Asking out a stranger is a great way to find someone, but forming a relationship with someone you just met can be difficult.If a person is ready for a relationship, it can be hard to tell if a stranger is interested.Reading people's cues, communicating openly, and spending time with the new person in your life will prepare you for turning a casual meeting into a real relationship.
Step 1: Make eye contact while smiling.
If you want to get to know someone, smile and make eye contact.They are probably okay with you talking to them if they smile back.They aren't interested if they ignore you or frown at you.Leave them alone and look for someone else.
Step 2: Ask questions
Ask questions to get to know the person.At first, it should be light and friendly.Don't ask if they're single or looking for a relationship right away.If they have lived in the area for a long time, or like the music that is playing, ask.
Step 3: Listen to what they say.
They aren't interested if they're answering everything with a single "yes" or "no", avoiding eye contact, or paying attention to something else.They might be having a bad day, or they might already be seeing someone.They are probably interested if they are asking questions of their own, sounding excited about what you are saying, and maintaining eye contact.
Step 4: Show them you are interested.
Start showing your interest if your conversation is going well.This isn't the time to be explicit or give them a lot of praise.It is best to start out with small hints, like a compliment about their hairstyle or a suggestion that the two of you should hang out soon.
Step 5: They can call or text the next day.
They might lose interest if they wait more than a few days to get in touch.Wait overnight, then call or text them.Referred to your earlier conversation will give them something to respond to.If you talked about how great the music was at the club when you met, tell them that you heard the same DJ is going to be playing at a bigger club soon.Try again if you don't get a response within a day or two.Don't be angry or accusatory.Leave them alone if you don't hear back.
Step 6: Ask for a date.
Ask them if they would like to go out on a date with you.It is possible to be as specific as possible.Ask them if they want to go to a movie on Saturday night.They might not be interested if they say that they can't make it and they do not offer an alternative time.Don't push them.
Step 7: On the date, act warm and friendly.
You barely know this person so don't try to be romantic.You should show interest on the first date, but keep it friendly.Listen to their responses and ask questions.If you want to see them again, tell them directly.
Step 8: Ask about their life.
Before you go on a date with a stranger, take the time to find out who they are.If you want to be in a relationship with someone without knowing what they do for a living, where they are from, or who they live with, you should know basic facts about their life first.
Step 9: Keep in touch with them.
Not talking to someone for a few days can make them think you have lost interest in them.You should meet up with them at least two or three times a week.It is not necessary to have long, personal conversations every time you talk.You can still show them you're still interested by sending them a funny picture or asking how their day was.
Step 10: Pick a location.
Don't just go out for dinner and go back again.Get an idea of what this person likes and how they act under different circumstances on a variety of dates.Don't go to places that make conversation difficult.Hiking, playing board games, and trying a new kind of food are all great date ideas for people who are getting to know each other.Ask them what they would like to do.
Step 11: You can learn about their relationship history.
A person's relationship histories can tell you a lot.It is a good sign if they have had several long-term relationships.If they have never dated anyone seriously, have a history of tumultuous relationships, or are still involved with another person, you may want to wait.Someone shouldn't be questioned about their past.Bring up your own past first and keep the conversation casual.They might be interested in talking about it if they join.
Step 12: Listen with care.
It takes a lot of listening to get to know someone.Keeping eye contact, asking follow-up questions, and referencing what they have told you in your own conversation are ways to show them you care.If they said that they wanted to be an artist when they were a kid, offer to take them to an art museum on your next date.
Step 13: Common interests and outlooks are things to look for.
Not every date is a long-term relationship.Make sure the person you are interested in has the same interests.It is easier to have a successful relationship if you have similar lifestyles and attitudes.
Step 14: There are warning signs.
Everything about someone can seem amazing when you meet them.If you rush into a relationship with a stranger, you can end up with someone who disrespects or abuses you.Before you make a long-term commitment, check for warning signs of abuse.If you caught them lying, felt unsafe around them, noticed them being rude or abusive to someone else, or had them get angry at you over a minor issue, don't see them again!A major red flag is coming on too strong.If you just met someone who immediately pushes you to form a relationship, declares their love for you, or contacts you constantly, be very cautious.
Step 15: Tell them how much you like them.
Make sure they know how you feel.It can scare people off if you tell them you love them too early.Tell them what you like about them.I've been having a great time with you.Being around you is great because you're someone I really connect with.
Step 16: Meet their friends.
Get to know each others friends by setting up a few casual get togethers at a local bar, restaurant, or shopping center.Ask your friends how they know about your date, and encourage them to do the same.
Step 17: Get involved in their lives.
Show them some interest in their hobbies or interests.If they love baseball, offer to go to a game with them.Help them de-stress if they have a demanding job or school schedule.
Step 18: Discuss your long-term goals.
Discuss long-term goals to get an idea of what they are looking for in a relationship.You can casually mention your plans for the future and then ask what theirs are.A serious relationship will work out if they want something similar to what you want.If you have a specific plan for your future, make sure to mention it to them.It would be important to mention if you plan to move to the other side of the country.
Step 19: Ask them to be in a relationship with you.
You want to be in a serious relationship with them if you tell them that.Ask them how they feel about you.You don't need to make a big statement.Say something like "I've felt so happy since we started seeing each other, and I'm starting to really care about you."What would you think about making this official?
Step 20: Continue to learn more about them.
When you get into a relationship, don't stop trying.It will take time to get to know this person because they are relatively new to you.Listen to what they have to say.