How did it happen?If you want to do the job right, you have to be fit and middle-aged, because suddenly a small baby will call you grandpa.
Step 1: Give them lots of love.
One of the most important things you can do is to shower your grandsons with love.Let them know how much you care by giving them hugs and kisses.Tell them how smart, funny, and beautiful they are and make them see that not a day goes by that you don't think about them.Being a loving and caring person is the most important thing you can do.Be friendly.It is important to give them love.If you are the proud grandfather, be aware that other people will be in line to hold your new grandchild, including the parents and grandmothers.You will have a chance to shower your grandchild with love if you are patient.
Step 2: It's a good idea to Spoil your kids a little.
Grandpas are notorious for ruining their children's lives.While you don't want to completely ruin their diet by feeding them nothing but cookies, you should at least give them a little bit of wiggle room to enjoy their time with you.Reward them with little treats or gifts every once in a while so they know how special they are and how much you mean to them.They will forget expensive gifts in a few weeks, so you should give them something they will always remember.
Step 3: Tell them about your family.
One of your jobs is to tell your children what life was like as a child.It is important for you to tell them what your parents and grandparents were like so that they have a deeper understanding and appreciation of the world they live in today, which is very different from yours.They will be very grateful if they don't appreciate it at the time.To make them come alive, have them look at a photo album with you and tell lively stories about all of the people in their families.One activity you can do with your kids is to make a family tree.
Step 4: You have to be there for the big moments.
One of the most important things you can do as a grandfather is to make sure you are there for the milestones.It is possible for you to be there when your grandchild learns to walk and talk and when they graduate from elementary school.They will want to know that their grandfather was with them every step of the way when they look back on their lives.When those times come, support and encourage them.They need you for big moments.
Step 5: Don't be favorites.
If you have more than one grandchild, you need to learn to love them equally, even if your little granddaughter is always telling you how much she loves you.The one who isn't favored will suffer if you make your preferences known.It is important to love your grandsons equally so that they can thrive in the light of your love.To model good behavior, try not to make them act like their siblings, and learn to appreciate what makes each grandchild different.
Step 6: Listen to them
Another way to show your love is to sit down and listen to them.If you really want to show them that you care, you have to let them know that what they say is important.Sit them down on your lap or across from you during dinner, make eye contact with them, and let them tell you what happened during their day, what they're looking forward to next weekend, or just what's on their minds.It will make a big difference if you really listen to them.Turn off the TV and get rid of your newspaper.Give them all your attention.
Step 7: They should be getting them outdoors.
Let's face it.Kids spend a lot of time in front of electronics.It is your job to get them outdoors as a man who is less dependent on technology than they are.This can include helping you out in the yard, going for a walk in your neighborhood, or even learning to play catch with you.They will have you to thank for their love and appreciation for the outdoors, even if they don't like it initially.Get them moving.You should encourage your grandsons to be active.Going outside should go hand in hand with this.Throw a frisbee or swim with them at the beach.Tag, ring toss, or another game can be played at the park if you help them.It is important to keep kids active because they don't get enough exercise.
Step 8: They should not be allowed to break too many rules.
You shouldn't do it so much that you completely disregard their parents' rules and cause conflicts.How much TV time they get per day should not be ignored.It can lead to confusion in the household if you let them break the rules, and you should make sure that your kids know that rules are meant to be followed.Help your grandsons understand why their parents have rules.If you disagree with one of the parents' rules, you can try talking to them, but don't tell the grandkids that it's a bad rule.
Step 9: Your kids should be learning about the world.
As a grandpa, you can tell your kids what life was like when you were a kid.Let them know that their world is changing quickly and that they should not take things for granted.If you have an extensive knowledge of history, politics, music, or anything else, then you should give it to your kids as much as you can, because it will help them become mature, knowledgeable adults.Answer any questions they may have while reading the paper with them.Take a history class and see what you can contribute from your own experiences.
Step 10: Do them teach you something.
You should not underestimate your grandsons, even if you think you have infinite wisdom to share with them.It is likely that they can teach you a thing or two, from how to send a text message to who the heck Justin Beiber is.They will develop more self-worth if they see that they are natural teachers and have a lot to offer.Don't be shy about asking for help.They will be proud to show Grandpa something.
Step 11: Help them become citizens.
As their grandparent, you can teach them the importance of being a good citizen of the world.This can include teaching them to recycle, making sure they are friendly to their neighbors and respectful in public.If you are a good citizen, they will follow in your footsteps.Help them learn to respect the privacy of others and have good manners.The most basic tasks can help your kids become good citizens.
Step 12: Be a united front if grandma is in the picture.
If you and your wife are raising the kids together, then you should follow the same rules and regulations.This will help keep things in your household consistent and will make your children treat you equally, instead of thinking that one of you is the good cop who will bend some of the rules.You should treat your wife with love and kindness and use your relationship as a model of care that your children can aspire to.Give your grandchild a positive model of a relationship by being affectionate with your wife in front of them.
Step 13: Don't bash them.
It is possible to tell your grandkids to shape up, but you should not be too critical.It is not your job to make them feel bad about themselves.If you think you want to teach them an important lesson and that it will be good for their character, you should praise them as much as you can.They should come to you because of love and guidance.If you want to be critical, hold your tongue.Don't offer criticism if it's meant to make your kids feel bad about themselves.
Step 14: They should be nice about their parents.
If you want to build your grandchild's character and help them be strong, you shouldn't criticize their parents in front of them.Whether their parents owe you money or are giving you too many responsibilities, you should kick that to the curb when it comes to bonding with your grandchildren.It goes without saying that when it comes to talking to their parents, you should treat them with kindness and respect, and avoid fighting with them in front of their children.
Step 15: You can help the parents as much as you can.
While maintaining your boundaries, a new grandfather can try to be as helpful as possible.If you can, help the parents by helping out around the house or running small errand for them.As the parents adjust to their new lives, you should be with them.You should plan to be more available when the baby arrives.If you don't live near the parents, you can take a trip out to help them and bond with your new grandchild.
Step 16: Make sure you are not overwhelmed by your new responsibilities.
It is important to help out the new parents, but you should not allow your responsibilities as a grandparent to take over your life.It could be that you don't have time to do the things you want to.You might feel too proud to say you helped out more than you did.If you want to spend time with your new grandchild, you have to be open and honest with parents about how much you can take on.
Step 17: Continue your own life.
If you are going it alone, you have to make sure to maintain your own life in spite of your new duties.Keep your usual meeting times with your friends, make time for cooking, fishing, walking, or anything else you normally like to do, and give yourself time to read a good book.You don't want to get absorbed in the life of your new grandchild if you have a life.Whether you enjoy golfing, reading the paper, or gardening, keep doing the same activities that you did before your kids arrived, and spend time with your friends and your wife.If there are other grandparents who want to share your duties, you may not be able to spend all of your time with your new grandchild.
Step 18: Do not give parenting advice.
When it comes to giving advice to the parents, your lips should be sealed unless that advice is asked for.If you were the parent, your role in your grandchild's life would be the same as it is if you are the grandparent.You should not be critical of the parents if they ask for advice.You should account for the fact that things have changed since you were raising your kids in your advice.
Step 19: Give the parents time to get to know one another.
As the grandfather, you may want to give the parents some time to be together without their children.Even if they miss the kids when they are not with them, some alone time is important for them to maintain their relationship.They need to be alone sometimes, so make sure you give them some time to relax.Make sure the parents have a date night at least once a month.You should encourage them to get time away from their kids.