You're good at introducing yourself to a girl in a crowded room and getting her attention.If you're outgoing or shy, you can keep the conversation going with a girl by following some of the steps in this article.
Step 1: Start by asking her to talk.
You should pay attention to the scenario and mold your invitation to it.When she's shopping for shoes, don't ask her a random astronomy question.If you want to talk to a girl you don't know, try making a recommendation.If you see a beautiful girl at a coffee shop, and she's undecided about her order, then recommend your favorite drink or tell her that you're going to guess what she wants just by looking at her.Start with some common ground when you know the girl.If you're in school with each other, make a comment about your classes or extracurricular activities.Ask for her help with something you're working on if you are working together.Ask her for a favor.Ask her to watch your phone while you get her something to drink.Girls will be more interested in you if they received a favor for you.It will make them feel trustworthy and curious at the same time.Pay her a compliment.If she said something amazing in class or if she looked great that day, tell her.She should be praised for her hair, smile, or dress.Stay away from her feminine features.Make sure your compliment is legit.
Step 2: Ask her a few questions
You want to show her that you're interested in her while at the same time deciding if she's worth your interest.A good question will make her think, laugh, and like you all at the same time.Don't ask "yes" and "no" questions.Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?Will get you either a "yes" or "no" but may not lead to a meaningful conversation.Ask her what other movies she's seen and why she likes them.This type of question will get a long answer from her.Girls like guys to make the first move.Do the asking first instead of waiting for her to ask you questions.After she's answered your question, nod and give your own perspective.A balanced conversation in which you find out what she's all about while also sharing parts of yourself is what you want.What is she passionate about?Chances are you will find something fascinating about this girl if you like her.Ask her why she likes something.Asking questions just to get her to talk is not something that you want to do.She will know if you're insincere.People like to talk about themselves.The conversation will go easily if you find out what she's passionate about.The easiest way to build a connection is this.
Step 3: You need to look good throughout the conversation.
You want to find out as much as you can about her, but also make sure you show your best side.Talk about a topic that makes you feel good.You're going to be at your best when you talk about positive things.Talk about your favorite bands if you're passionate about music.If you have something you love to do, talk about it with her.Make sure you give her the same amount of time.She's not going to talk to you if you only talk about yourself and she thinks you're self-centered.Don't give opinions about things you're not familiar with.Your goal is to impress the girl with your intelligence and wit.You won't come off as intelligent if you blather about something you're not knowledgeable about.
Step 4: Take pauses.
You won't be able to think of anything to say at every point, but that's okay.Pauses are part of the conversation.Use pauses or deliberations in your own speech to get her used to it.Take a sip from your drink, smile at her, and look around the room until you come up with something new to say.She will wait with a lot of anticipation for the next step in the conversation if you seem confident and interested.She's likely to say "see you later" if you look nervous or stare at your feet.Pauses are used throughout the conversation.Look as though you are considering what you're saying when you pause.She might fill the silence with her own conversation because she'll be invested in trying to find out what you're going to say next.The rate of speech is synchronized when people are talking.People subconsciously mimic how fast the other person is talking.She will talk slowly and the conversation will last longer.Being confident is the secret to talking slowly.The pauses are her chance to impress you.Don't feel like you have to talk about everything.You want to silently invite her to take the initiative during the pause.She's enjoying talking to you if she does.
Step 5: Keep the conversation light.
She may find controversial subjects uncomfortable, so don't talk about them.She may think you're not nice if you gossip about other people.Use your sense of humor.Don't do a joke that could be shocking to her.Don't say anything that she might think is offensive or mean.Have fun with funny stories.People love hearing about funny things that happened to them.Keep a record of funny or entertaining things that happened to you and rehearse the story you want to tell with your friends.You should know your pop culture.Stay up to date on the latest celebrity news and what's new in movies and music.You will always have a light to talk about when you know what's going on.You might impress her with the number of things you know.
Step 6: Focus on your body language.
Sit up straight, smile warmly and use great eye contact for yourself.She will feel like you're focused on her when you do these things.She uses her body in a certain way.You can feel confident that she's into you if she touches your arm or leans in toward you while you're talking.It's important that you're projecting good body language.Don't cross your arms, sigh or groan audibly.There are signs that you're bored with her.You may be losing her interest if she's constantly looking away, fiddling with her drink, or looking like she can't wait to escape.Say something like, "Are you having a bad day?"You look a million miles away.If the conversation has been boring to begin with, just say "Nice talking to you" and walk away.
Step 7: The attention must always be on her.
Let her know that you think she's important.Don't be afraid to turn the spotlight on yourself.It should be focused on her.If you're having a conversation with a girl, turn off your cell phone.If you go outside to take a call, she may have moved on.Introduce your friends to her if you run into them.Send signals to your friends that they need to talk to you again.
Step 8: If she tells you that she has to leave, that's a good thing.
Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her.If you were close to her, ask for her phone number.Send a text to her the next morning to say that you had a great time and wish her a good day.If she texts you back, you could get a second chance to talk.If you approach her as a stranger, you should wait at least a day before calling her.You don't want her to think you're too needy, so it's best to delay for a day.Things should be short and sweet when you call her.Ask her if she would like to see a movie or go out for coffee and leave it at that.If something goes wrong, you can do better damage-control in person.Until you know that she really likes you, keep it low key.She might feel weird if you push really hard and she doesn't, so try to get a good balance.Keep the conversation going.