It can feel like an impossible challenge to act natural around your crush.When you have butterflies in your stomach, how are you supposed to be fun and confident?You should acknowledge your feelings and realize that your crush is just another person.Give them space and enjoy your life.Show them you are confident with a smile, flirting, and fun conversation.
Step 1: Accept the fact that you have a crush.
Don't beat yourself up for falling head over heels.It will make you jittery around your crush.Don't judge yourself and accept the way you feel.I really like Josh, and that is fine.He is a great person.It doesn't make me weak or desperate.
Step 2: Remember that your crush is a real person.
They are not a god or superior alien life form.Look at the ways in which they are not perfect.You can help them play it cool if you realize they are a person.It's possible that your crush is afraid of heights and needs extra tutoring in math.Don't judge your crush for their flaws.They can be used to help you relate to your crush.
Step 3: When talking to your crush, speak slowly and take deep breaths.
It is easy for your words to run away from you when you are nervous.To look cooler, and to make sure your crush can understand what you are saying, take a deep breath and slow your speech.It sounds slow in your head, but it sounds right to your crush.You don't have to be perfect in your conversation.
Step 4: If you want to approach your crush, don't wait.
You see your crush at a party.Take a deep breath, smile and approach them quickly.You could lose your cool girl mojo if you wait any longer.You may never move things forward with your crush if you don't put yourself out there.Go for it.
Step 5: Give them space.
It could scare them away if you stuck to your crush like glue.Don't spend a lot of time following them around if you're interested in flirting and chatting.Make sure you have fun with your friends.
Step 6: Don't reply to their texts right away.
That is great if the two of you are texting.There is a chance that things are moving in the right direction.Wait a few minutes before you respond to a text.You want them to know that you have a fun life and aren't always waiting for a text.
Step 7: Don't stare when you glance at them every so often.
It is ok to steal glances.It can let them know that you like them.It's likely that staring for long periods of time will affect them.
Step 8: Tell your friends to play.
It could make you uncomfortable if your friends start giggling and pointing when your crush walks by.When your crush is around, ask your friends to act natural.Is it possible to stop pointing and giggling?I'm pretty sure it's making my crush feel weird as well.
Step 9: Take time to enjoy the things you love.
Make sure you are still doing things for yourself if you feel like your crush is becoming a full blown obsession.It should not be your whole world.You can stay calm and collected around your special someone if you keep a balanced outlook.Don't quit the soccer team because you want to hang out with them after school or join a club because they're a member.
Step 10: There is a smile.
Even if you feel like your insides are made of Jell-O, show those pearly whites around your crush.You will look more confident and personable.
Step 11: Don't be shy with eye contact, touch, and teasing.
You are interested and confident if you flirt with your crush.Touch them lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking.Throw in some teasing to tie it all together.Try a backhanded compliment, like, "You're pretty good at tennis...almost as good as me."Back off if your crush is upset.
Step 12: Ask them what they want to know.
Ask your crush questions to have a fun conversation.To get them talking, use open-ended questions that can't be answered with a yes or no.You will appear more confident, interesting and likeable.If you know they are on the swim team, ask, "How did your meet go last weekend?" if you like to play the guitar.You could say, "That's a really interesting bandana!"Does your necklace have a special meaning?
Step 13: Stand up straight.
Hold your head high and look straight ahead.You will look cool and confident around your crush.
Step 14: When you pass them in the halls, give them a casual hello.
You will look relaxed.You will get your crush's attention.If there is time, you can have a conversation.