No matter how old your spouse is, there may be times when they want to wear adult diapers.If you know why your spouse is wearing diapers, you can support them and react positively.
Step 1: Discuss adult diaper use.
Many people think that adult diaper use is only for urinary incontinence, but there are many other reasons an adult may wear diapers.Learning about the needs for adult diapers can help you react positively and support your spouse.They suffer from incontinence and may be wearing diapers.This can arise from a wide range of conditions including menopause, enlarged prostrate, urinary tract infections, pregnancy, childbirth, hysterectomy, and neurological disorders such as stroke or brain tumors.Coffee or soda can cause incontinence.They have fecal incontinence.Damage to the rectum is one of the conditions that can lead to this.They suffer from stress incontinence.Weakened pelvic floor muscles are what causes this.Women are more likely to experience stress incontinence than men because of childbirth or prostrate surgery.Infantilism or diaper fetishism is what they have.This occurs most often in males and usually presents as a desire to dress and be treated like an infant, which also involves a transfer of power and control with another adult.
Step 2: Ask your spouse why they are wearing diapers.
Ask your spouse why she is wearing diapers.Asking her about her diaper use may help you better understand and support her use.If your spouse has been ill or experiencing other medical issues, say something like, "I remember your doctor mentioned that incontinence may be a side effect of your injury."If your spouse's diaper use doesn't come from an obvious condition, tread lightly.You could say that you found the diapers in the bathroom.This allows your spouse to answer honestly if he likes and also demonstrates your support no matter what the reason for wearing diapers.
Step 3: Accept your spouse's response.
Accept your spouse's response no matter how they answer your question.Whether for medical reasons or as a sexual fetish, your spouse's need to wear diapers is deeply personal and they may or may not want to discuss the matter with you.Don't respond in a way that may hurt your spouse.They might worry that you don't love them anymore.If you don't know how to respond, back away from the situation and be gentle with your spouse.I want to be supportive but I am not sure how to react and need a moment to process this.
Step 4: Talk to the doctor.
You can schedule an appointment with your family doctor.Seeing and talking to them may help both of you deal with the emotional aspects of wearing adult diapers while helping to manage any underlying conditions that may be causing incontinence.Your spouse may not want you to be involved in their affairs because wearing adult diapers can be distressing.You can say that seeing the doctor together is a way to support them.You need to respect your spouse's wishes.If your spouse doesn't want to meet together, speak with the doctor.The doctor can give you tips on how to support your spouse without breaking their confidence or doctor-patient privilege.
Step 5: Open communication should be maintained.
Even if your spouse was reluctant to discuss their need to wear diapers at first, always welcome conversation if she wants to talk about it or anything else.Open communication can help bolster your relationship and increase your understanding of your spouse.It is possible for your willingness to support your partner to make their incontinence easier to handle for both of you.The conversation should be light.Try not to be accusatory or push your spouse into something they don't want.You can get through incontinence or a fetish with a list of your feelings and concerns.Ask your partner how you can support them.Is there a specific way I can help you?Do you want me to have supplies for you?
Step 6: Speak to your spouse.
A person who is wearing a diaper may be isolated from others.You can boost your spouse's confidence by getting them to go out with you.You can make dinner reservations at a favorite restaurant.It's possible to make plans with friends or family at a place your spouse likes.Keeping your plans and routine as normal as possible may help your spouse forget about the diapers and realize that they don't have a great impact on their ability to lead an active and fun life.
Step 7: Be ready for an accident.
Accidents caused by incontinence can cause damage to clothing or furniture.Preparing with supplies or cleaning products may help put your spouse's mind at ease.You should have a change of clothing with you when you go out.To minimize damage to your home, place towels or disposable pads on your bed or furniture.If you have to help your spouse at night, put a commode near the bedroom.
Step 8: Make some changes to your diet.
Some forms of incontinence may respond to changes in diet.Adding more fiber and water to your diet can help relieve the symptoms of incontinence and make diaper use less of an issue for your spouse.Certain foods increase incontinence.They should be avoided as much as possible.It is possible that spicy and greasy foods can make fecal incontinence worse.To maintain your health, try to get a balanced diet of whole foods from the five food groups.Getting 30 grams of fiber and 8 glasses of water a day can help keep you regular.
Step 9: Provide consistency in assurance.
Incontinence can be distressing for a person.By assuring your spouse that you love them and support them, you can boost their self-esteem and improve their quality of life.Let your spouse know that you care.They might wonder if you still love them, and tell them that you care for them no matter what.If your spouse wears diapers as a sexual fetish, be supportive.You can either find it erotic as they do or be repulsed by it.Support is offered in either case.You can say, "I don't understand your need to wear diapers, but I love you and want to support you as much as I can."
Step 10: Counseling can be attended.
If you, your spouse, or your relationship are suffering because of the need or desire to wear adult diapers, you should attend counseling sessions.You can get help from a therapist or counselor.As much as possible, be open with your therapist.If your spouse has a diaper fetish, you can easily say, "I don't understand their need to wear diapers but I want to know how I can support them without being involved in their fetish."
Step 11: A support group is a good place to join.
Either you or your spouse can join a support group.This may help boost their confidence as well as giving you the tools to best support and engage them at home.You can join a local support group if you speak with your doctor or counselor.The Incontinence Support Center is one of the online forums that offer support, but also educate about incontinence.Many online forums for sexual fetishes are not authoritative.You can get professional support for your diaper fetish from organizations such as the Kinsey Institute.Most people who wear diapers as a sexual fetish are well-adjusted and do not have any mental health issues.
Step 12: Enjoy time with yourself.
It's important to have time alone to support your spouse.It is possible to be more present and supportive of your spouse if you schedule regular alone time.Get to know other people as much as possible.You can go to lunch with friends once or twice a week.Take care of yourself in a way that you enjoy.If you want to cope with your spouse's diaper use and reduce your stress, make it a priority to get 7-9 hours of sleep daily.