When your ex becomes mean, it's hard to break up.To deal with a mean ex-boyfriend, simply ignore him and move on with your life.You can still deal with the situation like a pro if you show him that his mean behavior doesn't affect you.
Step 1: Don't contact.
Don't initiate any contact with your ex, including phone calls, texts, emails, messages on social media, and in-person conversations.Don't respond if he tries to contact you.You may want to tell your ex that you're not interested in talking to him by texting or email.Don't respond if he is completely unreasonable.If you're getting threatening messages from your ex or he's stalking you, report it to the police.You may be able to get a restraining order against him.You can block his number and email address if he continues to call, texting, or email you.Changing your phone number or email address is a possibility if he is persistent and starts calling you from other people's phones.There are many options for blocking or ignoring a person on most social media sites.If you don't want your ex-boyfriend to see your profile, block him.You also don't want to see any updates from your ex, so ignore or unfollow him.Avoid places where you are likely to run into your ex.Don't stop to talk if this is not possible, just keep walking.
Step 2: Don't speak to him directly.
You might have no choice but to spend some time in the same room with your ex if you share mutual friends, have classes together, or work together.It might be hard at first, but do your best to interact with everyone else in the room, and avoid talking to your ex as much as possible.Don't pretend to not see him.This will make him think that you don't want to be around him.Address him the same way you would a stranger.Don't use body language that suggests intimacy, like direct eye contact.If you're with a group of people, talk to other people in the group instead of talking to your ex-boyfriend.If your ex starts talking to you, reply politely, but very briefly, so he knows you're not interested in talking.He could say that the math test was hard.Just say, "Fine," and show no interest in continuing the conversation.According to the situation, respond if your ex-boyfriend tries to use other people.If the messenger is your friend, just tell him that you're not interested in hearing what your ex has to say, and hope that he won't let that get in the way of your friendship.Ignore the messenger if he has been sent by your ex to say something mean to you.
Step 3: There are new attachment figures.
If you're like most people, your boyfriend was probably the first person you went to when something bad happened to you, and also the one you told when it was exciting.It can be difficult to let go of your ex because you may still be in touch with him.Try to turn to a friend, a sibling, or a parent.Don't replace your ex with a new guy unless you're ready to commit to a relationship.Go ahead and date new people if you feel ready.
Step 4: Stay active.
If you are occupied with other things, it will be easier to ignore your ex-boyfriend.If you want to ignore your ex, start doing more things with your friends, join a club, or start a new hobby.If you and your ex-boyfriend are in the same social circles, it will help if he sees you enjoying life without him.This will make him feel like the mean things he's been doing are not having an effect on you.
Step 5: Don't let it bother you.
Don't believe him if he calls you fat or ugly.He's upset that you broke up and doesn't know how to deal with it.
Step 6: You should respond with kindness.
If your ex-boyfriend says something mean to you, you don't have to go out of your way to compliment him.Show him that what he's doing isn't bothering you by keeping your cool.
Step 7: Be the best person you can be.
Being nice behind his back as well as to his face is what this means.Don't spread rumors about him.You will probably make the tension between the two of you worse if you do things like this, as you will be acting just as mean and immature as your ex.
Step 8: You should talk to your friends.
Let your friends know what's going on if you and your ex-boyfriend have mutual friends.They may be able to reason with your ex in a way that you can't, or they may stop inviting him to events if he continues to be mean to you.Depending on the relationship you have with your friends, you may have to cut ties.Someone who encourages your ex to be mean to you is not your friend at all.It's a good idea to talk to your friends about the situation.It will be easier to deal with your ex if you have supportive friends.
Step 9: Make sure to report dangerous behavior.
If you feel like you are in danger because of your ex's behavior, report him to an adult at your school or the police.Don't be afraid to ask for help because you should never have to live in fear.