There is a significant influence on your life from where you live.Your ability to make friends, access to career and educational opportunities, and quality of life are all dependent on where you live.It is possible that moving could make life better for you and your parents.You may be able to convince your parents to move if you discuss your concerns and options with them.
Step 1: Why do you want to leave?
Think about what motivates you to move.This will help you flesh out your feelings and make your case more convincing to your parents.Write down your reasons for wanting to leave.For example, you can have things like better educational opportunities for me and job chances for dad, or it could be something like "the house is too big for mom to care for."Keep a list of pros and cons.Losing friends, gaining new opportunities, and helping shoulder burdens are some of the factors that can be considered.
Step 2: The seed of moving should be planted.
If you want to move, don't spring on your parents.Once you have a chance to write out your motives, take time to plant the seed.Don't be aggressive.Mention that moving can make life a little easier.You could say "mom, maybe we both wouldn't be so frantic to leave every morning if we lived so far away from school" or "dad, perhaps you would have more energy if you had such a large space to care for."When you go to the grocery store, say to your mom and dad, "WOW, look at everything in this neighborhood: schools, stores, restaurants, and it's so close to you jobs."
Step 3: Look at potential new homes.
If you planted the seed that you want to move, your parents will get the message.If you research potential options before your parents start asking questions, you can make a more convincing case.You can find places to live or move online.You can use these as a part of the hints.You should keep in mind finances when searching.You may not know how your suggestions affect your parents financially and emotionally.You can research new places to live.You should keep notes on different places.If you want to move to a different city, you could include things like the standard cost of housing and living, the overall health profile of the place, and the advantages it presents to you over the current place you live.
Step 4: For discussion, use the right moment.
Move if a parent shows stress about the house.Let's talk about your desire to move and the practicability of it.You are less likely to be interrupted if you have the discussion.Start the conversation with your observations and concerns about staying and why you would like your parents to move.Keep the conversation positive and honest, but let them know that you are serious.You can say something like, "I'm really interested in pursuing my interest in science and the school in New York has much better opportunities for me to do this", or something similar.This could help them understand that your position is serious.
Step 5: Give your parents time to think.
Wait and let your parents think about moving after you have talked about it with them.It takes time for your parents to consider the pros and cons for them and your entire family, so remember that moving doesn't happen overnight.You should be sensitive and put yourself in your parents shoes.Keep in mind how it affects your parents as they consider your wishes.It can put financial and emotional stress on your parents if you move.Don't push the idea on your parents if you've discussed your wishes.This may cause them to dismiss the idea altogether.
Step 6: The decision should be respected.
Regardless of what your parents decide, respect their decision.There may be factors that influence your parents decision that you don't know about.If your parents decide to move, you should offer to help them in any way you can.If you want to move because of school issues, keep your parents in the loop.It's possible to talk about problems with them.If your parents wanted more time to think about it, revisit the issue in the future.
Step 7: Get support.
If moving isn't an option at the moment, consider getting support to cope with why you want to moveYou may be able to formulate alternatives to moving that will make you feel better.Speak to your family, friends, and/ or a trusted person.Ask them for advice on how to handle your situation if you are open and honest about your feelings.Seek help from a professional such as a doctor.
Step 8: Move away for a bit.
If you don't have a permanent move in the works, consider moving away temporarily.Some time away may make you feel better or help convince your parents that a move would be good for the family, from exchange years to staying with relatives.Go to live with family or friends in a different area.Although it might not be your first choice of places to live, it can give you a chance to move and experience something different.For example, you could say, "Would it be possible for me to stay with Uncle Chris for a couple of months and go to school there?" or "mom, would you like to come?"If you are a student, consider going on an exchange program.Going abroad can allow you to move and provide you with new perspectives.Take vacations.If your family is having a great time on vacation, make sure to mention to your parents how much more there is to do in the area.
Step 9: You can switch schools.
If your reasons for moving are related to education, ask if you can attend a different school.When you can't move, this may help you deal with issues.You can research schools that have qualities that you want.If you want to focus on science, you should find local schools that offer excellent programs.Ask your parents if you can switch schools.It's possible that they need to drive you to a different town or area every day, which could make their lives more difficult.If you switch schools, you will be the new kid and may have the same problems as you did at the old one.
Step 10: You can find alternative activities.
Ask your friends or colleagues about different opportunities in your area if you visit your local chamber of commerce.You might be able to see the advantages of staying in your area.You can see what is happening.It is possible to meet new people and move without leaving your home with the help of people who will drive to local events.If you want to find out more about activities in your area, ask your friends and acquaintances.
Step 11: Take part in a new community.
The internet has made the world smaller.If moving physically isn't an option, you can join a new and/ or virtual community of people who share your interests and beliefs.You can research communities online.If you're interested in pursuing a degree in Roman history, you could join an online forum of archaeologists.There are other communities in your area.It is possible to find people with similar interests in churches or online horse clubs.Let your parents know that you are interested in something.They may revisit their decision about moving if this helps you.