It's possible that you have a habit of saying whatever comes to mind, and making others angry or upset.Maybe the problem is not your wild tongue, but someone you know and care about.Learning to think about what is said and the impact of a wild tongue can help tame what someone is saying.
Step 1: It's time to calm down.
When they are nervous, some people put their foot in their mouth.You are more likely to make a faux pas if you are already stressed out.If you calm down, you can control your tongue.Take a few deep breaths if you get nervous and say things that you later regret.It's a good idea to visualize the encounter going well.Imagine being in control of yourself and your tongue.
Step 2: Take 10.
Give yourself time to think about what you are saying before you speak.It seems like a good idea to speak after 10 seconds.It's possible that taking ten will make your rude remark irrelevant by that time.10 seconds can make for an awkward pause when the person is waiting on you.Take at least three seconds to think about what you said.Take the time to think about something else.It's a good idea to take a 10-second break before you reply to something online.Don't post something that you might regret later.
Step 3: Consider the repercussions.
Think about the effect your words have on the other person and the situation in general.How would I feel if someone said this to me?What feelings will this comment bring up for the other person?One way to learn to hold your words in is to realize the embarrassment and damage they can cause.People remember how you make them feel even though they forgive you.The person might not say anything, but it could hurt your relationship with him.Do you want to hurt the other person?Why do you think so?Hurting him with your words is not the way to address the situation.It could make the problem worse.When you complain or tear someone else down, there is very little to gain.
Step 4: Don't say it, think of it.
Everyone has thought negatively about someone or a situation at one time or another.It is.Problems only start when the thoughts become words that hurt other people.When controlling your tongue, think what you want, but only say what is appropriate.If you can't think of anything positive to say, just smile, nod, and change the subject.If a friend tells you she has a new look, don't say that she looks like a clown.Say something like, "What made you want to change your look?"
Step 5: Clarify what you said.
You should admit that you said something out of line.Don't just ignore it and move on.It's important to admit that you shouldn't have said what you did.Think about what you could have said differently.You might think that his attitude really rubbed me the wrong way.I went after him because I felt defensive.Don't wait for someone else to correct you, I could have calmed down before I responded to him.Most people know when a comment crosses the line before someone points it out.It is up to you to take responsibility for your words.Say, "What I just said came out much harsher than I intended."
Step 6: I apologize immediately.
If you think that your comment was offensive, rude, or has hurt someone, you should apologize as soon as possible.Apologizing right away will mean more to the people you offended.Say something like, "I'm sorry, that was uncalled for" after acknowledging what you said.There is no excuse for what I said.I will do my best to make sure it doesn't happen again.This will allow you to explain more about what you said and why, as well as how you are trying to tame your tongue.If your comment was directed at a specific person, then you can either remove it or send a private message apologizing for your words.
Step 7: If it is necessary, apologize publicly.
You may need to offer a public apology if your words affect a lot of people.It helps tame your wild tongue by making you apologize to the people you hurt.If you made a rude comment in front of a group of people, you should apologize to the group rather than the individual.It is a good idea to make a public apology for online comments that are offensive.
Step 8: Let's move on from the incident.
You can't un-ring a bell according to an old adage.Take time to apologize and think about how you can behave differently in the future.Reflecting on the incident, apologizing, and moving forward with what you have learned from the situation can help you tame your tongue in the future.Next time, make a goal to do better.After the 10-second pause, you should be able to gauge the crowd better.For a little while, try to be cautious with what you say around that particular person.
Step 9: Protect your career
If you use profanity at work, you could be reprimanded or even fired.Think about your career future before you say something.When giving feedback, make sure to put a bit of criticism between the two positive notes.I can tell you put a lot of effort in this.It would be even stronger if we added more.In meetings or other group discussions, be sure to take a 10-second pause.Don't let your guard down in the break room.Don't let the informal setting get the better of you.Gossiping, putting others down, obscenities, etc. are things you should not do at work.
Step 10: Your reputation can be preserved.
Studies show that people who use profanity, insult and sarcasm are less intelligent, mature and able to handle stress.Make sure that your wild tongue does not interfere with what you want your reputation to be.Say things that show your maturity and intelligence.
Step 11: You should consider your relationships.
When your tongue is running wild, some of the things you say could be upsetting your loved ones or making your significant other question whether she wants to stay together.Thinking about the effects of your words will help you tame your tongue.Do your words and tone make your partner feel like you don't care about her?Have family members said that the things you say hurt them?Ask your loved ones if your wild tongue is affecting them.
Step 12: Think about what you're trying to accomplish.
Understanding why and when you have a wild tongue can help you tame it.Think about why you would say something rude.Do you have a tongue that runs wild around people?Do you think it's a natural reaction?Are you not good at communicating?Is this something you've always had trouble with?Does being around people make your tongue run wild?Do you want to tell your co-worker off all the time?Are you looking for attention?Have you found a way to get people to notice you?Do you think it happens more often when you are nervous, stressed, or defensive?Do you put your foot in your mouth if you are put on the spot or in an uncomfortable situation?
Step 13: Limit the use of alcohol and other substances.
Being drunk can cause us to say things we regret.If alcohol is a factor in loosened tongue, limit or completely avoid alcohol in certain situations, and if so, if you are concerned about your wild tongue.If you know that alcohol lowers your inhibitions and makes you say things you later regret, it might be a good idea to have no drinks at all.This way you don't have to worry about offending your boss or getting fired.
Step 14: Become a friend.
Many people who offend spend a lot of time talking.Make a conscious choice to listen when someone is talking rather than thinking about what you can say in return.If you listen to the person, you can get clues as to what sensitive areas you should avoid.Try asking the person an open-ended question, such as, "What did you do then?" or "How are you feeling about that?"
Step 15: Do not discuss sensitive topics.
Take finances, race, romance, religion, politics and so on.It's off the table if you're talking to people outside of a circle.People's beliefs and values are related to these topics.People can become offended by your wild tongue.Stay out of the conversation if other people are talking about these things.If possible, steer the conversation in a different direction.Remember to take a 10-second pause to think about what you are saying and the impact it will have.It is possible that a joke or sarcasm can be seen as discrimination.