this is even more true.Lying about his past, where he spent time recently, or who he's been with are some of the most common ones to watch out for.If you confront him about something, watch his reaction.Players will try to laugh it off.They may admit to the truth but still blame you for their lie.
Step 7: The player's life story should be considered.
Most players are egotistical and will start talking about themselves before you have a chance to ask.If a guy hasn't shared much about his life, ask him about it and watch for inconsistencies.Everyone wants to look good in front of someone they're attracted to, but the player will usually look a little too good.His life story seems scripted and too good to be true.Pay attention to what's happening.It could be that he's lying about who he is if some of the details don't match up.
Step 8: Tell your own story.
Most players don't have time to worry about other people since they are too focused on themselves.A guy who is interested in you will want to know about your life, but a player won't take the time to find out.You won't remember what you say if you're a skilled player.Things you've talked about in previous conversations should be brought up.If he makes a habit of forgetting, it's usually a bad sign.
Step 9: Talk about your past relationships.
Discuss his past relationships with him.The player can use these conversations to manipulate their feelings.He may want to know about your past relationships and how you felt during those times.He can use what he knows about you to his advantage.He stresses that he's been hurt in the past when he talks about his past relationships.If he plays it up to evoke pity from you, it may be another manipulation tactic.
Step 10: Defend your innocence.
Players accuse the women they're seeing of cheating on them.This is done to distract attention from their own guilt and cheating ways.
Step 11: You should value your own time.
When you invite the guy, pay attention to how he responds.A player won't value your time.On short notice, players usually ask you out.When they don't have anything better lined up for an evening, they turn you into a backup plan and ask you out.It could mean that he doesn't want to commit in case another offer comes up, if you always get a "Maybe" from the guy when you ask him out.A man who frequently cancels last-minute might do so for the same reason.
Step 12: It's a good idea to avoid hot-and-cold behavior.
Players can sway from one extreme to the other in their affections.He'll start bombarding you with more attention than you can handle if you don't hear from him in weeks.He might be spending his time with other women because he's too busy with them to bother you.He lost his other options or lost interest in them during his hot periods.In an effort to fill the void, he returns to you.
Step 13: Change the location of your meeting.
You can ask him for a daytime date if you meet at night.Most players will resist and reject the idea, and the excuses they give for doing so are pretty meaningless.Changing the nature of the date is possible if you can't change the time.Instead of spending time alone or going out for drinks, go somewhere with lots of people and less alcohol.If he's a player, he won't be willing to make the change because his odds of getting you into bed will decrease.
Step 14: Keep eye contact.
When you're in a public place try to keep eye contact.Your eyes don't need to be locked the entire time, but he should be directed to your way for most of the date.If his eyes are constantly wandering toward other people, there's a problem.A wandering eye stuck on another woman is a bad sign.
Step 15: Move slowly.
Whether or not he gets to enjoy it, a player only cares about your body.Taking things slow with every guy you meet is one of the best ways to get rid of players.The players won't be able to stick around.
Step 16: It's time to take it public.
If you're in a relationship with a player, you are not the only woman he's seeing.Making your relationship public will make it easier for his lies to be exposed to both you and the other women, and he will usually reject the idea of being public about it.It will be good to know the way he treats you in public.He might be trying to keep your relationship a secret if he doesn't treat you with any special affection.If he thinks there's a better chance of being caught, he might not spend time with you in certain places.Also check social media accounts.It could be a sign that he is trying to hide his relationship with you.He might not update his relationship status on social media.
Step 17: You should get to know the friends.
Try to hang out with his friends.Most players don't want you near their friends because they're afraid of another man stealing you.He takes the risk that someone within the group will reveal information about his true self if he allows you to meet his friends.If you meet his friends, watch his behavior.When they're hanging around their friends, some players will show their true colors.
Step 18: Introduce yourself to your family and friends.
He should be invited to meet your friends and family.Since a player isn't serious about you, he will usually refuse such offers or make excuses to get out of them at the last minute.People with a keen eye might be able to spot a player.A player who agrees to meet your loved ones would have to take the risk of being discovered by someone like that.
Step 19: Ask for opinions.
If there are any rumors about the guy, ask around.Anyone who isn't attached to him will not need to cover for him, even if they are in his own social circle.Ask your friends to investigate on your behalf.One of the connections that you don't have might have helpful information.Caution is needed when talking with the guy's ex-girlfriends.Some exes will paint a bad picture in order to get back at them.An ex-girlfriend may take out her negative feelings on you if she believes that you stole the guy away from her.
Step 20: You can watch how others are treated.
They lack respect for everyone because they don't respect you.It can be hard to tell when a guy is disrespecting you, but it will probably be easier to detect it.Pay attention to the way he talks about other women.A sense of disrespect toward women in general can be shown by disrespect he shows toward female relatives.You can watch how he treats workers when you visit.The staff members may relish in the authority they have over the players.