Talking to your crush for the first time can be nerve-racking.With some bravery, a bit of confidence, and a few good icebreakers in your back pocket, you can have a fun conversation that might even lead to something more.
Step 1: Before you approach, check your hair and clothes.
Before you walk over, make sure to wash your clothes, check your teeth, and smooth your hair.Taking this extra moment can help you gather yourself and feel more confident before you approach them, as well as making sure there is nothing out of place in your appearance.
Step 2: If you have a crush, bring a friend along.
Ask a friend to come with you if you're still too scared to approach your crush.If your friend knows about your crush, they can help start a conversation.If you do not want to have a crush on your friend, you don't need to tell them.Say something like, "Hey, Rachel's in your math class, right?"Can you introduce me?If your crush is hanging out with a big group of people, it is a good idea to bring a friend along.Approaching with a backup can make you feel more confident.
Step 3: As soon as you see them, begin walking towards them.
Your first reaction when you see your crush is likely excitement and anxiety.You should not give yourself time to freak out.Walk towards them before you can talk yourself out of it.Give yourself a short time to talk to your crush.You have time to worry and second-guess yourself.You will feel more confident if you go straight up to them.
Step 4: Say a casual hello.
Say hello when you get to your crush.Tell them your name if you've never met before.Remember that this is just another conversation and to relax and talk normally.I don't know if we've officially met yet.If you have something specific to ask of your crush such as help on a project, introducing yourself is a great way to start.If you want to start a more casual conversation, you should ask a question.Start feels natural to you.
Step 5: Ask them a question or make a comment.
The one that feels natural to you is the best.If you know a little about your crush, you can ask them a question.Start with a comment on something happening around you.Begin your question with "I heard...", such as, "So, I heard you're on the basketball team."If you start with a comment, make an observation of something around you.You could complain about cafeteria food or the drinks at the bar, or point out decorations at a dance.A class or interest is a great way to start a conversation.Have you heard about the new superhero movie?
Step 6: Start out with a compliment.
As long as you choose the right form of flattery, starting a conversation with a compliment is great.It's a good idea to avoid comments on their appearance.compliment something they did recently or something you really admire about themYou could compliment them on their recent achievement by saying, "I heard you did really well on the last algebra test."That is awesome!If you know they have a special talent or hobby, comment on it to show that you are interested in them.Is it true that you play the drums?To keep things casual, tease your crush while you compliment them.You could say, "So I heard you're a big soccer star, huh?"
Step 7: The conversation should continue.
Continue the conversation by asking them more questions after breaking the ice.It is easy for your crush to talk about themselves and show you that they are interested in their life.Continue talking about the topic that you brought up.If you have run out of things to talk about, move on to something simpler, like what are you up to this weekend.
Step 8: Put them at ease by smiling and laughing at them.
It is normal to be nervous while talking to your crush, but cover it up by smiling, laughing, and keeping your body relaxed.Your friendly demeanor will help your crush relax, and give them a better impression of you.Come up with new questions to ask your crush and distract yourself from your nerves.Put your hands in your pockets, or grab a book or bag to hold if you are shaking.Make eye contact while you're talking.Don't stare at your crush, but make sure to hold eye contact for at least a few seconds at a time to show that you are interested in what they are saying.
Step 9: Listen to your crush's responses to make a decision.
You are having a great conversation if your crush is responding, asking you questions, and smiling.They are probably not interested if they are giving one word answers, looking away, and crossing their arms or leaning away.It was great to talk to them if you could tell they were not into the conversation.Don't be mean orolite, they might be having a bad day and you can still talk to them.
Step 10: If it feels natural, make a plan to meet again.
You can make plans to see your crush again if the conversation is going well.If you have been talking to your crush about a project or event, this will be normal.If you were talking about an upcoming test, you could say, "Would you like to get together to study for that?"You will be able to talk to them again now that you have a great conversation.
