We have all been through a nasty break-up.It doesn't mean that the person in our next relationship will hurt us the same.It is important that we learn how to trust and be vulnerable again.In the next one, we can look for signs of compatibility in which to build a strong and solid foundation to allow a long- lasting relationship to blossom.
Step 1: Change your surroundings.
After a break-up, we need change in our lives.It can be as simple as rearranging furniture or buying new curtains.Purchase new bedding as well.When you're getting over someone, there's nothing like new bedsheets or a duvet.Repainting the walls in your home is a great way to start again.Go with warm colors.Warmer colors can help you get over a tough break up.
Step 2: Reunite with friends.
When we are in a relationship, we can be guilty of letting friendship slip.Think about who you lost touch with.Someone from your past will enjoy spending time with you again.
Step 3: You should forgive and forget your ex.
You have to forgive yourself and your partner for their issues in order to move on.Romantic relationships are not always one-sided.You should also let go of any guilt.We all do the best that we can in any given moment.If you see areas where you were wrong in the relationship, make a vow to never do it again.That is the best we can do because no one is perfect.Life is about learning and growing from your mistakes.You will be kissed again one day.
Step 4: Have a day at the spa.
There is nothing better than a day at the spa.There are packages for all budgets at most spas.The separate treatments can cost a lot.Many have day passes that are reasonable.The general amenities of a day pass include access to the hot tub, sauna, shower facilities, steam room and the swimming pool.
Step 5: Enroll in a class.
Are you interested in web design?Do you want to learn how to make sushi?You should take a class in something that interests you.Along with meeting new people, you will also be acquiring new skills.You will discover talents you never knew you had, and this will keep your mind off the break up.
Step 6: You can volunteer your services and talents.
We all have the ability to use a little perspective.Hearing another person's problems will help us realize how lucky we are.Volunteer at a retirement home, an animal shelter, a charity home or be a Big Sister or Brother.Sometimes we need to be reminded that someone else is worse off than us.One of the biggest rewards of volunteering is how grateful the people you are helping are.
Step 7: Don't talk to your ex.
It could even trick you into thinking there is still a chance it will work again, because all this does is stir up old feelings.If you have to, change your phone number, get rid of all emails, texts, and voice mails.Don't put too much thought into it, just do it.Not going back into a relationship that didn't work the first time around will likely save you a lot of pain.
Step 8: Take it slow.
There is no reason to rush back into a relationship.Enjoy this time in your life.You can see what it is like to go on dates again.There are seasons to life.Sometimes we are involved with someone but not always.If you think about the positives of being single again, you will realize that you are not in a relationship.You don't have to ask someone what they want to do.You can do it now.You have more time to hang out with friends.Make sure you take the necessary time to heal and process what happened.You could end up in the same kind of relationship again if you don't.
Step 9: Trust is learned to trust.
Pistanthrophobia is a fear of trusting another person after being hurt.It is a difficult thing to get over.If you want to be in a happy relationship again, you need to get past it.It is not possible to blame the entire male or female population.It is not logical or fair.If you don't allow yourself to be vulnerable again, you could be hurting yourself in the end.You don't want to do that when someone comes along who has only your best intentions at heart, because you could end up overlooking him or her entirely.
Step 10: You have to have faith in your instincts.
You probably learned a lot from your previous relationship, as we are all works in progress.In the next one, you probably won't overlook what you overlooked in the last one.When choosing a partner, allow your hard-won lessons to guide you.The area of love has more experience that helps us make better decisions down the road.
Step 11: Don't have expectations.
Think of a night out as a few hours of time.It isn't going to be a life-changing event.It is possible to say yes to the first person who comes along, even if you are not into them.Don't be anxious.The universe is watching over you.
Step 12: You can go on dates with other couples.
Let's face it.It can be awkward when you are getting to know someone.Double-dating with other couples is a great way to combat this.You don't have to worry about how to keep the conversation flowing between you.You can get feedback on what your friends think of the person when they are in the restroom.Those who are fun, know how to relax, and who you are comfortable with are the best criteria for double-dating.
Step 13: Don't talk about your ex on the first dates.
No matter what you say, your date is likely to think that you are over the relationship.When you are only in the dating phase, it is an unpleasant zone that neither of you owe each other.There is no need to cross that line.When you have established a certain amount of trust, it is a good time to address past relationships.
Step 14: Don't try to find the same person as your previous partner.
It can be difficult to find someone with the same characteristics to you.You broke up for a reason, and maybe the best thing you can do is find someone completely different from that person!If you try to pigeon-hole someone to look like them, you could be missing out on a great person.The more you accept someone for who they are, the more relaxed you will both be.
Step 15: Make sure you have great communication skills.
Does your partner bring you up or down?A good communicator knows how to separate the person from the issue while being firm and soft on them.Someone who doesn't have good communication skills does the opposite.She or he attacks the person and ignores the problem.Poor communication between the two of you is not the end of the world.Improvements can be learned relatively quickly and put to use if both of you are willing.
Step 16: Take small steps.
You usually need more time to trust after a bad break-up.The right person will appreciate that you are at a point in your life where you don't want to go into the first relationship.
Step 17: Someone is going in the same direction as you.
Opposites often don't work on a fundamental level.A lasting and deep connection can be made with someone if they are compatible.If your partner only wants to make money to party with, then you may want to rethink your relationship.
Step 18: Don't trust your gut but use your head.
You can learn from your past mistakes.Determine if he or she is trustworthy by using your best judgement.When entering into a relationship again, don't let your emotions get the best of you.If you feel like you can't trust someone, back off from making a commitment.It could save you a long time.
Step 19: You should not enter a relationship if you don't respect the person.
A healthy relationship requires mutual respect.You will always be looking at him or her with contempt if you don't have it.If the person you are with always drinks to excess and humiliates you in front of your family or friends, it will eventually take its toll on the relationship.The idea is to keep an eye out for behaviors that make you uncomfortable.Chances are high that you won't be comfortable with this person later on if you're not used to how he or she is in the early phases.