It can be difficult to know what to do if you have feelings for another person.If it's worth telling her how you feel, start by examining your feelings and the situation more closely.Plan the conversation carefully if you decide to tell her.Listen to what she has to say.
Step 1: If you are willing to risk your friendship, consider it.
Before you tell a female friend that you like her, you need to consider this.If she doesn't feel the same way, revealing your feelings may cause the relationship to end.The two of you might have a rewarding romantic relationship if she returns your feelings.
Step 2: There are signs that she is interested in.
She might have feelings for you if she interacts with you in the same way.Body language cues, such as smiling, leaning in towards you, watching your mouth, touching you lightly, are some things to watch for.It's a good idea to message you often, either to chat with you or to make plans.Showing genuine interest in you and asking lots of questions about yourself.When you do this, place an elbow on the table in front of them.
Step 3: Imagine if you didn't have a chance to tell her.
Taking the opposite perspective may help you decide if you should tell her how you feel.Imagine if she moved away and you didn't tell her how you felt.Is it a missed opportunity?Is it sad that you didn't tell her?You may want to let her know as soon as possible.If the idea of not telling her makes you feel better, it might be a good idea to say nothing.
Step 4: Discuss your feelings for the girl with a friend.
It's not likely to help you decide if you should tell her.Tell your friend what you are thinking.They can give you a perspective on the situation, which could help you make a decision.If your friend has ever said anything about liking you or flirting with you, or if they have seen you and this person together, they might tell you.
Step 5: You can flirt with her to see what happens.
flirting with her could help you decide if you want to tell your friend how you feel.Give your friend a compliment, make eye contact with her more often, and maybe even engage in some playful teasing.You could say, "You look amazing in that dress!"You might say, "You're so sweet! I can't take my eyes off of you!"I could just eat you up!
Step 6: You can talk to your friend at a good time.
It's important to make sure you have time and privacy to tell someone you like them.When might be a good time for your friend to meet up with you?Don't talk with her in front of other people.It's a good idea to be alone for the conversation and in a place you both are comfortable with.If you want to meet in public, you can either meet at a corner table at the cafe or at your house.
Step 7: Take deep breaths to control your emotions.
Take a few deep breaths if you are nervous about telling her.Hold the breath for 5 seconds and exhale through your mouth as you count the number of 5.It will be easier to talk if you feel calm.During the rest of the conversation, remind yourself to breathe deeply.
Step 8: Don't distract yourself so you can focus on the conversation.
You can either sit across from her at a table or turn towards her on a sofa.Put away anything that might distract you during the conversation, such as your cell phone, laptop, or tablet, if you want to make eye contact with her.Turn off the television in order to remove any other distraction.
Step 9: You can express your feelings for her in a straightforward way.
Tell the girl that you like her.Don't say anything strange around the bush.Come out and say it!It will be easier to get through the conversation if you take the leap.I think I have developed some romantic feelings for you, and you are one of my closest friends.If you don't feel the same way, it's fine, but I want you to know that I might regret it.I don't know if you feel the same way, but I should tell you.
Step 10: If you are concerned about how she might react, text her.
It is fine to send her a text if you are not too worried about what she will say.The text should be short and simple.If she doesn't feel the same way, try to let her know that it's okay.If she is not comfortable responding, try to end the text.She may be annoyed by a text at an odd hour, so plan to send the text in the afternoon or evening.Try texting her something along the lines of, "Hello Melanie."I like spending time with you and I think I have feelings for you as well.You could text her, "Christina, I'm going out on a limb here, but I think I am falling for you."Let me know if you don't feel the same way.
Step 11: After you tell your friend how you feel, listen to her response.
Give your friend time to respond and listen.She may tell you right away that she does not like you, or she may ask for more time to process what you have said.She responds, listen attentively, and don't interrupt her.Try to keep a neutral expression while she talks to show you are listening to her.
Step 12: Prepare for her to be a bit shocked.
Try to prepare yourself for the shock your friend may feel after you tell her how you feel.When someone finds out that a friend likes them, this is a normal reaction.She might not have thought of you in this way before.After telling your friend you like her, you could play a game with another friend.They can help you figure out how you should respond by pretending to be the girl you like.
Step 13: If she likes you back, make plans to have fun with her.
She will make plans to do something with you if you reveal your feelings to your friend.Just plan a casual outing, such as going to see a movie or get coffee, and schedule your first date.Say something like, "Would you like to go see a movie with me on Saturday evening?" or "I would love to hang out with you this week."When are you free?
Step 14: If your friend doesn't feel the same way, respond graciously.
If you want to preserve the friendship, you should accept your friend's decision if she doesn't return your feelings.Let her know that you value her friendship and that they don't feel the same way about you.She was honest with you and thank you for that.Say something like, "I understand."I value your friendship and honesty.
Step 15: Allow yourself to experience your feelings.
You can cry about being rejected by your friend once you are on your own.You are allowed to feel sad.Don't dwell on these feelings for too long.If you allow yourself to cry about what happened for a couple of days, but then do something fun to distract yourself, you will be able to feel better.
Step 16: If you need space, distance yourself from your friend.
Spending time with a friend who doesn't reciprocate your feelings can be difficult.Don't make new plans for a while, it's okay to cancel plans you've made with her.You can reduce how often you see her by avoiding places you know she will be.Say something like, "Janet, I need to work through some things before we spend time together again."I hope you understand.