You've seen a woman you'd love to date.That complicates things if she's an exotic dancer.If you don't pay attention to the stereotypes, you'll ruin your chances of ever getting to know her better.In a setting where the focus is on appearance and money, the key is to show genuineness.
Step 1: The benefit of the doubt is offered.
Before entering a club, make sure you are open minded.They must be promiscuous and unable to make money in other ways because they are strippers.Some dancers pay their own way through college or nursing school and are very intelligent.Other dancers might have had very unfortunate circumstances that you couldn't imagine, and might be working at a club to feed their family or send their child to a good school.It's easy to judge a book by its cover, but you will never find a stripper worth dating if you do that.
Step 2: You should know what you're getting into.
Strippers get a lot of attention in the club.Dating a stripper is probably not a good idea if you can't handle your partner receiving a lot of admiration.Don't get into a relationship with a stripper if you think you can change her or get another job.Accept that she strips or find someone who doesn't.
Step 3: You can find a club that is comfortable.
The type of club you go to will affect the women that work there.Some clubs are characterized by young inexperienced girls, veterans and gold diggers.It's a good idea to avoid women who are attracted to the type of male who can give them some sense of protection and follow their party life rhythm, because they're not good dating material.College students and even college graduates are usually found in the gentlemen club type places.These girls are more open to socializing in their workplace.
Step 4: Show up early.
In the first hour or so after the club opens, the place is dead and the strippers are just chilling, hanging around, practicing pole- tricks and talking to each other.This is the best time to approach them because they are still not making a lot of money.
Step 5: Start a discussion.
Don't bejudgmental and be sweet.Many girls are used to getting the worst treatment from men who think they are disposable meat.Listen to them, give them a chance to open up and tell you their stories, and show genuine interest in their activities outside of the strip-club.Don't focus on their bodies.They get them all the time.Don't bust or use eye contact.If they want to compliment their body parts, tell them they look good in their new outfit or they are really improving their pole skills.Ask them about books, movies, school, family, life, and they will find you a lot more interesting to talk to than most of their customers.
Step 6: Don't let her get a lap dance from anyone.
If you pay for a lap dance from her, she will consider you a "regular" but do pay her for her time if your talking her up for awhile. She will never date you once that business relationship with her is established.It's not a good idea to get dances from any of the other women if you aren't getting lap dances.You should just tip the dancers a little more if you're tipping on stage.If you only tip her, that could lead to jealousy among the dancers and make her association with you a little more difficult.
Step 7: When the club gets too busy, the girls start giving lap dances to their customers.
Let her know that you don't want to interfere in her money making, wish her good luck and tell her you'll come to see her some other day.She'll smile when you visit and make a beeline towards you as soon as she gets the chance.She may be dating someone already if she doesn't date any customers of the club.
Step 8: Ask her to leave.
She's playing you if she can't meet you outside the club to hang out.If she keeps turning you down, there's no need to pursue her anymore.If she agrees to go on a date, do something romantic.She is a stripper and she is used to guys showing interest in her through money and flashy presents.You've discovered a common interest in your conversations with her, so try to do something related to it.She will go to bed with you right away if you assume that she is a stripper.Some of these girls don't trust men because they deal with the worst sides of men for hours a day, so be patient and show her that you are different.
Step 9: Accepting of her job is what she should do.
If one thing leads to another and you end up dating a stripper, she will appreciate that you understand that she is making more money than many family practice physicians.As dancers become used to earning higher incomes than the majority of white collar workers, she may want to become one someday.Understand that many women choose this field because it allows them the freedom to pursue other interests or priorities, so plan dates on her schedule, and please, don't call her before 11 AM.