Creating and maintaining relationships is dependent on trust.Trusting in someone can mean many things, from knowing they'll be on time for an appointment to telling a person your deepest secrets.There are many levels of trust, but you have to put your faith in someone.
Step 1: First, offer your trust.
It is easier to build trusting relationships if you are willing to take the first step.Sharing a personal story, confiding a small anxiety, or asking someone to go on a date are small things to try.You can move on to someone else if the person is rude or distant.If they offer something back, tell a similar story, or agree to go on a date, then you have taken the first step towards a trusting relationship.When you're trying to build trust, always be honest.Large amounts of distrust can be caused by even little lies.Don't overshare.At the beginning of a relationship, this can be intimidating.
Step 2: Over time, build trust.
Trust isn't a switch that you can switch on or off.It's built up over time with your relationship.Before trusting someone with big secrets, begin trusting people with little things, such as getting to a meeting on time.You don't need to make a judgement on someone when you meet them.
Step 3: Slowly, confine in people.
It takes a lot of trust to bar your secrets.After you have built up trust in someone, you can share your emotions with them.Before fully committing to trust someone, start confiding in them slowly.Do they seem interested in what I have to say?Both parties need trust to care about each other.Are they willing to share their stories?Both parties feel comfortable sharing trust, which is a give and take.Are they condescending or oblivious to my concerns?Trust requires respect.
Step 4: Different levels of trust are needed for different people.
You don't need a set level of trust with people.Some people you would trust in your life, like coworkers or new acquaintances, and others you wouldn't trust at all.Instead of putting people into two categories, look at trust as a spectrum.
Step 5: Don't pay attention to a person's words, instead observe their actions.
It is difficult to keep a promise.People's actions should be watched to see if they are trustworthy.Don't ask for a favor until the job is done.You can view someone's trust objectively by observing actions and not words.
Step 6: You have to be a trustworthy person in return.
You need to be trustworthy if you want to build trust.People do the same thing if you break promises, tell secrets, or show up late.Think about other people's needs.Listen to them when they talk about building a trusting relationship.If someone is in need of help, never share their secrets with other people.If a depressed friend confides in you that they have suicidal thoughts, you should share this with a professional even if they don't want you to.Don't cancel your plans after you've made them.It also means not making a promise if you don't think you'll be able to keep it.If someone asks you for a promise you can't keep, let them know that you will try your best to follow through on the action, even if it's not possible.Even in difficult situations, be honest.
Step 7: Don't forget that no one is perfect.
People are always going to make mistakes, such as skipping a meeting, letting a secret slip, or acting selfishly.Every person will fall short from time to time if you expect them to earn your trust.It is important to see through a person's occasional faults at the bigger picture.People who make the same mistake time after time become unreliable.
Step 8: Trust yourself.
If you think someone is trustworthy, then you should follow your instincts.Listen if you have a feeling that they're not trustworthy.It is easier to build trust when you have faith in yourself.You are happy and stable.It helps you feel safe trusting other people.
Step 9: People are reliable and on-time.
Someone you trust values time and opinion and won't put their interests first.Being late to meetings, dates, or events is a sign that they may not be trustworthy.Everyone is late from time to time.There is a bigger issue with people who are never on time.
Step 10: People who are trustworthy follow through on their words.
There is a big difference between what some people say and what they do.You need to know that someone will do the things they say they will.People who are trustworthy keep their promises.They commit to finishing jobs, chores, or tasks.Follow through on the plans.
Step 11: Trustworthy people don't lie.
You can't trust liars because you can never know what they are thinking.It is a red-flag if you catch someone making a lie.Make a note of any large exaggerations and white lies.They are more likely to happen if you see them often.Change the details of stories frequently, and have trouble looking you in the eye, are some of the things liars do.People hide information from you to avoid anger or tension.
Step 12: People will trust you back if you are trustworthy.
A trustworthy friend is willing to talk to you as well.If you want people to share back, you need to feel comfortable sharing.When someone trusts you, they are less likely to do things that would hurt your relationship.
Step 13: The person talks about other people.
If someone constantly tells you secrets or says things like, "Benny asked me not to say this, but..." then they will likely do the same with your secrets.The way people act around you is indicative of how they act when you are not around.If you think other people shouldn't trust this person, you should probably not.
Step 14: Trust issues are normal after trauma.
People who have been through difficult events will become defensive and hard to trust.Trusting someone leaves you vulnerable to future pain.Trust can protect you from harm.You shouldn't blame yourself for having trust issues.Try to learn from the past and acknowledge the pain.
Step 15: One person's actions are not indicative of everyone.
There are bad people in the world.Don't let a bad experience ruin your ability to trust again, most people are kind and trusting.You should always remind yourself that there are good people around.
Step 16: Slow down your thinking.
When we're hurt, angry, or upset, we react emotionally and make the situation worse.Before you decide that you no longer trust someone, ask yourself what facts you know about the incident.I don't know what to think about this person.What did I do in this situation?I wondered if I was trustworthy.
Step 17: People remember betrayal more than positive interactions.
Our brains are hardwired to remember betrayal faster than good memories, even if the betrayal is small, according to a Cornell University study.As you rebuild trust, remember your positive interactions with someone.You immediately remember more good memories.
Step 18: Look for genuine apologies.
Even people you thought you could trust make mistakes.The person's response after an argument or incident is the most important thing.curt apologies show that the person is not really sorry.They want you to stop being angry at them.When someone looks at you and asks for forgiveness, you don't demand truly sincere apologies.A sincere apology is the first step.When applicable, offer your own apologies.
Step 19: Make adjustments to your expectations.
If someone has lost your trust, that doesn't mean they are completely dishonest.Trust someone with smaller, more manageable things instead of returning to where you started.You may not confide in your friend again if they tell secrets behind your back.You can still hang out, work on projects, and talk with each other.
Step 20: You may never fully trust someone who has hurt you.
Though you can rebuild a lot of trust with someone, there are times when the wounds are too deep to be forgiven.If someone has proven to you that they are not trustworthy, don't feel bad if you cut them out of your life.It's not possible for you to be hurt or abused again.
Step 21: If you still have trust issues, make a counseling appointment.
If you can't build trust with people, you should consider seeing a professional.An inability to trust is a symptom of post-traumatic stress disorder.If you don't want to see a therapist, you can join a support group.There are other people like you who are also struggling with trauma.