It's great to have an ex who wants you back.The process of making her like you again begins right after you break up.It is possible that everything you do can hurt your case.You can win her back by taking the time to analyze your relationship, work on yourself and communicate with her.
Step 1: The no contact rule is a good rule to try.
Determine the amount of time you won't have with your ex.In person meetings, phone calls, text messages, and social media are included.You can't initiate contact or respond to her.Both of you will have time to heal and work out your feelings.The no contact period lasts from 21 to 30 or 45 days.You have to stick to the plan.No contact will allow you to heal and allow your ex-girlfriend time to miss you.This period will allow you to cool off and work through any negative feelings if the relationship ended badly.
Step 2: Stop following her on social media.
If you see pictures of her and know what she is doing, you will want to contact her.It will be more difficult for you to find out about her life through social media.You may be able to find out that she is dating someone else.You should unfriend or block your ex-girlfriend on social media if you need to.You don't have to tell your ex-girlfriend that you are taking these steps.You should not post how sad or depressed you are about the break up.
Step 3: The relationship can be evaluated.
You have time to think about the relationship since you are no longer talking to your ex.Consider the pros and cons of a relationship.Think about the things that you did well and what you didn't.If you get another chance with her, think of the things you can do differently.A piece of paper can be used to write a pros and cons list.This will help you think about the relationship.
Step 4: Take care of yourself
You want to be the best version of yourself.You will be more attractive to your ex when you contact her again.Exercise and eat healthy.Spend time with people who love you.Do things that you didn't have time to do when you were in a relationship.If you don't feel like going out a lot, it's fine.Spending time alone watching movies is one way to heal from a relationship.If there are personality issues that you had in the relationship such as jealousy, anger, and being controlling, you should begin to work on them.If you need help, get it from a professional.Write down the type of man you want to be and begin to work on it.
Step 5: Don't talk about her in a negative way.
It's tempting to badmouth your ex after a break up.You can say things that you don't really mean.It's not helpful to say bad things about her to her friends.Your chances of getting back together with her may be ruined if your ex finds out what you have been saying.The details of your relationship should be kept private.Don't post about your relationship on social media.This includes subliminal messages such as song lyrics.
Step 6: Contact your former partner.
Reach out to your ex once the no contact period is over.This can be accomplished through email, phone call, letter, or text message.If you write an email or letter, tell your ex that you have accepted the break-up, apologize for anything you did wrong, and tell her something interesting about your life since then.If you send a text message, try to say something that starts a conversation, is flirtatious, and doesn't bring up anything negative.Text "Hey, I was watching X on TV and I it made me think of you" to them.You should not mention getting back together or that you love her in your initial contact.
Step 7: Accept your mistakes and apologize.
You have had time to think about your relationship.It's time to tell her that you're sorry for your mistakes.You put a lot of thought into what happened between you and this shows her that you have matured.She will be able to see how you have taken steps to become a better man.It can be done on the phone or in person.Text messaging is not a good way to have long conversations.
Step 8: Ask her out.
When you and your ex have been talking, ask her if she would like to go on a date or hang out.Try to be nice when you ask her.Don't make this a big deal.Say, "Hey, do you want to go get coffee?""Let's get together to catch up."You can say "hang out" instead of "date."You could say, "It's only coffee if she is reluctant."What would it do?Do not push the issue if she doesn't want to meet with you.Give her time.Let me know if you change your mind, I respect that.It would be great to see you.
Step 9: Woo her.
To win her back, you have to do all of the things that made her interested in you the first time.Send her flowers or write her notes again if you used to.Think of it as a new relationship.She needs to fall for you again.Don't be needy or beg her to be with you again, even if you want to impress her.This will make you look weak.She feels sorry for you, but you want her to take you back because you are a great guy.Do not say, "I can't live without you."
Step 10: Bringing up the past is not advisable.
They are starting over again.Positive things that made your relationship work the first time are what you should focus on.Continue to make her laugh by being funny.Prepare a nice meal for her if she enjoyed your cooking.Try to build new memories with her.She needs to know how things will be different this time.
Step 11: Start small.
When you get back together, you can't pick up where you left off.This is a new relationship.Take your time and get to know each other.You don't want to put pressure on her to get back together.Building a strong friendship is important.Don't text or call everyday.On dates, do activities together.She likes to lear her likes, dislikes, and habits again.Don't spend a lot of time on the physical side of the relationship.
Step 12: Know when it is time to give up.
You need to respect her decision if she completely resists your efforts.You need to move on if she tells you to leave her alone or not.Being too needy and persistent could ruin your chances of getting her back in the future.She should be respectful of her new relationship if she has a new boyfriend.Don't try to get her to break up with her new boyfriend.Wait and see if her new relationship is serious or just a rebound.