When you realize that your actions have hurt someone else, you feel a sinking sensation in your stomach.To correct a wrong, you must be willing to deal with consequences, apologize and move on.A clerical error at work can be similar to a personal injury.Learning to deal with mistakes is one of the most important opportunities for personal growth.
Step 1: It's time to recognize that you did something wrong.
Fight the urge to bury the secret.It takes a stronger person to notice a mistake.
Step 2: Think about the consequences of your actions.
Adults must also take time to see who they affected, and in some cases it may be multiple people.
Step 3: Consider timing.
If there are future consequences associated with a wrong, you should try to repair the damage before it gets out of hand.In cases where confrontation may hurt them and cooler heads would prevail, waiting a little while to talk to the person may be the correct thing to do.
Step 4: Think about the reasons you acted the way you did.
This isn't a hunt for excuses, but a way to help you avoid similar behavior in the future.
Step 5: Don't blame others.
It's natural to blame others.Taking full responsibility may be the easiest way to correct the wrong.
Step 6: Don't make excuses or be defensive.
Excuses for a wrong can make the victim feel like you are avoiding an apology.
Step 7: You should apologize in a straightforward and honest way.
Explain to the person that you are sorry for what you have done.
Step 8: Allow the person to ask you questions.
They can ask why or say something about being hurt.Even if their response is emotional, try to avoid defensiveness.They may not have been preparing a response after you apologized.It's normal to react in an emotional way.
Step 9: Don't ask for forgiveness
Forgiveness is theirs to control, just as an apology is yours.If they are ready to forgive, it should come soon.
Step 10: If necessary, repeat with the other parties.
You should apologize to everyone who was affected.
Step 11: Take a moment to think about the interaction.
Allow yourself to be sad or guilty.It is likely that the confrontation will be difficult for you.
Step 12: What did you learn from the experience?
Behavioral changes can be made to avoid the situation in the future.
Step 13: Discuss the process you went through with someone.
It could be an emotional time for you.It is possible to speak to a friend or counselor.
Step 14: Move on.
You will be able to approach future situations with more maturity and experience once you have completed these steps.
Step 15: You don't want to feel guilt after making these changes.
After the wronged parties have moved on, you won't hurt yourself by worrying about things that are out of your control.The motto is " Nobody is perfect."