You and your partner might have had stress at work.Maybe you didn't know how to deal with stress in a constructive way, which caused arguments between you.You can talk about stress with your partner if you prepare for the conversation, speak with them daily and work on destressing.
Step 1: Look for the best time.
You might be the kind of person who likes to talk when you get home, but not everyone is like that.Consider your partner's communication style and how they are after work.You may want to discuss a plan with your partner.The two of you should talk at a time that works best for you.It's best to work during dinner or an hour after you get home.Some people like to rest before having a serious discussion.After coming home from work, your partner may prefer some space.You could go to a restaurant or a cafe for a talk.This will allow you to talk and limit the distraction at home.
Step 2: Limit the amount of time that you can be distracted.
Before you start talking, make sure you are present.Don't use your phone or watch television during this time.When you have to give the kids a bath or when your partner is responding to emails, don't have these daily talks.
Step 3: Discuss your relationship tactfully.
For the duration of your talk, keep on topic.Discuss the stress you are having outside of your relationship.Discuss work, the kids, or your friends.Don't make this time about the issues that you two are having and recognize that your partner has a life and identity separate from you.
Step 4: Look at your partner.
If you are ready to begin having these conversations, approach your partner.A simple question like "Hey honey, wanna talk about how work was today?" can open the floor for a larger discussion about stress.
Step 5: Open up about how you feel.
Discuss your own stressors of the day with your partner.Tell your partner how you feel.Discuss any stress or problems that have arisen in your day.I had a rough day at work.I have a lot of work to do tomorrow because my boss changed my deadline from next week to this Wednesday.
Step 6: Discuss your stress.
It's a good idea to rate yourself from 1 to 10 based on how stressed you are.A score of 10 can be the most stressed and a 1 the least.I am at a 5 today.It was not bad.What is your score?
Step 7: Take a listen.
Listen to them about their stress.Don't interrupt or interrupt.If they don't ask for advice, try to solve their problems.It feels more connected if your partner listens to you.You can indicate that you are listening by repeating what they said.It sounds like your boss is targeting you because you were late.
Step 8: There is an appropriate limit.
Set a limit on how long you are talking about stress.Take one hour to do it.It is good to talk about your frustration, but not about stress.You can talk about your successes and fun that you had during the day.Tell jokes and have fun with it.Your partner may have recently received a promotion.Take some time to celebrate.
Step 9: Keep an eye on their lives.
Continue to keep an eye on each other.Talk to your partner about their hopes for the future, any goals they might have, vacations the two of you would like to take together, or just any items of interest in general like a new book they are reading.Do you think you will want to stay at this job for a few more years?
Step 10: You can create a list of things to do.
Make a list of things you can do together to work through your issues.Maybe you and your partner like to cook, read, or watch a show.Time to do those things together.It's a good idea to exercise together as well.If you can, give each of you time to de-stress.
Step 11: Ask what you can do.
If your partner needs help, see if you can help.Maybe the kids need more help with their homework while you are away.If you can, take some stress off of your partner by stepping in more.They might be able to help take some stress from you.
Step 12: Nice things to do for them
Show your affection and kindness to your partner.Do the dishes after dinner or pick up their drycleaning.They don't have to cook if you bring home food.Your partner doesn't have to pick up the slack if you keep up with your own responsibilities.
Step 13: You can ask your partner for assistance.
It is important to help your partner, but it is also important that you get help as well.Ask your partner if you need help around the house or with a project.Allow yourselves to be kind to each other.Can you pick up the kids from school this week?I need more time at the office to work on my presentation.
Step 14: It's a good idea to visit the doctor.
If your stress gets out of hand, it's a good idea to see a doctor.It is possible that your stress is so high that it is raising your blood pressure.In addition to medical treatment, try to use other methods like deep breathing or taking a vacation.