Step 11: If you don't want to plan, you can see them.
If you want to keep the interaction casual, say something like "Well, I'll see you around then," or "see you later."If it feels awkward to leave without giving an excuse, say something like, "Well, I better get back to my friends, but it was great talking to you," or "I should get to class but I'll see you around!"
Step 12: As you leave, make a joke.
You can end the conversation on a good note if you leave your crush grinning and laughing.Try to remember something you said at the beginning of your conversation.You could say, for example, "I'd better get to class, at least one of us should be on time!" or "So I guess I'll be seeing your name in the paper when you get that game-winning hit on Saturday!"
Step 13: If they aren't interested, move on.
If you can tell your crush is not interested in talking to you, end the conversation and leave.It takes a lot of bravery to talk to your crush for the first time.Make up a reason to leave.You could say, for example, "I'm meeting a friend for lunch, so I better go."It doesn't make sense to get shut down by someone you like, and it's okay to be upset.You can let yourself feel sad for a while, then focus on other things.It's their loss if they're not interested.
Step 14: You can text them first.
Texting your crush first is nerve-racking, but sometimes it is better to wait for them to make the first move.They will be thankful that you took the pressure off of them, and you will have the choice of the conversation topic.Take a few minutes to gather your courage and decide what you want to say after you text them.Take a few deep breaths and remember that everything is going to be okay.Since you are talking over text, your crush won't be able to tell if you're nervous or not.
Step 15: Start things off with a question.
It is great to start a texting conversation with a question about something you have in common with your crush, like a class, an event, or someone you both know.It's easy to move into other topics after this conversation starter.Say something like, "Hey, are you going to Josh's party tonight?" or "Do you have the math homework for this week?"I forgot to write it down and you could start with a comment about something you have in common.Jones was so crazy that he said, "The Lions played really well last night, did you watch the game?"
Step 16: Send them a meme to make them laugh.
There is a way to break the ice over text.Send one that reminds them of you, that relates to something you know about them, or that you have in common.If your crush is taking exams all week, you could send them a meme that says "Good luck on your exams!"Don't send something that's random, it could confuse them or make them feel awkward.It will feel like a funny inside joke if they are able to tell what you are referencing.
Step 17: To show your sense of humor, tease them lightly.
If you know that your crush has a good sense of humor, try to make them want to work for you.The conversation will be fun if you are witty and funny.You could say something like, "I heard you passed your driver's test the other day, I'll tell everyone I know to stay off the roads."If they mention that you got a high score on a test, you could say something like, "Yeah, apparently I'm a genius or something." Only tease them about lighter topics.If you are just getting to know them, stay away from sensitive subjects like family, appearance, politics, and so on.
Step 18: If they are not responding, don't text them.
If your crush doesn't text you back right away, it can feel really frustrating, but do your best to stay patient and not text until they respond.Texting them multiple times can make you seem needy.If you wait to text back until they reply, you can show that you are flexible and even intriguing.It is best not to send them messages when they text you back.Sending only one or two messages at a time shows that you have your own life.
Step 19: Don't use exclamation points or emojis.
It can make you seem unsure of yourself if you use a lot of exclamation marks and question marks.When you're still learning your crush's texting style, limit yourself to just one exclamation mark or emoji per text.
Step 20: Stay calm and be yourself.
Don't hide behind your phone and pretend you're not.Being genuine and confident in who you are is the most attractive thing you can do.Take a few minutes between texts to calm down and think about what you want to say next.If you really need time to think, you can take up to 10 minutes to send your next text.
Step 21: If your crush isn't interested, move on.
Sometimes your crush won't be interested in friendly, charismatic techniques.They are not worth your time if they are responding with 1-2 word messages or not responding at all.It is best to walk away from your phone at this point.Remember that it's their loss if you stop texting them and respect that they don't feel the same way.You should never use up your time on someone who doesn't see how great you are.You should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there, even if you are disappointed and upset.